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Engagement rings
jhocking:
If you refer back to my first post, this is a similar situation:
--- Quote from: jhocking on 22 Dec 2007, 08:02 ---To people who are saying "if she loves you she won't care how big the diamond is," what you have to realize is that she'll say yes regardless, but she might feel disappointment, and if YOU love her then you will want to make her happy.
--- End quote ---
Basically, this applies to anything where you are thinking the ring itself isn't too important and it doesn't matter if it's the ring she wants. Ultimately, sure she'll appreciate the gesture and then you two are hitched. However, she'll feel a certain disappointment with the ring, and really you want it to be something she is proud to wear at all times.
It's kind of like how only a really shallow person would leave you because you got her a bad birthday gift, but neither will she be happy about it, only in this case the stakes are higher.
ADDITION: Here, if that example still doesn't make sense to you, try turning it around. Would you be disappointed in her if she showed up late and wearing slovenly clothes to your graduation? Why is that? The reasoning is similar.
jhocking:
Not necessarily. What I'm saying applies to most women/relationships generally, but may or may not be true for his specific case. However, even if she says she doesn't care about an engagement ring, if you aren't absolutely 100% certain that she doesn't want you to blow money on an engagement ring, then better play it safe.
Ozymandias:
Diamonds.
Suck.
Period.
jodizzle:
Diamonds are spakly, and I liek shiney things. So diamonds are win.
I don't like gold though, I just...dont. I prefer silver, or white gold! Also I want a shiney ring when I get engaged, because it's the kind of thing a girl should get to feel all special! you know, something to mark the occasion.
bainidhe_dub:
re joe's pronouncement about yellow gold: feel her out on what she likes. just because something is pretty doesn't mean it would fit her style or that she'd feel comfortable wearing it. i've been looking at rings lately and there is some stuff out there that i find godawful ugly, specific things that my boy would probably never guess. and things that are pretty but that i would still never want to wear.
on engagement rings as an idea, i am in favor because they are an official, recognized symbol of your commitment to one another. giving her a ring will make that step from being basically engaged to something that people will take seriously, which personally is important, especially when "people" includes your families. i don't think that just because they are a symbol means that people should reject them for being too traditional or for giving in to people's expectations. i mean, people can live together as if they're married but when they actually do get married it changes how they are viewed, even though nothing really needs to change in how they live their day-to-day lives.. i think the same holds true for getting engaged.
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