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Caiphana:

--- Quote from: Ally on 27 Dec 2007, 09:56 ---Is this bad etiquette? I feel like it is (as you can probably tell). I don't really care, but it seems rude that they didn't at least choose a charity that I care about.

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Yes. It is bad etiquette. Here's why - donations to charities are tax deductible. It's pretty common for people to do things in December that are write-off able (though that may not have been their goal). It would have been completely okay if you had mentioned a charity that you cared about and they made a donation to that charity. I've even heard of people having several different charities and having giftees choose the charity they wanted their gift to go to.

Also, sometimes people will lie and say they donated to a charity for you, even though they really didn't. Not saying that's what they did, but... *shrugs* Or they'll donate twenty bucks and tell everyone that they donated twenty bucks in their name. Not to mention the fact that you're supposed to give gifts that the receiver would want/appreciate, not what you want.

I personally would have just preferred a card with a hand-written note.

Ladybug:
Giving donations for charities as gifts isn't really something I've thought about, but it has become increasingly popular here to give away goats, chickens, grandmas and stuff, meaning you "buy" one of those things (there are a bunch of other options), and then the person gets a card saying that a goat/chicken/grandma/latrine/whatever has been donated as their gift or something (some charities give away the actual thing you buy, others use it as a "symbol" for giving money or whatever). It seems to me like there are way more people giving these things away than actually saying they want them. It's sorta like "I couldn't think of anything to give you because you already have everything, so here's a goat." I wouldn't mind buying something like this to someone I knew wanted it or knew was into that kind of stuff, but otherwise, I'd be skeptical. Because I know I'd think it was kinda blah, even though it's probably "wrong" of me to feel that way - but I know I'm not the only one.

Christmas happens once a year, I'm a student living off of a student loan, there are things I want and need that I cannot afford, and getting nice things, even though not everyone buys stuff I need, once a year is nice (well, twice including my birthday, but I don't get a lot of gifts then). I'm already planning on donating to certain charities whenever I get a steady income, and I sometimes donate to charities now (although minimal amounts), and I kinda like deciding who to donate to and not.

I guess I feel like it was a bad move, yes.

Ally:
Okay, I'm glad that I'm not being a spoiled brat. I haven't talked to my brother about it. pen, we still give gifts because we like to pretend that nothing is wrong.

On the upside, I did spend my Christmas serving lunch to people who had nowhere to go, which was cool. An old guy told me that he hoped that I would get married and stay married for a long, long time.

ampersandwitch:
Does that count as a part of the holiday haul?

0bsessions:

--- Quote from: Ally on 27 Dec 2007, 12:12 ---we still give gifts because we like to pretend that nothing is wrong.

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A true New England family.

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