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E. Spaceman:
--- Quote ---He said that it is his house, and that he was brought up in a family where the father chose what to watch.
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This is the bit that makes me angry, for reasons related to. That he lived in an antiquated and sexist household is not a valid reason, hell, it even makes it more of a reason to not be a dick. As for the "it's mine because i pay for it mentality", that only really works if your children are sheep.
StaedlerMars:
To answer the original question: My parents and I pretty much treat each other as equals, as far as the they support my living things lets it.
My dad is pretty tech savvy, so Obsessions' point doesn't really apply. I don't see many differences between how they were 30 years ago and how I am now. I think they see this too.
How do I get along with other people their age? It gets easier and easier. Two-three years ago it was mostly awkwardness, but now.. meh.
But when I'm staying at their's (when I'm not at uni) I respect that I'm staying at their house, and while I might disagree with some of the things they do, they're a) my parents and b) it's their home with their rules. Barmymoo it's really a problem your mom and her partner need to sort out between each other. You can tell them how you feel, but in the end it's their decision. Realize you're living at their expense, even if you help out around the house.
The 'it's my house' thing is rude to point out, but he shouldn't have to. It is his house. When I go stay at a christian household and they say grace I don't tell them that I disagree with their believes and refuse to look down and fold my hands (this was the first thing I could come up with). It's common courtesy.
A Wet Helmet:
--- Quote from: 0bsessions on 09 Mar 2008, 11:33 ---You are noting that his mom agreed, correct?
I'm sorry, but his dad was being a tit if that story's to be believed. If both his partner and her son, who is easily old enough to input a valid opinion I add, feel he is committing a faux pas, he should respect the wishes of the majority. The "my house" thing in particular is just horribly dismissive and incredibly overbearing a response.
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So are you being deliberately obtuse or did you really miss the pains I took in my post to point out that I did not condone the behavior of the 'adult'? I specifically address the belief of a minor child that he is an equal in the house and has some sort of veto authority. Any child who is raised in such a household is being done a tremendous disservice and is being ill prepared for the really real world in which most of us eventually find ourselves.
Storm Rider:
--- Quote from: tommydski on 09 Mar 2008, 12:50 ---I have a house and what could be called a career. I'm fucking ancient and rapidly deteriorating so I feel like I desperately need to lie to the Internet.
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IronOxide:
--- Quote from: A Wet Helmet on 09 Mar 2008, 13:12 ---
--- Quote from: 0bsessions on 09 Mar 2008, 11:33 ---You are noting that his mom agreed, correct?
I'm sorry, but his dad was being a tit if that story's to be believed. If both his partner and her son, who is easily old enough to input a valid opinion I add, feel he is committing a faux pas, he should respect the wishes of the majority. The "my house" thing in particular is just horribly dismissive and incredibly overbearing a response.
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So are you being deliberately obtuse or did you really miss the pains I took in my post to point out that I did not condone the behavior of the 'adult'? I specifically address the belief of a minor child that he is an equal in the house and has some sort of veto authority. Any child who is raised in such a household is being done a tremendous disservice and is being ill prepared for the really real world in which most of us eventually find ourselves.
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I think his point was that his wife disagreed, which makes it at least 1 to 1, and if the child counts even the slightest amount of a person, his vote would tilt it in the favor of the wife, unless the wife is less of a vote than the husband. The problem is that he's denying the wishes of both his partner and his child because it is "his house". Which is an inequality in all of the relationships, especially in the husband-wife department.
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