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Get off my lawn!
0bsessions:
It could be worse, I went to school for Secondary Education for a couple semesters...
Lines:
Are your stories funny and can we have cookies?
Boro_Bandito:
I would much rather listen to your stories than feel the awkward tension that appears every time I'm in my Broadcasting and Film writing class whenever the teacher stops talking mid sentence and leaves the room for fifteen minutes.
Scandanavian War Machine:
my parents smoke pot to feel normal after a stressful day; i smoke pot to get stoned and listen to Holy Fuck.
also, they drink more expensive beer than i do.
a pack of wolves:
--- Quote from: Switchblade on 10 Mar 2008, 02:24 ---Even if that's the case (which I doubt), I suspect that it will change with time. The imperative to breed is one of the most deeply-rooted drives in the human subconscious - most people listen to it eventually. Maybe you don't, which is fair enough... but I'd wager that you'll change your mind eventually.
I sure as hell want to be a Daddy. It's something I've always wanted to do, since I became old enough to get my head around the concept. BUT, I'm going to follow my parent's example and not do it until I'm ready - stable career, married for at least a year or two, all that lot. All of which means that there's at least another five years between me and parenthood at the moment.
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I don't think the desire for children is just about an evolved psychological imperative. I think culture also has a lot to do with it, and that there is a message in ours that having children at some point is a necessity to be happy and that you're actually a bit weird if you don't. Personally I disagree. I'm sure it is for some people just as it's necessary for me to make art of one kind or another for me to be happy, but there are a lot of people who can be perfectly happy with their lives without that. I have a lot of friends in their thirties but only one of the ones who don't already have children have any desire to have them. So don't be so sure that people who say they don't want kids in their twenties will change their minds, plenty don't.
Perhaps one reason I don't want kids is related to what you say about the stage in your life where you want to have them. It's a sensible route to take but also not one I plan on going down. I don't have an interest in getting a stable career and I'm averse to getting married (a steady partner yes, but not marriage). Rather than wanting more stability and clear direction in my life as I've got older I've come to want less. I like the fact that I have no idea what I'll be doing or where I'll be living two years from now. The teenage me would be quite surprised that I don't have a settled career by this point, but I came to realise that many things I was taught to believe I should want were not at all what I really desired out of life, such as a nice house and car, good career, marriage and children.
None of this is to suggest that you yourself or anyone else only wants kids or a career or whatever because of societal conditioning. But I think it is the reason people are so sure that others either secretly want them too or will come to in time.
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