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In two weeks I'll be homeless it looks like.
Caleb:
That's a situation I can relate to. But please note that during that time I was 24 year old male and I was pretty desperate.
In 2003 I got fed up with my situation living with my parents. I couldn't get a job because nobody would hire a person with education. All the jobs around went to people who had kids who wouldn't be moving any time soon.l I had to lie on my resume to get a job later on in the same area. I got fed up because my parents seemed to think I was lazy even though I was busting my ass trying to get a job.
I ended up going back to my college town and living in my car for a week. I parked in a public parking space after making sure that the local police didn't ticket cars parked there overnight. I slept in the trunk of the car with the back seat open so I could kind of strech out. I ended up living with a friend for about another week while I looked for a job. I went to the Workplace employment office and the local public library so I could use Internet access and the fax.
I was in a bad situation. But I did have a bit of money saved up. So at least I could buy food and stuff. And I had somewhat of a plan. AND I had a cell phone! Which is HUGE. You NEED a phone to get a job.
I ended up getting a marketting job for $10 an hour. Hawking home improvements wasn't all that fun but it was money. I ended up living with my brother after that and I had to pay rent.
After that I went to grad school and to save money I went back to lived with my parents AGAIN.
Now I have my apartment and job and everything is pretty much OK.
Situations like that suck. When you are in a rural area the jobs you can get are basically based on who you know.
Sometimes you have to deal with the situation as is and make the best of it.
But sometimes you have to make a dramatic change to get stuff rolling. It did work for me. But I DID have to go back to my parents for a bit while I lined up my current job. So don't burn any bridges.
Never go anywhere without alittle money though. And I knew that I would be near Rochester and I would stand a good chance of getting employeed somewhere.
This kind of thing happens alot. My parents just didn't seem to understand why nobody in our rural area would hire me. And due to the economy today I am sure that this sort of thing will happen more and more. You are not the only person this has happened to. Try to stay strong and keep on striving for better days.
jhocking:
Not to put too fine a point on it, but running away from home with no money and no plan is how prostitutes often get their start. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you need to be realistic here.
As for what I think you should do, refer to Linds' post.
--- Quote from: ephemere on 14 Apr 2008, 06:07 ---it is really, really hard to get a job if you don't have a permanent address or phone number you can be contacted at.
--- End quote ---
This is what cell phones and post office boxes are for. I speak from experience. Still requires money though, and coreh is contemplating running away from home without any of that either.
ADDITION: I just realized it kinda sounds like I'm suggesting becoming a prostitute. I am not suggesting that at all; I'm saying prostitution is the unpleasant but frequent outcome of the situation you are contemplating.
Also, in case you did not know this or do not remember, a couple years ago I was homeless and jobless for a brief period (about two months) following grad school. I absolutely refused to move back in with my mom, so I spent that time crashing on friends' couches. This might make you think I am being a hypocrite by denouncing your decision, but while I didn't have a home or job, I did have a bunch of money saved up. This made a huge difference; for starters, it's basically impossible to get an apartment unless you have a pile of money up-front for the security deposit.
Note that Linds' plan outline, which I agree with, does involve moving out eventually, but only after you've saved up a bunch of money first.
Jimmy the Squid:
Don't worry Joe, I covered the joys of being a rent boy in our Gabbly conversation.
benji:
I once moved across country with no job lined up, but I had a place to stay when I got there and a plan for moving in to a permanent living situation within a few weeks. Still, being unemployed and in a temporary living situation can be really stressful.
If you really need to do this, what you need to do first is call the people who will let you crash/move in and ask flat out. Offer to pay rent. I know you don't have any money right now, but making a rent agreement or offering to help out with the money will reduce the strain on your friendship because it will mean that you're not just living off of hospitality; you're actually helping out. If you really don't have the cash to do that, think of things you can offer in trade. Usually, services are the best in that situation, but you've actually got to do it. If you say "In exchange for letting me crash on your couch, I will cook dinner 5 nights a week, walk your dog, and renegotiate for sharing rent the second I get a job," you better be prepared to do all of those things.
Evander:
Also, consider how reliable a particular friend is before assuming you will be crashingon their couch. I have some friends whom, if they offered me their couch, that is as good as a legal contract. I have others who, while good friends for other reasons, simply aren't reliable enough to depend on.
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