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In two weeks I'll be homeless it looks like.

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a pack of wolves:
Yeah, it doesn't seem too helpful. Also, although therapists like the kind RedLion describes probably do exist nobody I know has ever come across one. And frankly, they sound terrible. If a therapist is acting like your friend then why not talk to a friend instead (there's actually a fair bit of evidence that this is as good as if not better than psychoanalytic therapy)? I definitely wouldn't want one who'd intervene in my private life to the extent of making people come to session, or take me out for food and act like we were mates. The person described there is acting more like a support worker, which can be great but it's not the same thing as therapy.

StaedlerMars:
How far will a tank of gas bring you?

http://freegan.info/

If a full tank of gas can get you to a big city. (I mean New York City Big)

onewheelwizzard:
RedLion, telling Cory to go to a therapist before taking it upon himself to change his life basically sounds to me like saying "It seems like you've proven that you're incapable of taking charge of your life and changing it better, so you should get someone to do that for you" ... when the entire thread started with Cory explaining HOW he planned on taking charge of his life and changing it for the better, namely by escaping his shitty life situation by any means necessary.

I know therapy can help a lot.  But improving quality of life means improving external factors as well as internal attitudes, and it sounds to me like a lot of the external factors that Cory is facing are working too closely in tandem for them to be eliminated one at a time.  Getting a job isn't going to help if he still doesn't have friends.  Patching things up with his parents and creating a more tolerable family life isn't going to do a whole lot if he's still uncomfortable talking to them about his problems.  A therapist can help with these things, one at a time or sometimes (if they're REALLY good) all at once, but at the end of the day it's just a stopgap solution.  The entire problem with Cory's quality of life right now (as far as I can see) is that there simply isn't anything engaging and pleasing and interesting around him.  He could work to pass time and make money but he'd probably hate the job because it was still a stupid drone task in the same old fucking town.  He could start going out with new people and hanging out and having a social life but he'd probably feel supremely unfulfilled because it would only be because there was nothing better to do, and it wouldn't make coming back home any easier in any case.  He could patch things up with his parents but that wouldn't make his town any more fun.

No, I really think travel is a good idea.  It's empowering (which is like therapy in and of itself) and it basically erases almost all the external factors bringing Cory down in one fell swoop (especially if he travels to a place where there is already a living arrangement and employment or quasi-employment set up, like on a WWOOF farm ... you'll need to contact them in advance so it's not an immediate fix but it's definitely not out of the question).  It's definitely not guaranteed to be a cure-all, but it'll address more of the problems facing him at once than any other option.

I wouldn't actively recommend living a homeless/traveling lifestyle if I didn't know so many people who have done it or are doing it so successfully.  Even then I'm wary of that sort of thing.  But it's a much more viable option than most people tend to think, as long as you have an idea of how to do it.

benji:
I've known people who have done WWOOF before, and they've said it was a great experience for the most part. From what I hear, they work you hard. Probably harder then you've worked in a long time. But in the end it's a great experience.

jhocking:
hm now there's a problem, the whole matter of the experience ending. I mean, if you're working hard all the time on a farm, that means you're gonna be right back at square one when you are gonna leave.

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