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Eris:
After reading an old thread about this topic, and having some conversations about it on gabbly, I thought it would be interesting to see what other people thought about the topic of self image, or body image. The other thread was about negative self image, but I was wondering what people thought about themselves (or for people who posted in the original thread, have your opinions about yourself changed over the years?)

I have generally had a positive image of myself. My parents always told me I was "the right size for me", and that has stuck with me over the years. It especially helps when people think (or just assume) I am anorexic. Generally I am happy with what I got; I could have gotten my grandfather's cauliflower ears, my Dad's nose, red hair (from either side of my family) and a less handy metabolism. But I didn't, and for that I am glad. I could have been an ugly person if luck wasn't on my side.

That being said, on bad days I hate everything about myself. I am short, have sticky-out ears, have dodgy eyes, dodgy lungs, a dodgy back, am a klutz and always seem to say the wrong thing. There are people out there who are prettier, funnier and more interesting than I am, so I should just hide in my room and no one will really notice.

I guess that means that some things haven't changed from when I posted a reply two years ago about this topic. I am still denying that I am pretty, but I guess now I have someone who likes to remind me that I am being silly and that I am gorgeous. This helps; maybe one day I will really believe it without having to be reminded!

So yeah, do you have a good self image? Do you think you are going to break mirrors if you look in them? Are there bits of yourself that you do not like, but really aren't that noticeable? Anything you like about yourself?

jodizzle:
I have always been that weird kind of nerdy looking girl!  And I used to be full of horrible horrible self loathing.

But you know, once a boy actually shows some form of actual interest in you it helps alot!  now I have a way better body image than I used to, and loxley can tell me my butt is big all he likes, I'm still not going to do anything about it!  I wish I had bigger boobs, but other than that, I get along ok with what I've got!

Tom:
I have realistic image of myself, I'm fat. I always have been and still am. I used to get bullied for it and some of the more childish people I still know poke me for it. Sure I've lost weight and I know alot of other people who are far fatter than I but I'm still fat. Thunder thieghs, flabby arse, flab abs and a gut. It shows in my face as well.

Lunchbox:
See this is one of the things that I really love and hate to talk about.

As I said in the old thread, growing up I was the Ugly One, and because of that I am incredibly socially awkward and have a tough time believing that people actually like me and possibly find me attractive and aren't just paying me attention so that they can pick on me, or that they aren't staring at me because I'm hideous.

Over the years my use of the Internet and making online friends has straightened me out a little bit, but I'm still sort of distrustful of Internet People's opinions of my appearance because the nature of the Internet means I only have to show them pictures of me where I'm looking good.

Lately, however, I seem to be really blossoming (for lack of a better word). After my Flickr group's recommendations, I have taken up amateur modeling, and the other day I even spent a couple of hours talking to A Very Cute Boy At A Party without feeling self-conscious!



Oh, and before anyone else gets in:



I think this is a really very nice picture of me at highschool (my skin was skin-coloured rather than red, my hair wasn't hacked off to two inches, my eyebrows seem to have been plucked), I was supremely happy when I got the photos in. (I can't show you any of the others because they are actually all destroyed, except for a very very small one in a frame at my Grandmother's house.) However when I scanned the picture to show to one of my Internet Boyfriends at the time, he basically told me I was hideous and didn't speak to me ever again.

I still think it's a nice picture.

ailsa:
I have pretty much always had an incredibly negative self image, sometimes to an extreme extent.
However, a few weeks ago I performed semi-naked in a Pagan fire festival in front of 8000 people. That was really, really liberating, and has made me an awful lot more comfortable with my body. It was a really good experience. There are even photos of it on the internet and I don't want to cry myself to sleep over them.

But I think so many people are beautiful. And I wish appearance wasn't made out to be this huge deal because whoever you are, whatever you look like, someone will think you're beautiful.

...but tomorrow a guy I've been sleeping with for months is coming back from holiday and I imagine he will undo all my good work and positive mindset.

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