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Commitment
Elizzybeth:
--- Quote from: pi on 27 May 2008, 15:13 ---I don't know what I would do personally, but the point I was making was that in such a situation, you're either miserable yourself, and thereby might make your partner miserable (not to mention the issue of "settling" for someone), or you hurt your partner, and break your vows, which are supposed to mean something, I think.
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I think the key to the success of any relationship is clear, open, candid communication, particularly about emotional needs. My mother, for example, has recently confided to me that, about ten years ago, my father met another woman to whom he was very drawn. Upon realizing there was a mutual attraction, he came home to my mom and explained. It was not a sign that he loved her less or that he wanted a divorce or anything of the sort, and through their discussion, she ultimately agreed to bringing this second lady into their lives and bedroom. For whatever reason, it didn't evidently end up working out, but a decade later my parents are still together and, my mom has said, more secure in their relationship as a result of this incident.
pi:
--- Quote from: onewheelwizzard on 27 May 2008, 20:20 ---Are you guys kidding? Life is amazing, love is real, and there's no fitting way to approach the situation except celebration!
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You're pretty awesome.
Scrambled Egg Machine:
Love is no less real for being seen as fake, if you feel love according to you, then that's what it is.
pig nash:
When it comes to commitment, I've never had a problem with it. I like someone and then I only want to be with that someone until the break up comes. However, in the current relationship I am in, I feel that marriage is something I want. I don't think I could have kids outside of marriage, and I want kids, and I want those kids to grow up in the same home as both parents. I don't think that's possible without some sort of agreement between both parties before having a kid.
I agree that communication is the big issue here, and I know that Andrea feels the same way as I do on this subject, so that is part of the reason it's easy for us to commit to one another. If I do meet someone that is better than Andrea (which is possible) I doubt that I'd go through with anything. It would probably be a novelty thing, and while novelty is awesome, it wears off quickly.
jeph:
This thread gets an F.
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