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Whatever, Let's Have A Goddamn Blog Thread, But Try And Keep It Reasonable
tania:
a lot of women in abusive relationships report that the main reason they couldn't get out is because every time they tried, their husbands/boyfriends/whatever would tell them they were terrible people and make them feel guilty so they just stayed. i know applying this to your situation might be a bit of a stretch but the main point is still there i think, that if he tries to get back together with you or guilt you or make you feel like you're a really shitty person for not being with him don't listen to him! he's just going to be saying whatever it takes to get back together with you because he's a selfish jerk (he really is if he's still bugging you at this point). listen to your friends instead.
20 jazz funk greats:
joe, i don't want boy #1 punching boy #2 in the face though. he's already a bit resentful of him as is. also it's only an issue because dating anyone again after nearly three years with one person will be slightly awkward, and i might not be ready for it yet. eh. i never said it was a major issue, just something that's been on my mind lately.
brittany marie, i guess that would work for a normal person, which he is not. he would probably be all OH I LOST THE BEST THING IN MY LIFE SO I MIGHT AS WELL KILL MYSELF NOW. then what?
tania, it's actually not a huge stretch. no, it wasn't an abusive relationship while it lasted but right now i kind of feel like he's starting to become emotionally abusive, and i am not willing to put up with that. so if i ever end up back with him, feel free to remind me that it's not worth it.
it is kind of sad that i can't talk about this kind of stuff with anyone i know in real life. but thanks for the support, internet friends.
jhocking:
--- Quote from: 20 jazz funk greats on 16 Nov 2008, 16:00 ---he would probably be all OH I LOST THE BEST THING IN MY LIFE SO I MIGHT AS WELL KILL MYSELF NOW. then what?
--- End quote ---
Has he ever actually said that losing you is making him suicidal? If not, then you are making a huge leap to be worried about that.
Meanwhile, if he has said that, then note that only 1 in 10,000 people who says that actually means it. I even have a citation!
20 jazz funk greats:
yes he has, i'm not just making assumptions here.
so it's a perfectly legitimate concern.
Vendetagainst:
You're citing yourself saying you have a citation?
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