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imapiratearg:
I guess you could say that.  It's not wrong, but I don't know if it applies to all of the situations I dealt with that way.  I mean, there are things I could have done, that I probably tried, but to no avail.

Here's an example: One of my ex's, we dated for a little over a year and she broke up with me, at first I refused to believe it, tried everything to get her back and all that jazz, but in retrospect I discovered that there wasn't anything I liked about her in the first place so why was I carrying on?

I just feel I should accept everything thus far, because I've had it pretty good, but not to let myself lose sight of where I want to go an what I want to do and get lazy and let everything sort itself out.  I mean, there are things I will eventually have to directly deal with, but everything else will generally take care of itself.

That's how I deal.

(P.S. - I like discussing this stuff.)

RedLion:
Depending on what it is I'm dealing with, I try to just brush it off and move along. Of course, there's situations where that's just not a realistic coping technique. When I'm overloaded with stress, I lay down in a warm, bright area, and meditate, usually using visualization. I imagine a soft, warm light coming down onto the crown of my head and slowly spreading through the entirety of my body, leaving complete relaxation and rejuvenation in its wake. I focus on every area of the body for a certain amount of time--the head area, The shoulders/neck, where I spend a lot of time "loosening" the muscles, the arms/hands, the stomach, the thighs, legs, feet. During all this, I keep a focus on the steady in-and-out of the breath through my nostrils. This takes about half an hour, but when it's done, I feel fresh, calm, and renewed, and whatever problems or concerns I have are greatly diminished and much more manageable.

öde:
Life is more fun if you don't worry too much about things! I tend to think things through when I'm trying to get to sleep.

jhocking:
My main coping strategy is to live in the moment. I don't dwell on the past, and I don't hold grudges.

That is a nice way of saying I have a bad memory. It's a lot easier to brush off negative feelings when you can't even remember them.

jeph:
I thought this thread was going to be about playing cards. :(

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