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VonKleist:
I may be an anomaly. I read "Shadowmarch" and "Dragonbone Chair" and didn't read any further.
Zingoleb:
--- Quote from: ackblom12 on 15 Jul 2012, 16:43 ---Sex at Dawn is actually a really common book suggested to people looking into non-monogamy/polyamory/etc. I've got mixed opinions on it for that purpose, since I think that Evo-Psych is kind of a horrible basis for relationship advice.
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What would you recommend w/r/t/ books on non-monogamy? I rather loved The Ethical Slut (I loaned it out but it never was returned to me) and would like to read more.
Mostly I learn just from being in Seattle. Seriously, at least 90% of the people I know here are poly.
ackblom12:
The Ethical Slut, more specifically the 2nd edition, I personally found great, but I think it is for a slightly narrower audience than I would prefer It does go a litle more into the philisohpical side of poly and I think is a little more geared towards folks who are already mostly convinced Poly is for them and gives you more tips on how to be ethically non-monogamous, how to deal with jealousy and has a bit of the hippy dippy thought process behind why it is kind of a better option for most and also kind of delves into the spiritual aspects a bit. The main problem the book has, which was greatly reduced but still present in the 2nd edition, is the over use of the spirituality and anti-monogamy rhetoric.
I think the more universally useful book on the subject is probably Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. While the book does cover some aspects of the spirituality of polyamory that makes so many Atheist, such as myself, roll their eyes, it isn't part of the core philosophy as it is with The Ethical Slut. It goes into just how difficult it is to try and start up the levels of communication required for non-monogamous relationships, how poly got started in the US and what exactly are the social, mental and sexual benefits of going into the lifestyles. What it does best with though, is that it's very monogamous friendly and is actually written in such a way as to help those who are monogamous understand the concepts and does it in such a way that it doesn't try to invalidate either choice. It's an especially great read for those who are trying to make the shift from mono to poly/open/etc and those who are simply trying to understand the lifestyle better, whether it's because they want to stop judging their friends who are non/monogamous or just for curiosity sake.
Sex At Dawn is just... dodgy I think. Outside of it being Evo-Psych, which makes me incredibly skeptical the moment it's brought up anyways, it also has a lot of somewhat dodgy logic, science and a lot of extremely eurocentric and heteronormative problems. It's well liked by a good chunk of folks, but it's to be taken with several grains of salt.
Zingoleb:
--- Quote from: ackblom12 on 26 Aug 2012, 08:01 ---The Ethical Slut, more specifically the 2nd edition, I personally found great
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Well, I was rather already convinced that polyamory was right for me, I was just not...experienced in dealing with it. I got the second edition myself, and never read the first, and
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this bit was probably the single most useful piece out of all of it.
--- Quote from: ackblom12 on 26 Aug 2012, 08:01 ---I think the more universally useful book on the subject is probably Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.
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I do like the sound of this one a lot. I plan on getting it and reading through it and sending it to my father to see what he thinks of it (not because I think he would benefit from polyamory, but to help him understand - he seems to accept the fact I am poly, even though he doesn't seem to understand it at ALL).
Thanks!
Blyss:
Currently been reading the 'Odd Thomas' books by Dean Koontz. I didn't realize he'd gotten up to 5 of them now, and some comics thrown in to boot - but I find the character (Odd Thomas) to be a wonderfully likeable person. He feels real, and that definitely makes me like him, so yeah...
Also, looking to find a copy of 'Freakonomics'. Been wanting to read that for a while.
Hmmm - reread all of the Dresden books, because 'Ghost Story' left me wanting more, and who knows when the next one will be out.
Also, reading 1Q84, which might be the strangest book that I have enjoyed. I can't really tell you why I like it, but I absolutely do.
Oh, and somewhere in there, I finished 'Under the Dome' by Stephen King. It was fun, if not too deep.
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