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Juxtaposition:
Dear relationship thread:
During the summer, I work with the Northwest Youth Corps, building trail and doing conservation work and such. We live in tents and work 40 hours a week and live in crews of 10 people between the ages of 16 and 19 for 5 weeks. And during my last session (fall), I fell head over heels for a guy on my crew. At the same time, we got to be really good friends. It was a very happy 5 weeks. We had many adventures and it was a very happy 5 weeks. But he's not a shy person, and I'm sure that if he liked me that way he would have said something... But it's been 4 months and I can't seem to get over him. I've been tempted to tell him a billion times but I really don't want to risk a strong friendship. At the same time, I kind of feel like I'm keeping secrets from a friend by not telling him and I simply can't move on. What should I do?
Masterbainter:
how close(distance) are you from this guy?
It's alright to have crushes on people and especially at the age range you stated. It happens all the time. The only persons fault for this crush is yourself though. So take the initiative and ask him to a lunch(if he's close enough). After maybe a couple platonic dates ask him to something a little more romantic if you still haven't figured out his feelings for you. At the romantic dinner you'll figure it out.
He might be a little weirded out by your pursuit of him, but most likely he'll understand unless he's immensly immature. I'm pretty sure he'll have no problem being you friend after you pursuit. The only person ending the friendship will be yourself. If you are shut down, it will be you who decides to keep talking to him on the level that you already have. Will you?
You just never know, maybe he's in the same boat you are. Even the most outgoing people don't just ask people out they really like right away. Take the risk and find out, or you will always wonder.(heartbreak from not getting with a crush is so much easier to deal with rather than months or years of wondering.) It'll be your decision to conintue this "great friendship" afterwards.
Masterbainter:
--- Quote from: Emaline on 28 Feb 2009, 21:32 ---
But anyway....
So obviously, I need relationship help. I have tried everything. Except going out in the real world and meeting people. Firstly, I live in a small town. There are no clubs, no venues, nothing. I live a block away from main street, which has three bars, I'm only 20, so I can't go to them quite yet. I'm socially awkward. I have a hard time talking to people, I can't start conversations with people on my own, and when people talk to me, I feel like they think I'm a horribly mean person, because I am terribly sarcastic, and can be a bit defensive.
So how should I go about meeting people?
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It seems you may be struggling with not running into the same people in your immediate area that interest you. If you want to possible meet new people though, just do it! Make it a point to smile and talk to people. Some stuff below about carrying a conversation.
You can say, "Hi, how are you doing?" (it doesn't have to sound sleezy)"Hello, how is your day"...
There's some great help out there for people that struggle with the basic of real life interaction of conversations. It's really so much simpler then you think it is, which is probably exactly why you feel you can't have one.
3 easy things to remember
1) keep it simple
2) listen and respond accordingly
3) SMILE!
if your goal is to meet new people in this small town you live in, then do it. If you are looking for someone like yourself and don't think there is a reason to around your area, you will find yourself wondering, "Why can't I seem to be in a relationship".
People are so much easier than you think. Just make is a goal to test the waters, there's lots of fish to attempt at catching!
http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Great-Conversation
Edit: Add: just had to throw in there... Grocery store, on your way to work, the gas station is perfectly fine places to practice these skills and even possibly make some friends! I know small communities can seem daunting with their lack of clubs and such. Just go and do it!
valley_parade:
I love that that guy is trying to give relationship advice.
Next thread: I tell you how to become a professional golfer.
(dear Emaline,
I could go watch Watchmen with you! None of my friends ever invite me to movies. :oops: )
Masterbainter:
I love that the only thing you can post is demeaning someone trying to help.
--- Quote from: valley_parade on 01 Mar 2009, 08:46 ---(dear Emaline,
I could go watch Watchmen with you! None of my friends ever invite me to movies. :oops: )
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Gee.. I can't possibly figure out why that would be. :roll:
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