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Slick:

--- Quote from: Professor Snuggles on 04 Aug 2009, 21:58 ---Say, hey lets be friends, but you I am not looking for a relationship right now?

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After reading this sentence again this time I think I may have realized a fundamental flaw. The addition of the 'right now' lets a guy think maybe maybe later. I know I have semi-consciously 'held out for the right time' after hearing that line. So, do not say 'right now'. From personal and anecdotal experience I would conclude that it will only hurt things.

Masterbainter:

--- Quote from: Eviko on 04 Aug 2009, 22:21 ---Thanks,

Im not really worried about guys being interested in me that way.. im the girl with the "good personality and really hot friends." if you know what I mean. I attract girls much more then men, even as friends.

 Im more worried about sending off messages of being interested. I don't want to make things uncomfortable, which happens when guys try to explain they aren't into me, even though i don't feel like i ever did anything to suggest i liked them. It puts me in a bad mood, because its like an unasked for insult. most of the time i was just being friendly or polite.  or for some reason guys start to avoid me when i try and befriend them, possibly cos they think im into them and they dont want the hassle?




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If a guy tells you he isn't looking to get with you, then just respond, "neither was I but I think you're still kewl to hang with."

You may find alot of guys aren't really looking for a just a "close" friendship with a girl that doesn't involve anything more than... "like you know, talking and stuff".  There are some guys that may.   However, unless you are into the same things as these guys are, then you probably don't appeal to their sense of she could be a friend.  

Remember, not all, but very many males are competitive drivin and have... a male brain.  Unless you have the mindset of a guy, and share their hobbies and interests, don't expect to be able to make many "just friends" with them.

You will find a friend or two among the masses though, and as with myself most friendships just evolve from being myself and people either like it or don't.

Eviko:
thanks for that, it was helpful.
i know that guy friends can be awesome, i had a pretty close one a few years back.
tragically he died suddenly and i haven't been able to fill that void since.

I'll try to be a bit more clear about what my expectations are, when trying to make friends.

Masterbainter:
Sorry to hear about your friend  :| 

Hope you come across someone you can be close to in that way again!

TheFuriousWombat:
I think it's important to be aware of the fact that it's likely many guy friends you might have would probably want to sleep with you given the chance but aren't romantically interested and are completely cool with just being friends. You can't really avoid or prevent the first thing but it's also not a big deal and in 99.9% of cases not make any difference in the friendship itself.

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