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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
bbq:
--- Quote from: nobo on 28 Aug 2009, 14:24 ---Do you keep this best friend around because she's into you and it provides you the occasional ego boost knowing that you have someone to fall back on? Or did your gf give you some sort of "me or her" ultimatum?
I'm not trying to be a dick here, I'm just curious. I've seen girls string a guy along forever knowing that he's completely head over heels for her, while she dates all sorts of other dudes.
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Actually, I'm a guy. :P No, it doesn't give me an ego boost at all, pretty much the opposite. I'd never date her or see her, because I have no feelings like that for her, I keep her around because when she isn't moping or making me feel guilty she is an awesome person, and I have a very strong platonic attachment to her. I've already told her, several times, that I have no feelings for her like that, and we've tried not-being-friends for her to get over me several times, but that never works. Oh, and I'm not dating all sorts of people, this is the first 'serious' partner I've had for quite a long time.
My gf just decided it was too much, after my friend was a dick about her to me.
nobo:
Yeah, I figured you were a guy. I was just reminded of one of my buddies that is pining over a girl, and she cries on his shoulder whenever her relationships fail, and then goes after another guy shortly afterwards.
I don't think this girl is that great of a friend if her actions are sabotaging your relationships. I think you either have to cut her loose or give in. Don't really see a middle ground.
bbq:
Well, she hasn't been actively sabotaging it, as such. Just some of the things she does and says seemed to have been placing a strain on my now-ex. :|
EDIT: Also, it would be kinda difficult to cut her loose, seeing as though quite a lot of my friends who I hang out with regularly are also her friends who she hangs out with regularly, so we would still see each other a lot.
onewheelwizzard:
So ... basically, your girlfriend was afraid that your platonic friend would cause the relationship to end, so she ... ended the relationship.
Seems kinda self-defeating to me. If she's afraid of the relationship failing or ending, why is it that her reaction to that fear is to cause precisely what she's so afraid of?
jhocking:
Sometimes you'd rather just have closure than worry about what's going to happen. I have that feeling with job applications; if they're going to turn me down then I wish they'd just do it already, stretching out the worrying sucks.
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