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0bsessions:

--- Quote from: ViolentDove on 05 Mar 2009, 05:28 ---Oh yeah I meant to post in here.

What are peoples' opinions of the socially acceptable time period after breaking up with someone to start making golf-related innuendo with the opposite sex?

(The relationship was a pretty serious three and a half year one, in case there's some kind of sliding scale)

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There's no clear indicator. It's basically just whenever you feel comfortable doing as such. Certain variables to assuage one's conscience can be factored in, such as who initiated the breakup and how long the writing was on the wall (As Rachel mentioned), plus how much or little either of you cares about the other at this point. If it was dead in the water for six months as you mention, you were pretty much good to go about ten minutes after the official breakup, in terms of moral standing. As it stands, you should basically just starting talking to women whenever it is you feel like talking to women. Don't rush it, but don't put it off out of some misplaced fairness to your ex. She's your ex for a reason, no point in letting that hold you back from getting on with your life.

Barmymoo:
If you are honest with yourself and you know that you are rebounding and therefore probably being unfair to the new person it might be best to hold off. I messed up what was actually a fantastic relationship because I rushed into it for all the wrong reasons and I still regret that. On the other hand sometimes you just meet someone and it works and the fact that you only just came out of another relationship doesn't make any difference, it just works. So have a proper think and know that you are going into things for the right reasons (or at least being honest with yourself and the other person about what your reasons are).

MrBlu:

--- Quote from: Masterbainter on 05 Mar 2009, 02:02 ---Okay I'm going to be blunt here.  I'll take your opinions on my situation, althought I already know what i'll probably end up doing.

Edit:  I need to rephrase this...

Girlfriend and I mostly happy with eachother.  Girlfriend will bring up problems randomly and I'll just tell her to deal with them and she really doesn't give me any pushback on it.  I feel like an ass for doing this, and think she doesn't deserve that.  However, I'm not in the point in my life where I feel I need someone else's problems on my mind.  I'm sure eventually the relationship will fail out and whatever, but i'm tryign to decide if I should just let her go before stuff gets to serious.

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... If your girlfriend can't go to you for comfort/help, you're not serving much purpose and you're only making that relationship toxic.

Emaline:
So here is my problem:

I am hugely in crush with my best friend. And when I am high, we totally flirt. He lives forevers away right now, and comes home every now and then and we totally party it up. We've never been around each other while high, and mainly communicate via ims, which is where the flirting comes in. He is the only person I've ever felt even 99% comfortable around. He is awesome and great and I love him.

My other friend, who is also awesome and great and who I go to for advice on everything says that my life is too complicated and crappy right now to make it anymore difficult. And that I shouldn't even attempt to do anything with him.

What should I do, Internet?? What should I doooo???

Guido Sarducci:
Violent Dove:When you want to, it is appropriate. It might not be good for you but it's your life. Enjoy it.


Emaline: You're 20. Bang the drum. You'll have time to be old when you get there.

Ya'll, life is to damned short to be worrying about shit like this at your age. As far as I know, until you hit about 25 there are two simple rules:

1) use protection- A condom is best, but the pill will at least keep you from getting knocked up. AIDS doesn't quit just because you don't want to think about it.
2) don't lie about what you want.

everything else is pretty much fine as long as you aren't genuinely mentally ill. And even then the odds are that a relationship will force you out of your confort zone and help you in the long run.

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