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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
Emaline:
--- Quote from: 0bsessions on 06 Mar 2009, 06:18 ---Honestly, Emaline, I have to agree with your friends. Your posts indicate to me that your life is often melodramatic enough, making a pass at your best friend is going to make that a lot worse.
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See, one side of me is saying "he already knows about how crap your life is. He's often the first to hear about it. And your life is going to be forever crap, so you might as well have someone to play with and snuggle up to. Plus, with him being gone most of the time, it'll give you a better chance of keeping in line and not arguing with him for no reason."
But the other half of me is saying "jesus, Emaline, how can you be so dumb? He is your best friend. Anything more and you'll ruin everything. Wouldn't you rather have someone to talk to than someone to make out with? Stop thinking with your pants. You know how you are in relationships, and you'll just argue with him all the time. And why would you want to get anyone involved in your life? If you care about him so much, you won't get him involved in your crap."
So I am torn. Don't want a boyfriend, but I'd like someone to snuggle and play with, and I'd prefer that we had some sort of an emotional bond. And I know that's what he wants too(because we've talked about this). And I think it'd be great with the distance. But then I don't know. I don't want to screw him over emotionally, you know? He's my best friend, and I don't want anyone to hurt him. Especially me.
benji:
In my experience, distance doesn't reduce the number of arguments. If anything, arguments come easier.
MrBlu:
personally, I hate the prospect of getting close to a best friend. Because if something happens, God forbid, you haven't just lost your boyfriend, you've also lost your best friend. Which sucks.
And this is me who can't even speak to the girl who he liked more than anything.
Scandanavian War Machine:
--- Quote from: Guido Sarducci on 05 Mar 2009, 23:59 ---life is to damned short to be worrying about shit like this at your age.
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i never understood this sentiment. life is the single longest thing any of us will ever do.
Lise:
So guys, I have come back from my posting hiatus to offer you my problems! Hah hah
I also have self esteem issues because I will never be as sexy as this man: http://img502.imageshack.us/img502/6960/niccagebirdhair.jpg
Kidding! All jokes aside, I've been in this "relation-dateship thing" for over a year now, and I'm quite frustrated because we haven't progressed any farther than the dating stage. The guy I'm seeing is the closed off type, and since I want to respect his space and not pressure him into anything, I find it real difficult to approach him about any "issues." Issues such as the fact that I've caught him speaking to his ex, and he's openly lied about it, or whether or not we're a legitimate "couple" or just people who hook up regularly.
Hence all my insecurity and pointless jealousy and feeling like a crazyperson because I can't deal properly. Whee for internalizing negative thoughts!
I am pretty smitten with the guy, which is why it's so damn difficult to move on. I'm trying to learn from past relationships-gone-sour and be more rational about everything. I have to take into account that this guy's kidneys have failed, his dad died, and his ex dumped him right around the same time a couple of years ago. It's logical to assume that he'd have trouble opening up, right?
So guys, should I should drop him and move on or wait for him to come around? :? I am fail at relationships, either way :mrgreen:
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