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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
Eris:
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--- Quote from: Emaline on 06 Mar 2009, 19:36 --- He talks to his ex.
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this by it self should not be a criteria for "dude is an arsehole" yes the fact that he then lied about talking to her is certainly one giant step towards the title. but as far as I can tell being able to maintain a healty relationship with someone from your past should not be a punishable offense
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I have had this conversation with my mother on more than one occasion. She seems to think that once you break up with someone you should cut them out of your life completely; I seem to be of the opinion that you knew the person and were close to them, you would at least try and be friends after breaking up. Not being able to be a couple doesn't mean you can't be friends. Am I odd in thinking this? I mean, sure if the relationship ended on bad terms I can see people never wanting to talk to the other person again, but if it's just "You know what, I don't think this is working", then why shouldn't you stay in contact?
Also, I know this may not really apply to the above situation, because I don't know how they broke up and there are other issues, but the "talking to an ex=arsehole/etc" standpoint always seemed a bit strange to me
Lines:
It's one thing to talk to an ex while it's a whole other thing to talk to an ex and then lie about it. The former usually means you've both moved on and are able to be friends. The latter implies you feel guilty about it probably because one of both parties aren't over the other. Having the latter be a problem in the relationship is not fun, because it was one of several problems with my last relationship. (Except it was multiple exes and not just one.)
pulpfiction21:
talking to an ex can cause serious problems in a relationship. I look at as this: If your current Bf or Gf has a problem with you doing this, and has made it clear to you that they do not like that you talk to your ex, then you should ask yourself what is more important, talking to an ex or maintaining the happiness of your current BF/GF. If your current relationship is a serious one, you should have no problem in making that decision.
Unless your ex is from years and years ago and you are now best friends with that person. That brings about a whole different scenario.
Emaline:
Since it seems nobody really read my post, I'll repeat myself.
Talking to an ex, in and of itself, is not a bad thing.
But lying about talking to an ex is bad. Hell, if a guy lied to me in general, and was also talking to an ex, I'd be a little concerned.
But I do not put up with liars at all. If someone lies to you, how can you trust them?
Professor Snuggles:
Honestly if your significant other is so jealous that just having a conversation with an ex makes them all stressed then you should probably break up with them anyway.
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