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Allybee:
--- Quote from: tania on 13 Mar 2009, 22:52 ---to be fair, almost everyone i have met who has really clicked with me cos they are funny and cool and smart and whatever has not only been into music but also been into maybe at least 75% of the same music that i am into
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I guess this goes for me, too - most of my friends even like the same type of music as I do, and they are all open to new things (as I try to be). it just happened that way? I dunno.
Krina:
On the music issue:
This new guy I'm dating has no taste whatsoever in music. He seriously thinks that U2 is a good band. I mean come on! But he's really really nice and I am still going out with him.
I.e. I find it pretty important to be compatible in regard to taste in music etc., because I'm a huge music nerd, but what I learned from this is probably that it can work out in spite of the other person's taste? At least as long as they are willing to listen to new things and broaden their horizon. The person I was a couple of years ago probably would have dumped the guy for his taste but it occurred to me that this would be a pretty small-minded thing to do.
Allybee:
see, I basically don't date, so I feel really silly talking about this. but would any of you dump someone if they were really, hideously ugly? like, be honest with yourself. if you're just not attracted to someone, then you aren't, and that's hard to overlook. and for me, physical attraction is not totally unimportant, but there are certain other things that play into attraction. I would rather not date a guy with terrible music taste in the same way I wouldn't want to date a guy with a terrible sense of humor.
then again, I really don't date. I feel kind of shallow now.
Skibas_clavicle:
I dunno, for me, music taste is an issue. And I have a history of dating ferocious music elitists. This only causes a problem when we have different music we are snobs about, which is the case in my current predicament. Him: 80s goth, metal, freak folk (Akron/Family, old Animal Collective, etc.), 80s/90s indie pop (Beat Happening, The Vaselines, etc.) where as I am into 90s-current indie rock, rap, punk, 90s emo and hipster scum electro. This issue also makes it super difficult to pick out makeout music.
AND ALLY: I wouldn't date someone who was 'hideously ugly'. And frankly, I don't think that makes me a bad person.
0bsessions:
Ally, I wouldn't dump someone for being really, hideously ugly because I wouldn't start dating someone who was really, hideously ugly.
In terms of music, it's borderline irrelevant if you share additional common interests. If you don't share common interest in music, move onto another hobby you might share, if you don't have any other hobbies, the problem is that you are a boring person and should consider expanding your horizons. My girlfriend is really into the new Britney Spears single and I've been known to listen to my fair share of terrible music, but this is largely irrelevant because we have many other similar interests. You really only need a handful to make it work. Rachel and I listen to different music, have different taste in sports (She loves American football, I prefer baseball) and our taste in movies is on at least slightly different wavelengths (Every time we commit to watching a movie, we generally both love it, but we've spent a good hour trying to compromise what to watch), but we both like WoW and have nearly identical taste in TV and bunches of other little things.
There really should be no one definitive hobby you should let get in the way of a relationship if the other person is similarly mature enough to let you enjoy it without interfering with it. Any well rounded individual should have enough hobbies that you can fall back on a different interest.
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