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--- Quote from: Inlander on 28 Mar 2009, 08:32 ---Yes. It's called "having a friend you have a crush on".
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benji:
Just make sure you're realistic about this. Being someone's friend doesn't always develop in to the fulfillment of a crush. Though it can lead to that at times, it's best to be prepared that you might always just be friends and to get to the point where you're okay with that. Don't continue to hang out with her under false pretenses. If you're just hanging out because you hope that someday it will maybe lead to something, you're setting yourself up for disappointment, and she will be legitimately pissed. After all, she thought she had a friend and here you were just trying to get in to her pants the entire time. Also, don't let her stand in the way of developing other romantic interests. If she's made it pretty clear that she just wants to be your friend, then you not dating other people and "waiting for her" isn't romantic, it's creepy. Avoid these pitfalls and a little sexual attraction between friends can lead to a very close and affectionate friendship.
bbq:
The point being, I'm not hanging around with her under false pretenses. Even if I didn't like her like that, I'd still enjoy hanging around with her. Thanks for the post though, there's some pretty good advice in there. :-)
snalin:
Forgot to answer these:
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--- Quote from: snalin on 24 Mar 2009, 12:23 ---Any tips?
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Just that if I were to find out that someone who was pursuing me didn't bother to decide between backstabbing friends and myself, then I obviously wouldn't mean as much to that person as they thought I did. You should stand up for what you believe in.
Also, why are you hanging out with "stupid assholes?" There are more important things than having a social life, and I think it would be more emotionally healthy to spend time with people you find worthwhile rather than necessary for some reason.
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--- Quote from: Alex C on 25 Mar 2009, 23:51 ---
--- Quote from: snalin on 24 Mar 2009, 12:23 ---Any tips?
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Do any of these people know her that you're aware of or are they just really that insecure/silly? I only ask this because when in college one of the ladies I was mildly interested in basically turned out to be ridiculously conceited gossip who luckily lost a bunch of credibility as more people got to know her.
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I overdid it when I said that they were "stupid assholes". It's just more that... ah, this is a total dickish thing to say, but I feel intellectually far superior to them. They are nice people, I share some interests with them, I can joke and laugh with them, sure. But they have no clue about popular culture, they don't care about politics or anything remotely important (they can't go any further than "bombing Palestine is bad", "the children in Africa is hungry, we should totally do something"), and such thing. This girl I like, she has all that. I can have conversations with her about how a play is stupid because it was a shitty try at self-realisation and being "deep", altough they didn't do anything new. We can make fun of hipsters together. We can chat about how the right side of Norwegian politics should have fun with their urinal tubes and barbed wire, because they are going to fucking destroy our country. And so on. Her problem is that she tries to have the same conversation with my other, "dumber" friends, I don't do this. Since they can't tell the difference between being smart and faking it, they thing she is trying to be all important and grown up and better than them, when she really isn't any good at lowering herself to a simpler level of conversation. This is why thay sometimes talk shit about her.
But your advice is pretty damn good. The next time they start, I'll tell them that they are being bitches, and she is a smart girl who I think deserves better than them being bitches about what kind of person she is. Mostly because I mean it, but also because I hope that I can make them accept her. Then me trying to date her won't make me be shunned by my other friends.
Thanks, guys.
Emaline:
Hey guys, I have a friend who means a lot to me, but as nothing more than a friend. He is awesome and I love him and all that jazz, but I don't feel anything "romantic" towards him.
Soon, we will be going out on what will be a rather emotional adventure for me. He is going to be there for support, hugs, and advice. Now, since I'm gonna be all stressed out and a nervous wreck, I'd like to wear this one outfit that is fairly revealing, but consists of three layers, so it makes me feel super safe. But because it is pretty low cut, and honestly kinda slutty, I am pretty sure he'll think I am trying to hit on him. My other option is to wear this shirt that I got recently that I look like a boy in(since I got it in the boy's section and all) that I really like, that he would awesome think is pretty neat(its got some of our favorite things on it), but doesn't work as armor against stressful things. But he wouldn't think I was hitting on him. The break down of the shirts is like this:
Slutty shirt:
-5 stress
+1 confusion(in allies)
+3 anger(in allies)
+3 attraction(in creepers)
The boy shirt:
-3 attraction
-2 confidence
-3 warmth
What should I wear?
(Note: this post is only half serious. The rest is just kinda silly.)
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