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Some people confuse being a feminism with egalitarianism. Just sayin'.

Also, maybe the guy is taking the class with hopes it will help him understand women. Feel free to assist him with extracurricular studies.

Emaline:
Also,


(Oh man. Somebody answer my questions. I have one friend telling me that I would NOT be an ass for screwing around with the first guy, and one friend telling me I am completely stupid for wanting to start things up with the other guy.)

benji:
Emaline, I think you're fine in either case so long as you're honest with the people involved and are sure they're capable of being honest with you and with themselves.

If the first guy (as you maybe imply) is not capable of being in a relationship that's just for fun and doesn't mean anything, then you probably shouldn't enter in to a relationship with him. It won't feel good for long if you're just playing around and he thinks you're a serious prospect.

If the second guy is someone who you've comfortably had a relationship of this type with in the past, there's no reason to believe you won't be able to handle it this time.

However, you should be honest with yourself too. You seem to be in a rough spot right now and sex, even casual sex, can have complicated emotions involved. It might be best just to not enter in to a sexual relationship with anyone for a little while and see if you can get to a stable, happy place for yourself first. It's up to you to decide what you can handle, but if a little physical comfort isn't worth the additional emotional stress, please admit that to yourself.

Yunior:
I found out he is a Gender Studies and Performance Studies major.

Is he gay? Is he for real? Am I in love? What is happening?

Emaline:
The last two times I've had sex, its been with someone I didn't like at all. With both of these guys, I have a small amount of emotional investment. They first guy is definitely someone who I would consider my friend. We are emotionally involved with each others lives. I talked to him shortly after my first therapy session, and he was basically there for part of the backlash(therapy is stupid and dumb and terrible and I hate it and it makes me act like a child. I came home and I threw shit. I threw a newspaper at the wall, and my wallet at a mirror. I don't typically act like this.) He is a witness to my bad behavior and how I am emotionally, and he deals with it well. He also has a lot more emotionally invested in me than I do in him. I feel like, even if I am completely honest with him, he is still going to get hurt.


As for the second guy, well, I am pretty sure I don't mean much more to him than a fuck buddy. I used to worry that he was too emotionally attached because he is quite a snuggler, and man, every person that I've just casually hooked up with was not into snuggles at all, and this dude is hardcore into them. But I honestly don't think he has any emotional attachment to me. I don't think hanging out with some dude, and banging occasionally will be a bad thing at all.

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