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benji:

--- Quote from: Caleb on 02 Mar 2009, 10:00 ---- Don't date the first person who attaches themselves to you.  Consider the situation first.  Don't be a substitute significant other.

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On college dating, in my experience, about half of all college students experience some variation on the following Freshman year:

- Show up completely in love with your SO from high school. Clearly, S/he is the best person in the world and you will spend the rest of your lives together.

- Break up over Thanksgiving break.

- get in to a short but passionate relationship with someone at school (probably from your dorm or a neighboring dorm).

- Break up 2 weeks later (sometimes, this relationship will last into winter break. This is a great way to add some drama for an extra zesty kick).

- Get back with your original SO during winter break.

- Get back to school and realize that you have nothing in common with your high school SO.

- Call your high school SO and announce that, instead of going home over Spring Break, you've decided to go to Florida/Go camping/Go on a service project with some friends from school.
 
- Start only dating college students.

If you find yourself in this kind of relationship, don't fear it. It's part of the process of letting go of your high school life.

20 jazz funk greats:

--- Quote from: StaedlerMars on 01 Mar 2009, 13:01 ---
--- Quote from: nobo on 01 Mar 2009, 12:45 ---The friends you make in college will be the friends you will stick with the rest of your life... they'll be at your wedding, at your funeral, and everything in between.

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I'm going to go even further and say, the people that you meet in the first week of college (fresher's week or whatever) are most likely the people that you will be spending the most time with throughout your college career. First week is really important for socializing. It's when people meet other people, and you should really make an effort to get out and make friends. They'll be doing the same thing so it's okay.

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first week is important and all but...the whole meeting uber awesome people you'll hit it off with right away thing? no. no. god no. i was making an effort to be friendly and mingle during my first week. i hung out with a group of girls that i wouldn't have bothered talking to in high school for the sake of being open minded and because i was all lost and didn't know anyone at my new university and being with them was less scary than being on my own.

and no i am not whining and hating fun. basically it's the friend version of "don't date the first person that attaches themselves to you".  don't be friends with people just because you live on the same floor of the same residence if you have nothing else in common whatsoever. go out and try to meet people that you will actually enjoy spending time with instead.  i did the whole greek thing, and although i didn't end up joining a sorority in the end, it was good times.  i also signed up for volleyball which could have been good times in theory but eventually i just ended up missing practice too often because time management is not my forte.

Noff:

--- Quote from: Animal Ghosts on 01 Mar 2009, 13:50 ---
Don't try and reinvent yourself in college.


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And why not?  I changed a lot from my first to last year of college, because I became more open to the idea of trying new things instead of just fitting into whatever nerd stereotype applied to me in high school.  My only regret was that I didn't have this attitude sooner.

october1983:
He's not saying people should resist change at all costs, just don't be that guy who tries to reinvent themselves. The one who shows up at university with this new 'persona' he's decided is the new him, which is just obviously fake and fucking irritating.

Liz:
I sort of did that, but when I started college I pretty much became the person I was supposed to be, if that makes sense. High school was the shittiest time of my life and I spent most of it by myself and quite introverted. So when I started college I didn't have to care about what a certain group of people thought, and I got to become myself. If that makes sense.

Also I started going by Liz instead of Beth. That helped too I think.

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