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benji:
Rooming with close friends can be great, but you've got to remember that you're not necessarily going to be any more compatible just because your friends. The real trick is knowing how to prevent the wars. Which really isn't all that hard, but it's a skill like any other. The biggest thing is to resolve issues before they start. Know how clean the common areas need to be for everyone living there, when its acceptable to play music loudly, what is and isn't common property, who's going to do which chores, and most importantly, how you are going to resolve disputes that do arise.  If you figure that out ahead of time, it's really not that difficult to live with someone. Also, be honest about it. If you hate cleaning, don't move in with someone who can't stand a mess, even if you are best friends. If you absolutely need to listen to heavy metal music through your favorite speakers at midnight, don't room with someone who likes to go to bed early.

I'm in my fourth year of living with the same 3 guys and I had roomed with two of them during college as well. Granted we are very compatible people in a number of ways, but I can count on one hand the number of times we've raised our voices to each other, much less gotten in to any sort of war.

tania:
if you want to fall out with someone the best way to do it is to room with them. there are exceptions of course, but for the most part keep in mind it's going to result in you spending a LOT of time together and finding out absolutely everything about each other including terrible things they have done and excruciatingly annoying habits. i have had this experience a couple of times as well, it is not fun.
as a general rule, i would say it's best to start by rooming with an acquaintence(s) who you know is responsible and easy to get along with over your best friend, but if you are confident the latter will work out then make sure you spend enough time apart so that you don't get completely sick of each other, and DISCUSS EVERYTHING because even the slightest unresolved disagreement or hint of passive aggressiveness will snowball and get worse over time.

sean:
i'll keep that in mind. thanks benji and tania.

Liz:
I guess I have just been really lucky then. I am rooming with my best friend that I've met during my college years and it is fabulous.  We were really good friends before we got an apartment together and after nearly a year in a pretty small place, we are better friends than ever.

I guess I am doing it right?

tweetles:
Avoid if you can being the sole person on a lease or tied to bills. Get everyones names on it. It doesnt always happen but people can screw you over horribly. If for whatever reason bills cant get paid if its all under your name you get stuck with it.

Also if your having trouble with anything like paying bills or even getting assignments in on time talk to the relevant people as soon as possible. Generally people are happy to help you out.

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