Comic Discussion > QUESTIONABLE CONTENT
Weekly comic thread, March 29 - April 2 2010
tinkerbell:
--- Quote from: RightSaidJames on 29 Mar 2010, 16:38 ---
--- Quote from: ThunderPower on 29 Mar 2010, 07:09 ---I have to say, this comic hit me hard. I've heard that term so many times - "You're so great, you're amazing, but we're just friends". It will frustrate and sadden you to no end when you finally come to terms that they've either lied and aren't interested in you, or are afraid of ruining a good friendship. It's a total downer.
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Both of your proposed realities behind "We're just good friends" are, for the most part, absolute bullshit. Let's deal with them in turn:
1) In what way does that phrase suggest any kind of romantic interest? You can think that someone is amazing or great without having any romantic feelings for them whatsoever. My closest female friend is both of these things and more, I love her to bits, but in no way do I want a romantic relationship and/or sex with her; our relationship just doesn't have that dynamic. The fact that we're both in happy relationships is a moot point, as far as I'm concerned.
2) Suggesting that you've been rejected purely out of fear of ruining a friendship is an oversimplification. It's a matter of benefit vs. risk. If you don't have any strong romantic feelings for one of your friends, then you may think that the friendship is too precious for an unlikely chance of relationship success. Conversely, if you go on a date with a stranger and aren't that keen on them, you have little to lose by giving it a try, because there's no friendship at stake. Obviously, the best option is that you know them well enough as a person and that you have romantic feelings for them.
I can't stand the notion that a relationship is the ultimate form of friendship. Unless there's mutual attraction, it's going to be a pretty crappy relationship no matter how good the friendship is.
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The only way I can glean any sense out of it is if "lied" is used in a very liberal context to mean that one party lied to the other with body language or talk that could be interpreted as flirting. Otherwise no one ever rejects anyone simply because they are genuinely not interested, and THAT WOULD BE A WORLD GONE TOPSY TURVY.
xxxHan-Ahxxx:
awww.. i really liked marigold and angus to be together. but yea, marigold just started crushing on him, ever since he called her cute. angus and faye are a lot a like. but angus is one of those "nice guys". so i still prefer him to be with marigold. i hope jeff does something to help them be together, or at least have something really good happen. faye, i still liked her with sven. like i know he did a bad thing to faye, but its also faye's fault for not being committed, when sven actually wanted to be with her. i miss sven, haven't seen him in awhile =(
RightSaidJames:
--- Quote from: tinkerbell on 29 Mar 2010, 16:55 ---The only way I can glean any sense out of it is if "lied" is used in a very liberal context to mean that one party lied to the other with body language or talk that could be interpreted as flirting. Otherwise no one ever rejects anyone simply because they are genuinely not interested, and THAT WOULD BE A WORLD GONE TOPSY TURVY.
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Yeah, either that or the other party misinterpreted completely innocent gestures, or else ridiculously overanalysed the small things at the expense of the big picture. Or perhaps a combination of the two. Sometimes people not used to certain types of friendliness/banter (e.g. expressing extreme interest, playful teasing) can misinterpret someone's personality as being flirty when it's just how they are.
Malek:
God damn it. Not the way I wanted this to go. :-(
Border Reiver:
No, but it was the expected outcome.
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