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So, I love music, and criminally, I've never been to a live show of anyone I'd pay money for. I would love nothing more than to go to one and I have had a few opportunities. I regularly check the schedules of a few venues nearby and I've gotten pretty excited about them... but there's a catch (maybe). NO ONE I know likes the same music as me. I like a lot of what's generally considered 'indie,' but despite being in college for some time now, I have literally never met anyone who professed to have similar interests. My roommates are into music like Bone Thugs and Shwayze and Ludacris, and all my friends are generally similar. There's nothing wrong with that, to each his own. It's just not my favorite thing. I tried to get some people interested in a show I wanted to see once, but they were less than enthused and I ultimately ditched it. I'm getting tired of listening to music on my headphones; when I first moved I played my music on the speakers a lot - much to the displeasure of my roommates - so I eventually just gave up.

So at the risk of sounding like a self-pitying wuss, what do I do? Should I go to these shows alone, could that be fun, is that possible, or would that be the most pathetic thing in the world? Am I loser, or maybe, do I need to find new and better friends? Maybe some who like good music? I feel like my interest in music has been put in this tiny, compartmentalized part of my life, and I've always felt that it was more important than that. I used to talk about music all the time, to anyone who would listen, even though no one I knew really cared about music much at all. Now, I just don't see the point. The blank stares and indifferent responses got to me I guess.

So does anyone have any advice? Even if that advice is "Stop crying, go outside and meet people you loser," I'll try to take it to heart.

Damnable Fiend:
I don't think there's anything wrong with going to shows alone.  Go, and make some new friends while you're there.

Koremora:
^ This, a thousand times fucking this, forever.

Melodic:
There was a really great conversation in the Relationship thread awhile ago about bringing books to shows -- so when nobody wanted to see You Say Party! We Say Die! with me, I took a notebook and Slaughterhouse-Five with me instead of my buddies. That night, I

a) made friends with an opening act that had to ask why I was reading during part of his set
b) made friends with a local radio DJ after a long discussion about Vonnegut
c) made friends with two ladies who wanted to know what I was writing about, who then introduced me to their lesbian virtuoso sister
d) broke a story via Twitter before anyone else and supplemented a journalist (who I also met there) with details since I'd written everything down.

ALoveSupreme:
Yeah when I first went to college I didn't even really have friends so I just started looking for fliers and (this was roughly 6 years ago, my details are hazy) figured out where cool shows were happening and just went.  Somehow I managed to meet, like, three people and have actual conversations on my first night out. One person I met turned out to be one of my best friends and still is.  He also happened to become a very credible venue promoter in the area and helped my future bands get on a lot of really great shows.

I dunno, even in high school I felt like it was more effective to just leave friends behind if they weren't into going to a particular show, if it was one worth going to, so I guess that prepped me for going to college shows alone.

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