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Blue Kitty:
Oh no, she already learned that from her mother.
Buttfranklin:
My friend in grade school had a little sister they adopted from China. She liked me a lot. But one time I was watching a movie with my friend on the couch. She was four years old and had their clunky old mobile phone (the 90s ones that were made out of giant off-white plastic and glow in the dark buttons) in her hand. She approached me, got my attention, and then whacked me in the face as hard as she could with the giant, heavy plastic phone. I got a black eye for days. I said, "Ow! Why did you do that!"
And she just shrugged, and gave me an innocent look and goes... "I dunno."
I wasn't upset or anything, but her parents punished her and got her to apologize. She must have figured out what she did was not cool at all since she was crying and going, "I'm so sorry, Christopher Buttfranklin, I didn't mean to hit you." And I just smiled and said, "It's fine, just don't... Do it again, ok?" And she nodded, still struggling to hold back her tears. Then I got to tell her to tell me one of those ridiculous stories that four years old make up where only half the words are understandable, and the other half aren't connected to what's just been said in any way whatsoever. I love those stories.
Anyway, to the OP: don't beat yourself up over being bothered by what another person said to you that hurt you. It just means you're a sensitive person, which is a good thing... Mostly. You still need a thick skin, of course, and not take everything everybody says to heart. But it's also good to be able to be sensitive to what other people say, whether it's nice or not.
Emaline:
--- Quote from: Graphite on 21 Jun 2010, 06:52 ---Relevant.
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God. This article. Ugh. I'm cool with teaching your child to accept themselves and others the way they are, but to put "campaigns against obesity" in the same area as "fashion magazines" as bad influences, I've gotta gag a little. Teaching your child that it's 100% alright and perfect to be overweight is not what I'd called healthy. Teach them that yeah, if you are overweight, ok, it'll not the end of the world, but that being overweight is not healthy and that you should try to improve yourself, for your god damn health. I would never tell my kids that I'm fat and that is a good thing. I'd say I'm fat and I do need to exercise and that over eating is not a good thing. If my kid asked me if I was fat because I'd eat too much, I'd say "yeah, and I should really look out for that." and if they asked me why, I'd explain that its not healthy.
I don't feel like what she did in responding to her child's question was bad, but I do feel like this, is not the message you really want to send:
--- Quote ---I know I’ll be competing with every fashion magazine, every commercial, every airbrushed images, campaign against obesity, and every one of my children’s peers who are getting the exact opposite message at home.
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Yeah, try to teach your kids that fashion magazines aren't really the place to get your body ideals, but I don't think that it's fair to say that campaigns against obesity are bad.
ETA:
As for Ally, uh....suck it up. I mean, it was a kid. Maybe you were wearing a deodorant that the kid didn't like. Maybe she prefers the smell of earthworms to poises. Whatever. She's a kid. Kids say things all the time. They don't mean anything by it. Just explain, hey thats not very nice to say. And then you know....bathe every once in awhile. Seriously though, if you think that :hey maybe I do smell" try to change that. Or whatever it is the kid said to you. But keep in mind, shes a kid and meant nothing by it.
Zingoleb:
My mother told me today that when was pregnant with me, a little kid asked why she was so fat. She explained she had a baby growing in her tummy, so the kid asked, "So what's growing in your butt?"
jhocking:
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