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OkCupid: Internet dating for people who never commit to anything
Ballard:
In an effort to re-rail this thread:
I originally signed up for OKCupid when things with a girl I was pretty heavily emotionally invested in fell apart. Prior to our tryst I adamantly resisted anything resembling a relationship for a few years, having come off a disastrous long-term one and the subsequent rebound which turned out equally disastrous. At some point during that period I got involved in an open relationship with a girl from Boston who was five years my senior. The traveling was fun and the sex was great but what started out of an allegedly mutual desire for a continued fling with no strings attached ended with me acting as an emotional crutch for someone who was too insecure to be upfront about their needs. Coincidentally, soon after I broke that off, the girl in question came back into my life, fresh off a semester abroad in Spain. The previous summer I had turned her down for a relationship, citing my cataclysmic experiences and self-presumed inability to be a challenging and passionate partner, and she left bearing a grudge. Upon her return, she briefly dated my best friend, whom she complete ignored as the level of our intimacy steadily grew and we began spending a lot of time together.
After a few months of this, my buddy came to understand the situation and broke up with her, giving me his blessing. This time with all the cards in her hand, she led me on for six months before finally letting me know that she just wasn't interested in dating me. She'd hinted at it before, somewhere in between passionate kisses and falling asleep in my arms, but I was so madly infatuated that I deceived myself until I could no longer rationalize it.
I came out of this episode reeling, having set myself up to fall in love and been sorely disappointed. I had several short flings in a row, unsuccessfully trying to find in each of them the kind of things I felt and had lost. I understood that I couldn't go out looking for passion but that didn't stop me from trying.
As an extension of this pursuit, I registered for an OKCupid account. I spent hours meticulously editing what I thought was the most genuine description of myself I could muster. I figured that, at the very least, I stood to gain insight into what kinds of people are attracted to me when I'm not busy posturing, but I held out hope that I might meet someone charming who would take my mind off of my absolute dissatisfaction.
In order to facilitate the experiment, I didn't bother sending out any messages, instead waiting for people to contact me.
To this day, I've received approximately five messages, three from real life friends who stumbled onto my profile and felt the need to express their amusement while simultaneously justifying the existence of their own accounts, one from our very own Liz which said "liek omg ur so hawt" (thank you Liz) and one which read:
"haha soo this thing said they have a mystry match who likes "tool"....I'm starting to belivee this thing isn't understanding me lol i hope you don't like tools?"
est:
I signed up for an OKCupid account one time and after a certain amount of total radio silence I got a procession of fat chicks I had nothing in common with trying to talk to me pretty much every time I went on to take a quiz. I started talking to one girl in the Sydney area that the matchmaker thing said I had a bunch of shit in common with, but she turned out to be a massive drama queen with pretty much no common interests other than Monty Python.
Then when I tried to delete my account there was a bit of ambiguity over whether or not it was actually deleting, kind of like how Facebook is now. I told it to delete, but it told me that if I logged in then it'd reactivate my account, which didn't gel with my idea of DELETE. I read up a bit more and there was some convoluted way to actually delete the account, but it wouldn't surprise me if my empty profile is still kicking about there.
Lines:
I think my empty profile is still kicking. Pretty much I deleted everything except one line that said I didn't take this site seriously anymore. But I don't know if people still see it because the email it is linked to was hacked when my WoW account was attached to it.
I personally didn't care too much for OkCupid. I did talk to a few ok people online and I met one guy but just wasn't attracted to him, but I just kept getting really creepy messages even though there wasn't anything remotely suggesting that I was on the site for sex. That's mainly the reason I deleted it, so if I ever really want to try internet dating I may try a paid site just because I feel like if people are going to pay for access, they are taking it more seriously. I'm sure I'll get creepy comments, but hopefully it's less.
Also I had some dude that would NOT stop messaging me after I had one conversation with him about games. I had on my profile that I was interested in party games (like Mario Party and whatnot), WoW, and D&D. He was into board games. As in board games I'd never even heard of (which, you know, to each their own), but that's all he talked about and he was boring the shit out of me and he would not take "I'm not interested" as a hint to leave me alone. So yeah.
Papersatan:
I did try match.com a few weeks ago. (The marriage is fine, Steve and I were taking its free personality test) I was soundly disappointed with the first 5 matches. I am fat. I don't like sports. It asked me about these things several times in the entrance test. My first 5 matches were a guy who watches football and baseball religiously, a guy who runs marathons, a guy who is looking for a lady who takes care of her body the way he takes care of his, a guys who listed his "my friends would describe be as" as physically fit and a super soccer fan. Seriously Match.com? People are paying for that service. Maybe you only get good matches if you pay?
michaelicious:
--- Quote from: Ptommydski on 14 Oct 2010, 22:59 ---reasonably predatory
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Oh boy, that is an odd word combination.
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