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WCDT 29 Nov-3 Dec (1806-1810)
akronnick:
Ummm, yeah...
The therapy isn't for the break up, it's for the insecurity that caused the break up. Marten never, ever mistreated Dora, but she was never able to accept that he wouldn't, she was always expecting the other shoe to drop, as it were.
Who will she be able to open up to? Marten was the person she was insecure about, and she would never accept any of the re-assurances he could give her, nor could she talk to him about whatever caused her insecurity, because in her reptile-brain, Marten would reject or use it to hurt her in some way if he found out about it. Faye was also a threat because she was tightly wound up in her insecurity about Marten because of their history. Sven is her brother and she has resentment issues about him (which aren't really his fault) that prevent her from trusting him.
Who does that leave? Hannelore? shyeah, as if. Tai? She'd probably just try to get into her pants. Penelope? Is she really that close to Penelope? Raven? She's off at school (and knid of a ditz.)
What Dora needs is a trustworthy disinterested party to offer insight and advice. That kind of person is called a therapist. It's not that Marten or Faye (who would both move mountains to help Dora if they could) won't help her, it's that they can't, because the are too close. Dora's problem is that she can't trust people, not because they aren't trustworthy, it's because she's been hurt (presumably) by people she has been trusted, so she's guarded, and she can't open up to work out these issues. A therapist is trained to help people open up in a non-threatening way, but it's the very opening up that threatens her, so whoever she see's has their work cut out for them.
laizeohbeets:
There's a rule in therapy that your best friend should never, ever be your psychiatrist. My best friend is amazing at it, but that's because we're very rarely at odds. And both of us knows the other will get over our frustration in a few minutes. However, one person cannot rely on just one friend for therapy, because then you feel like you're burdening your friend, and your friend may resent you. This is why it's better to use a professional who only has to speak to you an hour once a month, not someone you see every day. An unbiased outsider who does not have a say in the situation at hand.
raoullefere:
--- Quote from: TRVA123 on 30 Nov 2010, 23:11 ---
--- Quote from: raoullefere on 30 Nov 2010, 23:07 ---The only problem with this approach is if Dora arrives at therapist's office, then starts in with "I don't know why I'm here really…I don't need help…"
Reading over that, though, I gotta admit that anyone who's any good at all will very likely get his/her net out at that point. Nor will the purple hair help anything, since it doesn't exactly scream "Look! Good decision maker here! Plus, I look in the mirror every damn morning and assure myself that nothing's wrong, even though I clearly have purple hair."
Hell, Dora may get shipped straight to a, ah, holding facility.
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Somehow I doubt that the therapists around Smif are going to see purple hair as an indicator of Dora's insanity. Maybe in a more conservative area...
It would be funny if the therapist began blaming all of Dora's problems on her hair color..
"Insecure? well that's a common trait among those with purple hair, dear."
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That's my point, really. Yes, New whatsis probably abounds with people who're perfectly capable of wearing strangely colored hair with aplomb, but if Dora ever was one of them, I'm willing to bet she isn't now.
Edit: In other, better words, if Dora can actually be gotten into a therapist's office, there's some chance she'll actually get help without further threats from Faye.
Border Reiver:
Is it a bad sign that I was looking for a therapist's number whent Faye's eyes flashed red?
Tergon:
The thing with Dora is that therapy isn't the automatic reaction for her. In fact, it's literally the last resort.
Dora tried to bury her issues with relationships. Then she actually did discuss them once or twice with her friends. Then she finally opened up about them to Marten. Then she tried openly dealing with them after they caused huge stress in the relationship. Now, Dora's ended a relationship, shaken up her social circle, and she's a sobbing and stressed wreck.
Therapy is, I agree, not necessary as a knee-jerk response. The vast majority of people are able to deal with their issues and function perfectly well despite whatever minor neurosis they have. But Dora is displaying clearly that she cannot function properly. As cruel as that phrasing sounds, it's accurate. She's unable to have a relationship, she can't stop sabotaging her own happiness, and she's miserable. After repeated and varied attempts to deal with this by herself have utterly failed, she's now seeking help, and only because her best friend is making her do it.
In this case, not only is Dora not choosing therapy as her salvation at all prematurely, she's doing it a little late.
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