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WCDT 14 Mar-18 Mar 2011 (1881-1885)
pwhodges:
--- Quote from: Odin on 14 Mar 2011, 08:41 ---That works both ways
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Are you seriously saying that you consider it adult behaviour to rely on your friends being adult enough to indulge your pissing on their feelings?
Odin:
--- Quote from: pwhodges on 14 Mar 2011, 08:46 ---
--- Quote from: Odin on 14 Mar 2011, 08:41 ---That works both ways
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Are you seriously saying that you consider it adult behaviour to rely on your friends being adult enough to indulge your pissing on their feelings?
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Are you intentionally misreading everything that doesn't agree with you?
I'm saying an adult friend is going to move on from past relationships with their exes and it should not ever be a problem for their friends to date one of their exes. If the friend seriously has a problem with their Ex dating one of their friends, they have deeper issues with letting go and all that other nasty stuff that goes along with clingy, creepy people than you can help them with (and as I said earlier, it wouldn't matter if the EX is dating a friend or not, the simple fact that they are bothered by the ex dating anybody is indicative of serious mental problems).
EDIT: To bring it back to the comic: enough time has elapsed where if Marten has a problem with Dora dating anybody it will just illustrate his own need for therapy.
Elysiana:
Dora and Marten haven't even had any sort of closure yet, have they? And how much time has passed since the breakup?
Odin, I find it funny that you don't think adults should/do consider their friends' feelings when making decisions like that. I think we are more likely to, in fact, because we've grown up and don't just trounce on other people. Teenagers tend to be selfish and not ask for permission; adults are, well, adult enough to talk about it with the party in question first - especially if there has not been closure.
In this case, the breakup happened pretty suddenly and I think both parties were surprised by it. I never got the feeling that Dora had been planning it or brooding over it, she came to more of a sudden realization. Both parties are still a bit shocked and neither has even spoken to the other or really gotten into how they feel other than "It sucks, but I'm getting by."
If there'd been definite closure and both people were obviously comfortable with the decision and seemed happy with the idea of it being permanent, I could understand saying that it's okay for another person to make a move; but not in this case. And with Tai being a friend to both of them and a boss to one... there's a lot of dangerous ground to be tread upon.
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You seem to think that adults don't have as many feelings as younger people; where is that coming from? Adults get pissy all the time; just because we know how to hide or handle those feelings better doesn't mean it's not still a dick move. How old are you, out of curiosity?
Odin:
--- Quote from: Elysiana on 14 Mar 2011, 08:54 ---Dora and Marten haven't even had any sort of closure yet, have they? And how much time has passed since the breakup?
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Marten may not have had any closure yet, but it seem Dora has moved on quite nicely (she's been exhibiting the most "normal" behavior out of anyone: she continued on with her life after allowing herself to grieve over the breakup; meanwhile, Marten is changing his entire social circle to avoid having to deal with moving the fuck on).
It has been at least a month since the breakup, QC-time, what with the hair growth and all going on. Considering the relationship itself lasted all of maybe six months QC-time, I think that's pretty easily enough time for people to start moving on with their lives.
--- Quote ---Odin, I find it funny that you don't think adults should/do consider their friends' feelings when making decisions like that.
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I've said nothing of the sort, but keep strawmanning me if it makes you feel better.
--- Quote ---I think we are more likely to, in fact, because we've grown up and don't just trounce on other people. Teenagers tend to be selfish and not ask for permission; adults are, well, adult enough to talk about it with the party in question first - especially if there has not been closure.
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If it has been a month since one of your friends broke up with their ex of six months and they are still moping around about it like a sad sack, that friend is the one with problems, not you.
--- Quote ---In this case, the breakup happened pretty suddenly and I think both parties were surprised by it. I never got the feeling that Dora had been planning it or brooding over it, she came to more of a sudden realization. Both parties are still a bit shocked and neither has even spoken to the other or really gotten into how they feel other than "It sucks, but I'm getting by."
If there'd been definite closure and both people were obviously comfortable with the decision and seemed happy with the idea of it being permanent, I could understand saying that it's okay for another person to make a move; but not in this case. And with Tai being a friend to both of them and a boss to one... there's a lot of dangerous ground to be tread upon.
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Nonsense.
Dora is getting therapy and apparently happily moving on with her life, she is free to date or do whatever she wants and it is literally none of Marten's concern what she does any more.
--- Quote ---Argh, more replies...
You seem to think that adults don't have as many feelings as younger people; where is that coming from? Adults get pissy all the time; just because we know how to hide or handle those feelings better doesn't mean it's not still a dick move. How old are you, out of curiosity?
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I'm 29 years old, and I think adults are better at handling their own feelings than children. There is a very huge and not-so-subtle difference between what I'm saying and what you think I'm saying, though, so go back and re-read what I actually type instead of being so quick to hit the "Post" button just because you disagree with me.
Karilyn:
--- Quote from: Odin on 14 Mar 2011, 08:41 ---
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--- Quote from: Odin on 14 Mar 2011, 06:46 ---You need therapy if ...
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Please don't let this stray into getting personal.
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I think I'm handling someone accusing me of having a stick up my ass pretty well, actually.
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Wait? Were you seriously offended by that? :psyduck:
Please don't take this as offensive, but you might want to consider working on thickening up your skin. That's a bit uh, little too thin skinned to be healthy, online or offline. While it was a bit of an insult, it was hardly a personal insult, and it would be ideal for anybody to let it roll off off like water on a duck's back than let it get to them.
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