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Emperor Norton:
--- Quote from: Tiogyr on 07 Jul 2011, 11:08 ---A volatile breakup should automatically take post-breakup friendship off the table, I'm sorry.
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But why? I had, one breakup, that, ended with, a gigantic, completely screwed up fight. We didn't talk for a couple of months. Then we realised that, WE STILL CARED ABOUT EACH OTHER, we just couldn't be together because we aren't compatible romantically.
We still make great friends, and, talk all the time. Of course, I'm sure, your anecdotal evidence will show me why my anecdotal evidence DOESN'T EXIST. Because no one can be friends after a bad break up.
TRVA123:
--- Quote from: Tiogyr on 07 Jul 2011, 11:08 ---A volatile breakup should automatically take post-breakup friendship off the table, I'm sorry.
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not necessarily. If one of them had really screwed the relationship over, i.e. Marten conns Dora out of all of her money and leaves town, or Dora messes with birth control to have Marten's baby without his consent....
something of that magnitude would take post-breakup friendship off the table. Marten and Dora realizing that they were fighting way too much and that Dora wanted to break off the relationship to work on her issues? not of that magnitude.
Maybe if they were still in highschool, but they're adults. They have the same friend circle and genuinely enjoy hanging out with each other. While they might need some space for a while, there is no reason why they shouldn't be good friends or just regular friends at some point in the future.
westrim:
--- Quote from: Tiogyr on 07 Jul 2011, 11:08 ---A volatile breakup should automatically take post-breakup friendship off the table, I'm sorry.
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In relationships, nothing should take anything off the table automatically, because people are people, and people are weird. Aside from her insecurity and paranoia, there were no major problems with their relationship. Remove her triggers for that (in this case, being romantically involved with him) and they should be able to get along just fine after some cooling off and honest talk. Or they could spaz at each other, he moves back home, and we get QC: Kalifornia Edition. Yes, the K is necessary.
dragontart:
I'm not sure if "staying friends" works well or is a good idea if only one partner dumped the other one. Since said other one most probably still has completely different feelings for them. I mean, Marten wouldn't have ended that relationship, would he? But then again, he might be more happy about at least being friends with Dora than nothing. But actually, I have no idea what Marten thinks about the relationship and the break up by now.
Tiogyr:
--- Quote from: dragontart on 07 Jul 2011, 11:24 ---I'm not sure if "staying friends" works well or is a good idea if only one partner dumped the other one. Since said other one most probably still has completely different feelings for them. I mean, Marten wouldn't have ended that relationship, would he? But then again, he might be more happy about at least being friends with Dora than nothing. But actually, I have no idea what Marten thinks about the relationship and the break up by now.
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This in particular is also why I don't think they should try to be friends. If Dora were to say she wanted to get back together, Marten would jump at the chance and that is why they need to not be friends until Marten makes some progress of his own with regard to moving on (or at least stops moping and sighing about it).
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