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WCDT January 9-13, 2012 (2096-2100)
quix0te:
Meh. I'm still going with the idea that he didn't make nice with Padma when she called ("Wow. I'm so glad you called, I've been wanting to talk to you.") because he's actually growing a spine. Part of him WANTS to be a doormat. And that part of him is the part thats beating him up. But another part of him fully recognizes, when somebody blows you off for a week, thats disrespectful. Associating with people who don't respect you is the sign of a weak person (which he has been).
I, again, fail to see what the fuss is about.
Why would Padma have the right to be mad at him? "How dare you be hurt/angry when I disengage for a week?!"
Marten basically took the route of "No. I'm not going to give you access again." He wasn't particularly mean about it.
Contrast that with Faye, who kicked him while he was down, and rather unjustifiably. At worst he was a bit of a coward, and I (obviously) don't agree with that.
Is it cold in here?:
Would Padma get mad? We haven't seen her do it, but then we haven't seen much provocation either.
Are there any characters who don't need therapy? Raven seems pretty well-adjusted and functional.
--- Quote from: quix0te ---Why would Padma have the right to be mad at him? "How dare you be hurt/angry when I disengage for a week?!"
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Right or not, it's entirely possible for a woman to say something like that. I've had it happen.
pwhodges:
--- Quote from: quix0te on 14 Jan 2012, 23:10 ---...because he's actually growing a spine. Part of him WANTS to be a doormat...
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What about a happy medium? I get really tired of all this macho talk of "strong: good, weak: bad"; to my mind it's fundamentally a way of avoiding actually thinking about what's going on.
--- Quote ---...when somebody blows you off for a week, thats disrespectful. Associating with people who don't respect you is the sign of a weak person...
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More macho talk.
pwhodges:
--- Quote from: Tova on 14 Jan 2012, 17:40 ---we on the forums always forsee coming events in the comic with perfect clarity. ;)
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But in all possible futures...
Tova:
--- Quote from: pwhodges on 15 Jan 2012, 01:32 ---
--- Quote from: quix0te on 14 Jan 2012, 23:10 ---...because he's actually growing a spine. Part of him WANTS to be a doormat...
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What about a happy medium? I get really tired of all this macho talk of "strong: good, weak: bad"; to my mind it's fundamentally a way of avoiding actually thinking about what's going on.
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I decided to look for an article on the distinction between passive vs aggressive vs assertive. Because people who are supporting what Marten's done appear think that's it's great that Marten has done something that's not passive; whereas people who disagree, I think, are trying to point out that Marten needs to be assertive rather than passive-aggressive. So, here is an article I found. Enjoy. I'm sure there are others (possibly better) if you care to search for them, but this one gets the idea across.
http://blakeflannery.hubpages.com/hub/Assertiveness-on-a-Psych-Unit
I will just add - Marten was avoiding confrontation. He did not "grow a spine".
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