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WCDT January 9-13, 2012 (2096-2100)

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AnAverageWriter:

--- Quote from: purple.platypus on 15 Jan 2012, 12:41 ---I agree with your other choices, but Marigold is almost the last person I'd put on that list. Her need to develop her social skills alone is sufficient cause to see a therapist

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I totally disagree. She's made enough social progress in the last year- going out, having friends, moving past the rivalry with Dale... If you had actually been watching what she's been doing over said year, you would have seen that she's one of the most sane, well rounded characters IN the strip. So much positive change, no need at ALL for anything close to a therapist.


--- Quote ---that's what I mostly talk to mine about and I have nowhere near the level of issues there that she does!

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You're projecting yourself onto the strip's characters. Marigold is not you.

Carl-E:
No, I think he/she/it (purpleplatypus?  Where's Perry?) was doing it right - clearly indicating that their problems are not as intense as Marigoilds, and that they're able to get help with them from their therapist.  (sorry for using the fomal plural pronoun, but damn it, I hate gendered English).  Making the suggestion that Marigold could get help from therapy's fine from there.  If anything, they're making a recommendation based on personal experience! 

Is it cold in here?:
Marigirl's self-loathing is still present as far as we know.

quix0te:

--- Quote from: Tova on 15 Jan 2012, 01:46 ---
http://blakeflannery.hubpages.com/hub/Assertiveness-on-a-Psych-Unit

I will just add - Marten was avoiding confrontation. He did not "grow a spine".


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Thanks, thats actually a very helpful clarification. 
My experiences are that there are times when you simply disengage from someone.  If they are a pathological or corrosive person, you limit their ability to affect you.
I don't think Padma was a *bad* person, but the vector that this was on, a week of avoidance followed by a phone call of "I'm leaving"... signaled pretty clearly the relationship was over. 
All that remained was for Marten to decide how he wanted to respond. 
He responded by minimizing the opportunity to get hurt.  He didnt lash out in anger or take the opportunity to engage in recriminations.
IF this had been a relationship which had a future, if she were NOT leaving for another coast, then, yes, I would hope that he would have put more effort in.
But given the circumstances, I think he made a pretty good choice.
Again, I remain mystified by the people who feel he was in the wrong.  Its nearly impossible to end a romantic relationship without somebody getting hurt.  I think that the odds were pretty good that had he talked to her at any length he WOULD have engaged in recriminations and let his anger flow.  I guess in an idealized world he could have had a mature discussion with her about how they both felt... but really, to what end?  It was over.  Time to move on.
In all the possible ways that relationships can end, this one was remarkably uneventful.

Tova:
I think that's a pretty fair point of view.

My only reservation is that Marten appears pretty bitter, to the point that it is likely to poison future relationships as well.

I don't think that things would have been made any worse by at least insisting on knowing the real reason she didn't return his calls. It may have even improved matters if he'd managed to get an honest answer, but we can't know because we don't know what that honest answer would have been.

In any case, he's going to need to deal with it somehow.

I'm kind of hoping that we get to find out what really happened at some stage, if not from Padma herself, perhaps from Elliot. But as others have suggested, we may never know.  Or maybe it's just as we've suspected (that would be a shock) - that she just wanted to avoid further emotional entanglement. :|


--- Quote from: Is it cold in here? on 15 Jan 2012, 13:44 ---Marigirl's self-loathing is still present as far as we know.

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Was that deliberate? I haven't noticed Marigold being called Marigirl before, but I may have missed it.

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