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Selfies at funerals
Thrillho:
--- Quote from: Jimmy the Squid on 31 Oct 2013, 02:21 ---All these people are children. I don't know about you guys but I'm never surprised when children do something ill advised and stupid. Hopefully these kids will look back on these moments and cringe at how awful they were. Also these look like the kind of kids who don't own much black or muted clothes. So they best they can do is look "nice" or their best approximation of that.
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I'm with you on that.
Barmymoo:
I've only been to one funeral (my godmother's - although my grandmother and great aunt both died in the last 14 months, I wasn't able to go to either of their funerals due to distance) and we were instructed not to wear black. I wore a bright red blouse but was too worried about the fact that I'd always believed you HAD to wear black to take my coat off. I wish I had now, because wearing bright colours was a request from my godmother.
Lines:
--- Quote from: Jimmy the Squid on 31 Oct 2013, 02:21 ---That's why art galleries are filled with self portraits.
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Portraits, yes. Self-portraits...not always. Mostly self-portraits are because 1) you are and always will be your cheapest model and 2) it's the easiest way to practice portraits.
Also I've noticed nowadays you don't have to wear black clothes to a funeral. Some people don't even wear muted clothes. But I think most people are capable of dressing themselves and/or their children in appropriate manner for such situations. I don't really have a problem with how those people were dressing though, I have problems with stupid blatant narcissism during a time that is about the death of a loved one. Maybe it's just the difference between me and the younger generation but I don't think everything needs to go online and not everything needs to be photographed. And if I were a parent with a teen, I'd just take their freaking phone away for one day. They can survive without the internets or data for a few hours.
Metope:
See what I find really weird about this subject as a generational thing, is that my personal experience is so different. I would never take photos at funerals because it wouldn't really cross my mind, but earlier this year when my grandfather fell ill and ended up in a coma, my mother and aunts started taking pictures of him in the hospital bed. I thought it was really weird and uncomfortable to take photos of a very vulnerable person in no state to object, and the nurse actually said 'you're not really supposed to take pictures in here, when he wakes up he might not feel comfortable with it', and then they got really upset about themselves and the fact that they hadn't considered grandpa's opinion, it hadn't even occurred to them. When grandpa died later, mom was taking photos of everything at the funeral too, although I guess that's understandable since it's nice to have memories from the event.
Lines:
See, I don't want to remember the events by photos, but by emotions. Also I don't even look in open caskets because I don't want the last image stuck in my head of them being dead. I did that with a great uncle and then my grandpa and I'm never doing it again. It's just a body, I don't need to remember the body, I need to remember the person. Family photos at the get together afterwards is one thing, but at the actual funeral...ugh. Why.
I mean, there's that old custom of taking pictures of the dead (they look like they're sleeping), but they creep me out. Dead things in general creep me out, but the human desire to preserve bodies seems so unnatural to me. Give me a viking funeral over a contemporary one any day.
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