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Re: Whatever, Let's Have A Goddamn Blog Thread, But Try And Keep It Reasonable, pt B

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Lines:
That owl is awesome.

Spluff:
The snake and the cat are pretty rad. I am envious.

KvP:
Indeed. Hij is a peach.

Anyway, blog thread, I now have a good amount of my very first song composed. I am happy with it, and I have stayed consistently happy with it over the weeks, which is a good sign as I'm generally a pretty good judge of when something I make is terrible. Trouble is that now I have to finish it, and making music is a lot like flying, or sketch comedy. Taking off / starting a sketch is the easy part. Landing / ending the sketch is the fucking hard part. I have to do my best so that this thing doesn't just trail off like 99% of SNL skits.

But I've got a friend who's been through this before, in pretty much the same manner (no musical background, getting into programs and the like, Reason 2 in his case, Reason 4 in mine)  and he's turned me on to Oblique Strategies, which is basically an online deck of cards, with each card giving a different way of approaching your work (ex. "Magnify the most difficult details", "Use an unacceptable color", "Allow an easement (an easement is the abandonment of a stricture)" etc.) and as wanky as some of these can be, they help.

RedLion:
So, my girlfriend is allergic to cats. This isn't new; she has been for all her life, and I've known about it since we started going out. When we're on campus, it's not a problem, because there are no cats around, and of course I don't have a cat there. But now that we're on break, I'm around my cat at home on a daily basis. All my clothes are covered in cat hair, no matter how many times I wash them or brush them off with the hair remover...and now she gets a headache every time we get together. I feel really awful about it--my presence causing her physical pain, even if its more of an annoyance and not some kind of piercing, unbearable pain. But at the same time, I'm obviously not going to get rid of my cat, and I'm not going to stop petting it and I'm not going to refuse to let it jump up on my lap and cuddle with me, because, frankly, it's comforting and the cat's been a part of my life for the last 15 years.

We got in a bit of a tiff tonight because she muttered "why do you have to have a cat," and I got a little bit annoyed, telling her that I really am sorry and that I feel bad about it, but she knows and always knew I had a cat, that I do everything I can to try to get the cat hair off of me before I come to see her, but that I'm not going to get rid of my cat and that I didn't think it was really fair of her to say that.

Am I being unreasonable about this? Should I be more understanding or something? I really am sympathetic to where she's coming from, but what does she expect me to do? I hate that I'm indirectly causing her pain.

Spluff:
I don't think she was complaining about you, per se, but more about the unfortunate situation - you have a cat, and she happened to get into you. It's not like she could have stopped her feelings for you as soon as she discovered you had a cat. The situation would be stressful/irritating to both parties, her because she wants to spend time with you but it triggers her allergies, and you because you are, as you said, indirectly causing her discomfort.

Have you tried not allowing your cat into where you keep your clothing? Just close the door when you go in or out, and they should stop getting all furry.

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