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WCDT: 2821-2825 (27 - 31 October 2014) Weekly Comic Discussion Thread
ReindeerFlotilla:
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--- Quote from: ReindeerFlotilla on 30 Oct 2014, 21:58 ---Is it presumption of guilt?
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Certainly not! You're clearly one of the good guys here.
Just curious, would "precise thinking" have gotten my meaning across with less baggage than "careful thinking"? Or should I have tried a different angle from the beginning?
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I don't know. I could only suggest what it would occur to me as an optimal solution in the after-the-fact. I have the advantage of knowing that what you did say is very, super triggering to me. I don't know how useful that is, in any sense.
As it stands. I could have left all that out and stood only on the basic explanation. But I thought, other people get triggered and state their case. Why can't I? Yes, it was upsetting, but I know that the upset stems from something done to me by someone else. Coulda, shoulda, woulda are terrible words. I use them to flay myself all the time. But, being honest and as objective as humanly possible, they just don't apply here. You woulda, if you'd known, coulda if any number of small events had been different through out the day, and shoulda what? I can't think of anything.
Maybe I've developed a new form of Zen, but I don't need to assign blame for my upset. It's a thing that happened because things happened years ago and far away. I really don't have anything more than my point(s). I hope they can help, but I don't know how much of it (from a moderation perspective) applies to anyone but me.
I appreciate you responding without rancor. I know how tough mod jobs can be. If I didn't have that deep thought about gender essentialism trying to get out I'd have kept it to PM.
BenRG:
It's an indication of how close friends Marten and Faye are that the two of them can basically joke about such a touchy subject so close to the event. I don't think that Marten meant that he wouldn't have told Faye about Claire but would have done so in a different way, focussing instead more on reassuring Faye.
BTW - My head-canon is that Claire badgered Marten into telling his friends about her personally rather than let Tai's email account take the strain. I suspect that he was planning to do so anyway but Claire beat him to mentioning it and Marten wanted her to have the victory of contributing to his decision.
Nepiophage:
For God's sake let's not have not this discussion of trans identity AGAIN. We've been through it at enormous length at least three times already. There's a thread in DISCUSS where all this is thrashed out.
Also rule 1 below applies in spades, doubled and redoubled.
ReindeerFlotilla:
--- Quote from: Nepiophage on 31 Oct 2014, 00:01 ---For God's sake let's not have not this discussion of trans identity AGAIN. We've been through it at enormous length at least three times already. There's a thread in DISCUSS where all this is thrashed out.
Also rule 1 below applies in spades, doubled and redoubled.
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Well. That's terribly meta.
pwhodges:
--- Quote from: ReindeerFlotilla on 30 Oct 2014, 22:45 ---I have the advantage of knowing that what you did say is very, super triggering to me. I don't know how useful that is, in any sense.
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It means we now know more about you. But the thing is that the mods here are super-aware of some things that are triggering to a number of different groups of people who are known to be present on the forum, and try to pre-empt the upset they can cause. When balancing different people's likelihood of being offended, we may try to make a judgement of who's likely to have more offence to deal with in their lives, based on what they have let us know about them. We can't, of course, know the answer in individual cases until we are told - but in any case, working out a path through life to cause minimum offence is a good way to go, and within this forum we try to enforce it.
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