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WCDT strips 3706-3710 (26th to 30th March 2018)

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Tova:

--- Quote from: Emperor Norton on 28 Mar 2018, 10:50 ---
--- Quote from: Tova on 27 Mar 2018, 23:27 ---And I felt obliged to point out that neither the comic nor Brun nor the forumgoers were "using mental diversity as an excuse." That's a nonsense accusation, and completely different from saying she is irritating (which you have every right to say).

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The first response to snufflebottoms saying that Brun's actions were annoying them was "You don't know what it is like to be on the Spectrum do you?"

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Yes, I saw it.


--- Quote from: Gyrre on 26 Mar 2018, 23:45 ---
--- Quote from: snufflebottoms on 26 Mar 2018, 20:48 ---I'm actually getting annoyed with Brun at this point.

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You don't know what it's like to be on the spectrum, do you?

I may be "high functioning" but the social stuff can be a pain in the ass sometimes. Especially when nobody wants to be direct or open about things. So, it's pretty exciting when I'm pretty sure I interpreted a situation correctly in spite of that. Though like Brun, sometimes I'm dead wrong in my conclusion(s).

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They were referring to a completely different behaviour to the one you're talking about.

Tova:
Sorry for the double post.


--- Quote from: themacnut on 28 Mar 2018, 11:47 ---The more I see of Elliot, the more I wonder how someone so insecure manages to throw enough of his weight around to do his job. I mean, the guy's a big marshmallow.

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I just wanted to add to the previous replies... I also think that being a marshmallow oddly qualifies him for the job. He's professional enough to do what must be done when confronting undesirable behaviour, but's he's sensitive enough to use his words when he can and minimal force when he must.

Emperor Norton:

--- Quote from: Cornelius on 28 Mar 2018, 13:13 ---There's a world of difference between acting for yourself, in a social context, and acting in a professional capacity. For the latter, one important factor is that you're officially mandated to be where you are, and do what you do. That being cleared up, there's just the question of actual capability for the job in hand.

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I used to have severe social anxiety, but I found that the biggest thing was that I had problems when I DIDN'T know what I was supposed to be doing. I ran security for several large cons, and that kind of "this is what you are supposed to do" bit helps a lot.

Once I knew what I was supposed to be doing, it was easy to do it. Even confronting people doing things wrong and escorting people, telling people to clear hallways, or form orderly lines.

The big thing was that I always felt out of place and felt like everyone knew I shouldn't be there. Once I had a defined place, that feeling disappeared.

Actually, this helped me get over my social anxiety in general as well for the most part.

Y:
The past few comics felt a bit familiar to me. I have autism spectrum, and I remember being called out on things including standing too close to people. In secondary/high school I was told that and I guess that made me second guess myself more, and notice the facts. Which are that they seem to hug all the time, and are standing close as well. So the conclusion is that they just say that because it's me and they don't like me. Also I had to stay close to be able to hear what they were saying because I can't hear so good (actually I hear everything with these wolf ears, including sounds in bathroom down the hall, hearing exactly who is walking though the hallway, who isn't washing their hands,... except I can't make out words said at a lower volume, or even hear different things).

I've seen people flirting in a similar fashion like Brun did (being that close), and the consent seemed implied, no one asks permission to flirt first. Also smell can be something wonderful, ever since reading 'The perfume' and a biology lesson about smell, I've found comfort in other people's smell, till a point you're smitten about them (or at least people tell me I am, or I tell myself(including once as a voice in my head)). But talking about that always seemed to creep the other person out, while all I need is to be close enough (though not that close) to be able to smell that, taking any action that could compromise that, including talking about feelings or love, would be something to be avoided. Which in turn resorted me to having to simulate love in my head instead.

I've found that talking about people's 'behavior' feels kind of strange, as if it's something very intimate and of yourself, and not something that's bad or wrong according some artificial norm. It breaks my heart sometimes hearing like person X is too direct(speaks before thinking) and that they have to correct them, effectively limiting their personality, curbing their enthusiasm,free will,being themselves... There is no one way people should be acting, and mistakes can be made but that's normal.

ChipNoir:

--- Quote from: Cornelius on 28 Mar 2018, 13:13 ---There's a world of difference between acting for yourself, in a social context, and acting in a professional capacity. For the latter, one important factor is that you're officially mandated to be where you are, and do what you do. That being cleared up, there's just the question of actual capability for the job in hand.

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I tend to find big guys like Elliot have a molifying effect. Perhaps it's the realization (If you're sober enough to think) that this guy can pick you up by the back of the neck and calmly walk you right out of the building like a disobedient puppy. Being that physically advantaged, and having any empathy at all makes them in turn very hyper aware of what they can do, and they tend to work extra hard to be careful, gentle, and understanding of situations. More than once I've had the "teddy bear" type of guy talk me out of anxiety r  deescalate my bad behavior. A big squishy hug works wonders for anxious/angry types like me.

Prolly why I really want to see Elliot and Clinton together, as I identify with someone as nerdy, awkward, and unsure of his situation as he is.

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