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Damn You, Willis! (Dumbing of Age) PART 2

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hedgie:
//www.youtube.com/watch?v=Npy4gjZ81F0

dutchrvl:
Dvorak's new world symphony of course: her mind will be blown around 1:57

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qut5e3OfCvg

Method of Madness:
I always forget that Jennifer's old nickname and Walky's current one are based on their last names. Also, great, Billie's back. That great is not sincere.

LeeC:
I grew up in a household where my parents would spank us for being disobedient. I remember growing up and thinking it was normal. That it was the best way to teach kids to behave and not grow up being a bad person. That if x person who got in trouble with the law was hit as a child, they never would have become a criminal. I am a father of two girls (a 4 and a nearly 3 year old) and I can attest that it was all bullshit. A lie my parents (and probably others) were themselves indoctrinated by their parents as "ok," when really it was a loss of patience on the parent's part. I have found myself very close to loosing my patience with my girls a number of times, but I never hit them, even if I lost my patience. I take a step back (mentally) and reflect where loosing my patience will get us. I realize now that those spankings were because A) My parent lost their patience and so hit the kid to make me stop or act right, or B) They didn't want to take the time to teach me WHY we behave or why what I did was bad or potentially dangerous. Hitting was the shortcut. The only punishment I do with my kids is usually take them to their bed and tell them they can come out when they've calmed down. I'm usually in the hallway just outside their room until they're ready which can be anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour (depending on how upset/bratty they were being can effect how long it takes themselves to calm down). Most times the misbehaving is due to them being over stimulated and being removed from that stimuli (or an audience that is fueling the misbehavior) and allowed to calm down allows you to explain what the kid did wrong and why we don't do it. Every time I have done this, my kid has learned why and have corrected their behavior. No "beating" required, no feeling like I am mad at them or that I don't love them. They also reflect on what they did and would often apologize for it without prompting. Kids are smarter than given credit for, especially on an emotional level. You just have to take the time to explain it to them. My parents didn't. It was for "my own good." In reality, it was trauma, normalized trauma.

Edit: For context, my father was not a very patient person in general. For anything. My mother tended to prefer shortcuts for anything.

Method of Madness:
Well, fuck. So that's why she was called Billie. Damn you, Willis :/

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