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WCDT strips 3751-3755 (28th May to 1st June 2018)
A small perverse otter:
--- Quote from: pecoros7 on 30 May 2018, 12:05 ---The boundaries aren't terribly ambiguous. Don't talk about anybody's sexual anatomy (whether inherently sexual or culturally sexualized, commonly called 'private parts' or 'bathing suit areas') and don't talk explicitly about physical intimacy.
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I guess my problem is that I'm not sure what 'talk[ing] explicitly about physical intimacy' means. When we get to discussing how vagina-having persons experience sex as opposed to penis-having persons, and then delve into the details of cis- versus trans- gendered experiences, I feel like we're talking about genitalia pretty explicitly, and, yes, that makes me very uncomfortable.
Frankly, that's my problem: the community disagrees with me. But it does leave me asking what talking explicitly about physical intimacy actually means. I genuinely don't know.
Zebediah:
Here’s one possible definition: While people were talking about having sex for varying lengths of time, nobody got explicit about the precise details of exactly which body parts came into contact with what other body parts. That would unquestionably be over the line.
Instead, people kept it to the level of “Yeah, sex happened, for X amount of time”, which isn’t really any more detail than today’s comic went into.
Dandi Andi:
--- Quote from: A small perverse otter on 30 May 2018, 12:37 ---...I feel like we're talking about genitalia pretty explicitly, and, yes, that makes me very uncomfortable.
Frankly, that's my problem: the community disagrees with me. ...
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If a conversation is making you uncomfortable, then by all means speak up. If you feel comfortable doing so, say so in the thread and explain why it makes you uncomfortable. The forumites will probably be respectful and try to dial it back a bit. If you don't feel comfortable with that, message someone on the mod team. Tell them why you're uncomfortable and they'll generally step in on your behalf. IICIH has made it pretty clear that the guidelines exist to make as many people feel comfortable contributing to the discussion as possible. The mods seem to be a rather amicable lot. As long as you have a fairly reasonable case, they will probably try to accommodate you. Even if your concerns are a bit... odd... (like you're very uncomfortable discussing oranges), they'll still listen and take you seriously, even if the results aren't as strong as you'd like.
A small perverse otter:
--- Quote from: pecoros7 on 30 May 2018, 13:11 ---If a conversation is making you uncomfortable, then by all means speak up. If you feel comfortable doing so, say so in the thread and explain why it makes you uncomfortable. The forumites will probably be respectful and try to dial it back a bit.
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I'm sorry; I wasn't clear. I don't think that my finding a conversation uncomfortable is relevant: the community polices itself and sets its own rules through the behavior it tolerates. I want to understand what those rules are. I don't want to impose my own standards, and complaining about the content of a discussion because it makes me uncomfortable is an attempt to impose those standards.
awgiedawgie:
“Rules” are one thing. That’s pretty well defined in the sticky. But common courtesy is something else. Even if the conversation isn’t technically violating any of the forum rules, if the general tone or anything else is making anyone uncomfortable, I for one am more than content to change the subject.
Since the mods have already had to step in a couple times in recent threads, it probably wouldn’t hurt for people to rein in their enthusiasm a little bit. Just because you’re thinking something doesn’t mean you have to say it.
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