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WCDT Strips 3811-3815 (20-24 August 2018)

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pwhodges:
Maybe Marten needs to be more aware.  But before being too hard on him, remember we just had a strip in which we were told clearly how Claire is feeling, and he didn't get to read that strip yet.

Annemoon:

--- Quote from: Mordhaus on 21 Aug 2018, 07:08 ---Not his fault, he tried to delve into this with her earlier and she brushed it off. Now it is on her to speak up and tell him, "We need to talk about this".

I'm sorry, we aren't mind readers. If you want to discuss an issue, you need to make it sound serious. Otherwise we might not pick up on it and we will be a bit upset ourselves when you unload on us at a later date. Communication is key.

--- End quote ---

In general yeah, but he asks the question "how was your day" and the response is
"euh, actually" --> there is something up
"I've been really stressed about my exams" --> she literately says something is wrong
"and.." --> this in all languages means you are going to add something..
and he brushes her off. He literately doesn't let her finish after she said something's wrong.

This is not the -"everythings fine" and you're supposed to know that it isn't- case.
You don't brush off someone that says something is wrong, especially if said person is your girl- or boyfriend.
(I mean, this goes both ways, let's not let your "we" be simply the guy in the relationship here).

TheEvilDog:
However, if you've been in a relationship as long as Claire and Marten have been (well, long enough to be living together), not every conversation is going to turn into a deep, meaningful discussion about aspects of their lives. Claire is admittedly someone who can be quite stressed at times, to the point where Marten has probably had the same chat with her. Its more a sign of how comfortable they have gotten in their relationship.

No one is at fault here, but both sides need to communicate better. Marten needs to actively listen more, but Claire needs to speak up as well. Its one thing to say that she's stressed about the exam, but like I said, Claire is a stressed person by nature. Now, Marten does need to cop on a little more and pay attention to what Claire is saying. Ultimately, this story is meant to be an opportunity for the both of them to grow and to work on their relationship.

heyjames4:
1. Communication is hard. Even when everyone's coming from a well intentioned place in a healthy and supportive environment.
2. Per comic 3791 the last thing Marten knew was that he tried to engage Claire with exactly this issue, she deflected, so he fell back to his default setting of steady support.
3. Based on his history, he'll probably stay there until something energetic forces him to move.

AlliedToasters:
I guess I feel a bit silly for over-analyzing this, but there's something about Marten in this series that just doesn't sit well with me.
He's going to work for Tai at Smif College, a job that he's openly passive about, and yet for some reason he's decided to start dressing up like he's back at the dead-end job we started the entire story with.
Add that to the fact that he's taking on the overly-assertive archetype of a working male who dismisses his partner's CLEARLY STATED DISTRESS. (I'm sorry but any response to "how was your day" other than "fine" or "good" or whatever is a red flag.) He's just not being cool.
There's no need to "engage" Claire at all. Just sit down, shut up, and listen.

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