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WCDT Strips 3811-3815 (20-24 August 2018)
derris_kharlan:
To those saying Marten should know better/should have known to listen, I’d like to offer a different perspective.
One of the things people who struggle with anxiety disorders (which Claire may or may not have, she seems pretty high strung about a lot of things though) do is reassurance seeking. Taken in isolation seeking out reassurance when stressed is a perfectly fine and logical approach. Unfortunately when dealing with some kinds of anxiety disorders that behavior goes from reasonable and healthy to obsessive. Though it seems counter intuitive, if you repeatedly give in to the persons demands for constant reassurance it allows them to fall into the same obsessive pattern over and over. One of the things therapists will teach you if you are a friend/loved one of a person who has anxiety disorder is that, as much as you want to, it’s best to not help feed that beast.
While I don’t think that’s the plot line Jeph is going for here with Claire, just realize it’s not always the right thing to do for a person to give in to a partners desire to analyze (often over-analayze) their anxieties. For some of us, the right choice is to give us simple encouragement and NOT dig in. Of course it’s siguational and of course that’s not an excuse to carte blanche ignore a person, but hopefully it’ll help people understand that sometimes the right approach isn’t what we would otherwise assume it to be.
Also, in Martens defense, Claire has completely shut down his efforts in the past to help her on this. We’ve all witnessed her revelation thanks to Pintsize, but it’s not unreasonable for Marten to go by what has been her past behavior.
OldGoat:
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--- Quote from: brilligtove on 21 Aug 2018, 15:57 ---Am I the only one who thought Claire's expression in the last panel meant, "That was exactly the unconditional support I needed"?
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There was a strip with Clinton in it that introduced that facial expression and assigned its meaning.
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#3773 to be precise.
Annemoon:
--- Quote from: derris_kharlan on 22 Aug 2018, 02:42 ---
To those saying Marten should know better/should have known to listen, I’d like to offer a different perspective.
Though it seems counter intuitive, if you repeatedly give in to the persons demands for constant reassurance it allows them to fall into the same obsessive pattern over and over. One of the things therapists will teach you if you are a friend/loved one of a person who has anxiety disorder is that, as much as you want to, it’s best to not help feed that beast.
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Note: this *is* highly specific per person, in anxiety that is coated with social anxiety that response would be really bad.
In that case you are very hesitant in sharing your actual anxious thoughts and don't let people in this side of you. A brush off when you try to break this circle would be a super strong signal to STOP AND NEVER DO THAT AGAIN.
It has been what I've been dealing with, and to be honest, it seems to strongly resemble the latest behavior of Claire.
I think it's really good pintsize gave him a talking to. Marten means well, but I'm glad for pintsize here.
heyjames4:
--- Quote from: Carl-E on 21 Aug 2018, 23:17 ---
--- Quote from: heyjames4 on 21 Aug 2018, 09:47 ---3. Based on his history, he'll probably stay there until something energetic forces him to move.
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Well, probably not what you were expecting, but hey...
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That's about right.
BlueFatima:
How old is Martin? He looks aged up a bit. Some of that is the way he's dressed, but I'm guessing everyone is a bit older than they used to be.
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