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WCDT Strips 3941-3945 (18-22 February 2019)
Is it cold in here?:
--- Quote from: Hoodiecrow on 21 Feb 2019, 22:58 ---Hi everyone, newbie here (though I'm 53 years old, so I'm an OF at the same time). I actually don't know if I will become a regular, but I often have feels because of QC so who knows.
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Welcome, new person!
I had not realized how bad things were for people with ASD.
Sullivan:
Brun: "What really made me angry was when I realized how upset it made Renee."
Brun is "good people". <3
artag:
--- Quote from: dawolf on 22 Feb 2019, 00:13 ---I'm mixed race, UK. I get asked sometimes. I don't care, it isn't something I've ever found rude. Similarly, I ask people where they are from. No-one has ever said it's rude.
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It's not rude, in the UK. At least, not that I've ever noticed. It's actually one of the first things people ask, along with 'what do you do ?' (what is your employment ?). Perhaps that's only amongst WASPs but I don't think so. If you're apparently anglo-saxon, the first thing is to attempt to recognise your accent for UK regions. If it's obvious but non-local it's likely to get a comment / request for confirmation. If it's ambiguous you get asked for clarification.
If accent or skin colour is clearly not UK you'll get asked where you come from, with an aspect of 'ooh, you're more interesting than average', not 'how strongly can I look down on you'. The only possibility of embarrassment is when you identify someone as exotic (a compliment) and discover they're actually third-generation english.
So I was truly amazed to discover here last week that it's offensive in USA-land. And a bit sorry for y'all.
Bloodyloon:
Well, I knew I felt an affinity with Brun, so I'm not surprised. Well written, and sympathetic Spectrum character. Thank you Jeph. I was diagnosed ASD before I had heard it used disparagingly, but I can definitely relate to her feelings on the use of the term. However, I've never felt like that part of myself was wrong or bad (Other parts, yes, because, y'know, human... ). I think characters like Brun (and Abed) are important in educating people who haven't encountered spectrum personalities before, as functional, if odd, people with emotional landscapes and empathy towards those around them. Too often I find ASD be represented as sociopathic or neurotic, which is damaging to the image of those on the spectrum, both externally and internally.
I was lucky, was diagnosed early, had Speech-Language therapy for 8 years, and had a loving and understanding home life. I have worked hard to learn social grace, and while I'm not perfect, I am a lot better than I used to be. A few messages to those on the spectrum who feel limited by it:
1. While social skills are not easily learned, they are learnable, and are well worth investing the time it takes to improve them.
2. Know what calms you down, learn the warning signs for meltdowns and do what you need to get into a calm environment before it gets to that point.A lot of overwhelm occurs because of sense overload, so finding ways to limit sense-data in socially appropriate ways is important. For me that is intentional breath Meditation with closed eyes.
3. Love yourself, and take care of yourself in the ways you know are necessary, as you are ultimately the one responsible for your emotional state and your well being.
4. Request clear and direct communication! If you expect normal people to behave "rationally" you are going to be disappointed consistently.
I hope that will reach someone who needed to hear it. Back to lurking <3.
OldGoat:
--- Quote from: artag on 22 Feb 2019, 13:51 ---So I was truly amazed to discover here last week that it's offensive in USA-land. And a bit sorry for y'all.
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USA-land is big, and what's okay one place may be offensive as all hell in another.
A friend of Mrs. Goat's moved down south. Neighbors came around being Southern friendly (that's okay) and asked, "Have you got a church yet?" That's definitely NOT okay on the west coast and especially unokay up here in the Pacific Northwest. (She said she was tempted to reply, "No, we're still looking for a coven," but thought better of it.)
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