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WCDT Strips 3941-3945 (18-22 February 2019)
chris73:
It's not all just about what's going around in our own precious noggin, see?
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If the worst thing that happens to you in a day is someone expresses interest in your background then it's a pretty good day so to this is just another situation where someone gets to play the victim, again.
lurkylurk:
I'm just going to leave this here because it seems like clicking a link is a hard thing to do. Honestly, I think we're getting into "learn to take a compliment" territory.
--- Quote from: jesslc on 08 Feb 2019, 02:13 ---Your curiosity does not trump my right to only share things I feel comfortable sharing. And this rant aside, my skin colour has much less relevancy to who I am as a person than anything else you could ask about - like my work, or how was my day/weekend, what I do for fun, things I enjoy, etc even with the topic of the weather - you'd likely learn how I don't notice the heat much but I feel the cold really badly (even in our very really quite mild winters).
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(Hi. I've been here before, but can't remember my account details.)
pwhodges:
--- Quote from: chris73 on 23 Feb 2019, 10:49 ---If the worst thing that happens to you in a day is someone expresses interest in your background then it's a pretty good day so to this is just another situation where someone gets to play the victim, again.
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Sometimes someone is a victim, though - so we mustn't completely discount that possibility.
Dandi Andi:
--- Quote from: chris73 on 23 Feb 2019, 10:49 ---If the worst thing that happens to you in a day is someone expresses interest in your background then it's a pretty good day so to this is just another situation where someone gets to play the victim, again.
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Sure. Taken in isolation, if the very worst thing that happens is that someone asks about your heritage then it isn't so bad. But what so many of us are trying to explain is that it so very often isn't the worst thing that happens. It doesn't happen in isolation. For many people of color, that seemingly innocuous question is often followed by "But where are you from?" That follow up question implies the rejection of that person as one of "us". As a white American from the midwest, I have never, not even once, been asked that follow up question. Therefore, I literally cannot understand how that feels. I can only take people at their word that it sucks.
And as I have said before, it isn't the singular instance that hurts. It is the repeated exposure. It is radiation. It is a single bee sting among a swarm. It is a gentle poke in the ribs. After enough poking, it no longer matters that a poke is gentle and meant no ill will because the constant poking has left your ribs bruised and raw. Maybe you were benign in your intent, but it still hurts.
And maybe some people are perfectly OK with being asked about their heritage. That's great. I mean that. If they have one fewer thing that hurts them in their daily life then that can only be a good thing for them. But regardless of how they feel about it, it still hurts a lot of other people. So to avoid hurting those people, it is generally best to let people set the pace for when and whether they want to discuss their ethnicity.
Is it cold in here?:
I don't understand the resistance to good manners.
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