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WCDT Strips 4331-4335 (18-22, August 2020)
traroth:
--- Quote from: gprimr1 on 17 Aug 2020, 21:53 ---In my own life, I was taught the "F*ck Yes" rule. If you ask someone out, anything other than a "F*ck Yes" (Not literally that word, but used to imply a definitive and firm yes) is really a no.
I've found it's generally true. "Maybe" "I'll get back to you" "I"ll let you know" "I'll think about it" "We might" "We could" generally are code for "no."
So I'll be interested to see how this places out.
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I can imagine that asking a known heterosexual to enter an homosexual relationship could lead to some convoluted situations, whatever the final outcome would be...
TinPenguin:
If you're a teenager or an uncomplicated 20-something, maybe this rule is relevant.
There are so many good reasons for "let me think about it". The person had not previously considered whether they were attracted to you. They hadn't considered whether they could be attracted to your gender. They've made mistakes from rushing in too quick before. They were not mentally prepared for this social situation and need to calm down their brain before answering. They have a family or other responsibilities. They're about to move far away. They are asexual or aromantic and hadn't realised relationships could be a thing for them. They have health issues and the concept of a future is shaky at best. They have a deeply personal secret which they would have to trust you with. They're not sure if you're a vampire.
Speaking for myself, when I asked out my partner, about half of those were the case.
ihaveavoice:
TinPenguin said it very well. While that "fuck yes" rule would be great in the context of consent, it doesn't work as well when it comes to automatically reading outright rejection into someone needing a bit more time to work out their response to a question. You'd certainly end up outright rejected if you stressed the other party out by showing them that's how you felt about them needing time to think! And I think Clinton made it very clear that he was genuinely open to the possibility and planning to think about this.
Thrillho:
--- Quote from: Farideh on 15 Aug 2020, 14:47 ---I had my first serious (and only) relationship at 19, and ended up marrying him. Which is great in many ways, although I sometimes wonder if I have 'missed out' on anything by not dating around more. Luckily my husband is the kind of person I can talk to about things like that.
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I got married at 21 and divorced at 23. If you're still happy, then I don't think you've missed out on anything.
--- Quote from: gprimr1 on 17 Aug 2020, 21:53 ---In my own life, I was taught the "F*ck Yes" rule. If you ask someone out, anything other than a "F*ck Yes" (Not literally that word, but used to imply a definitive and firm yes) is really a no.
I've found it's generally true. "Maybe" "I'll get back to you" "I"ll let you know" "I'll think about it" "We might" "We could" generally are code for "no."
So I'll be interested to see how this places out.
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I do not share this experience.
Add mine to the chorus of the penguin and the voice.
Tova:
I also agree that "let me think about it" can't simply be interpreted as a "no," and I am pretty confident that Clinton is not speaking in code. I don't really think that's him.
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