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WCDT 4386-4390 (Nov 2nd - Nov 6th, 2020)
Thrillho:
Citation requested.
Tova:
--- Quote from: Thrillho on 03 Nov 2020, 10:06 ---It can take a long time for attraction or feelings to develop.
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I mean, I agree with this as far as you go.
But in the meantime, if someone were to ask me if I were attracted to them, and those feelings hadn't developed yet, then the correct answer would be "no."
Not, "Hmmm, maybe, let's hang out socially and put you on hold while I work it out, this might take awhile, hey this isn't awkward is it?"
Thrillho:
Which is why I requested a citation.
Because all I have to go on is my own personal experience, of being asked if I'm attracted to someone and thinking 'I dunno' or 'maybe' or 'in some lights' or 'depends on how horny I am' or 'when they wear that specific outfit' or better yet 'yes, now that we are in an orgy situation and there they are.'
And what about denial? I've been dealing with my complex queer feelings my entire life and I had a lot of crushes that I'm only even realising are that years later in some cases.
Christophelous:
--- Quote from: stayctee on 03 Nov 2020, 11:24 ---Mmmmm, yeah no. I understand about complicated levels of attraction like emotional, intellectual attraction etc. Sure. But raw, physical attraction? That's chemical. As in, pheromones. It's either there or it isn't. Because science.
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--- Quote from: Thrillho on 03 Nov 2020, 11:55 ---Citation requested.
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https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2017/03/do-human-pheromones-actually-exist
Summarized even more than the already summed article, author of a paper who is convinced that humans use pheremones has ruled out two more possible pheremones. None are yet known. Article is from 2017. Scientifically speaking, stayctee is in the wrong, at least about raw physical attraction being about chemistry and pheremones. However, there's a lot of evidence relating facial symmetry and attractiveness going back to at least 1999.
All that being said, knowing someone is traditionally attractive isn't the same as being attracted to them. Being attracted to someone is a hugely personal thing, and can encompass physical as well as mental and emotional aspects. Yeah, it's possible to be immediately attracted to someone based solely on the physical, but it's also entirely possible to be attracted to someone only after getting to know them due to mental or emotional aspects. And those are far from the only two possibilities.
Farideh:
When it comes to attraction, I've always been puzzled by descriptions in books, where the protagonist meets someone and immediately falls head-over-heels in love. The 'love' in those cases is based purely on physical attraction: the other person is so devastatingly handsome, etc. I've never understood that: how can you be attracted to someone without knowing anything about them? Their personality, interests, intellect, and so on.
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