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WCDT 4116-4120 (14th to 18th Dec, 2020)
Shremedy:
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--- Quote from: sitnspin on 13 Dec 2020, 21:56 ---Might I recommend not multi-posting?
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Sorry...I won't bother posting again.
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While I had some (perhaps overly harsh) words for sitandspin, you're not exactly in the clear either. The rebuke was mild (if perhaps a little passive-aggressive), and you're acting like you've been stomped flat, which is assuredly not the case. Taking your ball and going home is SUPER passive-aggressive, and isn't helpful for people (like me) of a mind to defend you. If you have good reasons to format things the way you do, then just do it, and let other people's opinions about such trivialities be damned. There are other far more cardinal sins to commit in this forum (covered in clearly posted FAQs). Worry about the written, not the unwritten; if the something of the latter becomes genuinely problematic enough, it WILL become written!
dutchrvl:
--- Quote from: Shremedy on 17 Dec 2020, 05:08 ---
--- Quote from: sitnspin on 13 Dec 2020, 21:56 ---Might I recommend not multi-posting?
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What the EFF is "wrong" with keeping replies to separate individual posts, with separate individual points to be made, separated? Who pissed in your Cheerios? It doesn't suit YOUR sensibilities of How To Post? GET OVER YOURSELF.
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This.....seems like an overly emotional and over-the-top response to somebody merely making a suggestion. As Trillho also mentioned, multi-posting is generally discouraged. This is not to say it's illegal, but a suggestion to a relatively new person to avoid it seems fairly reasonable, no? Perhaps sitnspin could've added a sentence explaining why it's discouraged, but ya know...
anahata:
--- Quote from: Gyrre on 16 Dec 2020, 19:19 ---That's short for 'cuckhold', here, and we use it to mean a dude who's SO is having sexual relations with someone else while they watch.
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I think the original meaning was a man whose wife was being unfaithful, but I'm pretty sure that having to watch wasn't part of the definition. It was considered shameful for the cuckold, because he was supposed to "keep his wife under control". (We are talking 17th century and earlier here, attitudes were obviously different then.)
BlueFatima:
--- Quote from: Shremedy on 17 Dec 2020, 05:08 ---
--- Quote from: sitnspin on 13 Dec 2020, 21:56 ---Might I recommend not multi-posting?
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What the EFF is "wrong" with keeping replies to separate individual posts, with separate individual points to be made, separated? Who pissed in your Cheerios? It doesn't suit YOUR sensibilities of How To Post? GET OVER YOURSELF.
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What they asked of you is reasonable netiquette. In fact, it is probably a favor they told you. Multiposting—like posting in all caps—makes you look like a discussion board newbie...or just plain rude. It is generally frowned upon on most groups. I guarantee most of us got told not to do that by someone else at some point on a discussion board. Nothing to feel bad about or offended for.
Edit - And—yes—I see the irony/hypocrisy of saying this as I double-posted a page back on this thread. :laugh:
oddtail:
--- Quote from: anahata on 17 Dec 2020, 06:26 ---
--- Quote from: Gyrre on 16 Dec 2020, 19:19 ---That's short for 'cuckhold', here, and we use it to mean a dude who's SO is having sexual relations with someone else while they watch.
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I think the original meaning was a man whose wife was being unfaithful, but I'm pretty sure that having to watch wasn't part of the definition. It was considered shameful for the cuckold, because he was supposed to "keep his wife under control". (We are talking 17th century and earlier here, attitudes were obviously different then.)
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That's correct, AFAIK. The modern use of the word is due to the shortening of the phrase "cuckold fetishism". The phrase is unwieldy, and the word "cuckold" in itself was, before being reintroduced into common speech, somewhat antiquated and infrequently used.
Being cuckolded (in the original sense) carried a sense of shame to it - as you say, because it meant the man was not man enough to make sure his wife was faithful (and also subtextually, that there was something "wrong" with him if his wife was looking for gratification elsewhere. Also, toxic masculinity* about the other man being obviously higher in the pecking order).
The "having to watch" in the word's modern context comes from the fact that "it's shameful and humiliating" is, from what I understand, part of the appeal of the fetish, so adding the passive watching would add to the feeling of power disparity.
*The term may be new, but the attitude is, I imagine, as old as the notion of "manly" exists, so probably older than written word.
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