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WCDT May 31st - June 4th (4536-4540)
Annemoon:
--- Quote from: Gyrre on 31 May 2021, 02:51 ---Is it some combination of her personality, innate and practiced ability, and her personal presentation/appearance that allows her to coax out these confessions?
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I feel like there are a few factors that trigger it.
- Non judgement: You come across as someone who doesn't judge quickly, or signal to them that you wouldn't judge them.
- Show that you have room to have these conversations
--> both of these are usually signaled partly by being open about your own issues, talking about them to others and notably to this person
- show interest
- give space to let them come to you when they are ready to talk
--> these two above have some inner conflict, e.g. a lot of people need _some_ "asking questions" for it to come up, but at the same time room to not speak and speak at one's own terms.
This is where that timing thing comes in btw
In my experience, ask in the general direction, but don't pry, let follow up come out on their terms, and keep silences people usually need to time to decide what to say,
so by just keeping your mouth shut for a while in these occasions you usually give them some space to do that.
That's what I've learned on this over the years.
Of course you also shouldn't be a gossip :P
Gyrre:
--- Quote from: Shjade on 31 May 2021, 11:49 ---
--- Quote from: Gyrre on 31 May 2021, 02:51 ---Is it some combination of her personality, innate and practiced ability, and her personal presentation/appearance that allows her to coax out these confessions?
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I'm sure it varies from person to person, situation to situation, etc., but in my experience?
Timing. It's mostly timing.
You can be the most understanding, trustworthy person in the world, and it doesn't mean a thing if they're not in a place to talk about it when you're there to listen. Being that kind of person and being available for those conversations more often increases the odds of it coming up. But unless someone's paying you to listen to them for therapy, I don't think you're generally going to get people to open up through effort on your part most of the time (and might make things worse trying).
Note: I'm not licensed for anything, this isn't Official Mental Health Advice, just my perspective.
Different topic: that's an insightful point, jesslc. Would never have occurred to me, but I can see it. Totally plausible.
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So I'm just going to keep getting random coworker confessions in the breakroom and be the person the distraught distant relative at the funeral comes to for comfort? *deep sigh*
[The latter has only happened once so far.]
EDIT: Come to think of it, I got a message out of the blue the other day on one of the other forums I frequent requesting advice. I won't share their username or what they were asking for guidance with but their opening line was "I've seen your posts on the extended forum and you really seem to have a lot of insight." I don't have much recent experience with what they were going through, so all I could do was be honest about it and throw out a few ideas. Hopefully I wasn't completely useless.
John Allenson:
Perhaps the rule concerning no discussion about private parts could be relaxed about Pintsize.
It is a good metaphor for how Pintsize interacts with the world. https://www.questionablecontent.net/view.php?comic=8
Honestly, (My Opinion Only) I've felt that Pintsize has been pretty Asexual. Which needs an explanation. Pintsize seems to be fascinated with the concept of sexuality, he refers to it as human ingenuity. Pintsize seems to use squicky sexual imagery to distress people. But other than an early story line Pintsize has not shown interest in being intimate with anyone; in contrast to May or Bubbles. It has been shown that he'll use descriptions of sex to distract others from what he's actually concerned about. The various talk about things like 'toast fetish' seems to be play acting (unlike one robot with a fresh bread fetish).
I think Pintsize is already more interesting now that he's exploring a wider set of possibillities of sensation and expression.
wiserd:
--- Quote from: shanejayell on 30 May 2021, 18:37 ---Well, THAT didn't go where I expected.
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The USB port?
shanejayell:
New comic.
So... COULD Faye demolish a normal robot?
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