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Fun Stuff => BAND => Topic started by: yipjumpmusic on 08 Apr 2005, 02:49
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Yes, yet another poll to satisfy my endless curiosity...
Who, when considering someone to ask out/date/get to know better, has similar/good musical taste as an absolute requirement, and who does not? But if so is there an exact science to it or how do you go about deciding what is good enough? Or, is there anyone that is currently with someone who does not have similar/good taste? With this crowd I might dare assume that most have some requirement but maybe you have an interesting past story.
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While it's not a prerequisuite, it generally warms a guy to me, for two main reasons:
1 - music is important to me, and sad though it may be, it's a large part of who I am. It doesn't have to be the same type of music, but some kind of a passion for it generally helps.
2 - Indie boys generally have fringes or longish hair, making them instantly more attractive, and occassionally couple this with a love of eyeliner. Also, the hyper-sensitive, artsy thing is kinda cool too.
3 - Boys in Bands. I know it's lame, but I can't help going to gigs and being attracted to the guy on stage with a guitar/mic/whatever, and have a rather appalling track record for disasters with people like this.
Case in point - I met the guy I'm currently nurturing an unhealthy crush on when he approached me in my local indie club and started ranting about Bright Eyes. We don't talk about music that often, but it's there as a common ground...
I've just realised that this thread relates to significant others, and I can only talk about it in theory. This is very, very sad.
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Of course it’s important, I more or less listen to music 25 hours a day and if my girlfriend couldn’t stand my music it would definently be a problem…
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I've never actually dated someone who liked the music I liked, at the time I liked it, heh. My last gf was totally into the indie scene, at the time, I hated it. I listened to trance and house mostly. Made road trips an interesting experience. I'm finally coming around to it, a good while after we broke up. Heh.
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The last girl I went out with doesn't seem very interested in music at all, so she never had any problems with anything I listened to... it would have been nice if she was into the same things as me, but you can't have everything.
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Yeah, I do. Given that I listen to a goodly bit of extreme and/or ultra-heavy music (especially in other people's perceptions, some people upper heaviness boundary is painfully low) it's kinda essential. When I find the girl to whom 'Matriarch - Black Apples' is the perfect makeout song, I've found the girl for me.
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It doesn't matter to me. As long as you can at least tolerate my random bouts of Erasure/Roxette and extended evenings of Byrne and Bowie, I'll put up with just about anything. Except Dave Matthews Band. That is non-negotiable.
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My last girlfriend listened to bluegrass, which drove me up the fucking wall. In general, I think similar music taste is pretty important. I tend to try to get people to listen to the music that I like; if they hate everything I listen to, I can be pretty obnoxious.
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There, while covered in what I actually typed, I changed the title to get a wider scope ;)
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Identical music taste aint vital, but if I went out with a girl who listened to Britney Spears or similar; teeny-goth crap like Evanescene; or "My dick is bigger than your dick" style hiphop, I would shoot myself. Actually, I just wouldn't go out with her.
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Musical taste is a big thing to me, since my music is a big thing to me. My current crush has the perfect balance... loves a lot of the same kind of music as me, but loves bands I haven't heard of / had the time or money to invest in. This gives us a lot of music stuff to talk about while still having a lot in common.
One of my ex girlfriends started out with the same taste as me and then started listening to all kinds of horrible crap. She also ruined a lot of my favourite songs just by listening to them over and over.
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It's not a vital requirement but then my significant other likes all the same stuff as me as well as other stuff I'm new to, so I've never really considered whether it'd be a problem :D
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i think i'd definatly have to be with someone who has a passion for music (and hopefully for a respectable type, if not the same as i like) but who knows that his taste in music is NOT an extension of his penis, someone who could just be mellow about things.. not one of those "OH MY GOD! you don't know {insert band name here}??? what have you been doing? been living under a rock? they're so much better than {insert name of my favorite band here}"
grr... i dislike those people
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My girlfriend didn't listen to very much music at all when we started going out. The most underground thing she had was Weezer's debut.
That being said, since we started going out, I've turned her on to Radiohead, the Dandy Warhols, PJ Harvey, Aphex Twin, Arcade Fire, etc. :)
She's even agreed to come with me to the LCD Soundsystem/M.I.A. show in June.
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It isn't hugely important to me, though it is nice if we have similar tastes. I tend to introduce them to a lot of new stuff, and every know and then someone introduces me to something I haven't heard of. For instance, the woman I'm currently interested in has very mainstream tastes, but those tastes mesh with what I like in mainstream music (U2, The Boss, Bon Jovi, etc.)
So I guess my answer is no, it doesn't matter, as long as we don't absolutely hate the others taste.
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I've thought about this a lot and I never thought it was possible for girls to like the sort of music I do. Though having gone to a few shows recently I've been pleasently surprised by the male-to-female ratio. Basically my resoloution is that I probably wouldn't date a girl who was obsessive about really mainstream music as I'd have no way to musically relate to her and like it or not I'm kind of a record nerd, thus making music a big part of my life. A girl who's into jam bands asked me for a mix CD yesterday and I'll probably be able to cater to her as I have plenty of Psych-Folk and Psych-Improv that might appeal but if someone who was nuts about the latest nu metal dreck asked me for one I don't know what I'd be able to put on their CD. I could try to have a relationship with them but it would potentially be strained by me listening to music all the time and wanting to run off to small little shows they wouldn't go to.
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I just raided the music collection of the girl I'm currently infatuated with.
Most of it is stuff I acknowledged as decent, but had not had a chance to hear yet, which was awesome.
Decemberists, Bright Eyes, They Might Be Giants, Smashing Pumpkins, Simon and Garfunkel, Dar Williams, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, Dave Matthews, John Mayer, Jump Little Children, Moby, Jack Johnson, Blues Traveller, Wyclef Jean, Counting Crows, Most of the Weezer albums, Wilco, Jackson Browne, Tom Petty, and Cake, to name a few.
Oh, I am smitten.
My ex just mostly listened to oldies.
I guess the most important thing to me is enjoying a variety of things, and being open minded about listening to new stuff. When I put a CD in with something she's never heard before, it's a bit bewildering to have the person not even attempt to listen to it.
I put a Frank Zappa song on a mix tape I gave my current crush. Even if she didn't necessarily like it, she was amused by it :P
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It's not a big thing essentially, but it does play a part. As long as there's some sort of common ground somewhere, thats enough for me. I've introduced my boyfriend to a good few bands/artists and it's fun watching him instantly liking one i recommend to him. I'm still trying to get him to like Bjork though.
That being said, i dooooo loves the long haired, webcomic t-shirt wearin' indie boy look.
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I'll just say this, my other half's taste in music tends to suck.
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I listen to a lot of stuff he doesn't care for, but if he's willing to adapt I'm willing to do the same. He's come to see the Pixies, Ministry, Xiu Xiu, and Ani Difranco with me.. none of which he liked. He doesn't listen to anything too offensive, though. His playlist is mostly Nine Inch Nails, Aphex Twin, Radiohead, and Tori Amos.
I don't think I would exclude someone from being a potential boy/girlfriend just because they listen to shitty music, though it would seem the type of people I'm attracted to aren't the type of people who are into, say.. Britney Spears or Eminem.
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Ohhhhhh. Vague statements make me wonder. What's an example?
It's not really a big deal to me. Though some shared interest is pretty nice.
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I rate musical taste in a prospective significant other as a very high priority. I can typically tell someone their personality by how they answer the question, "So what kind of music do you listen to?"
Granted, it does not have to be identical or even similar to my tastes, however a respect for any type of music and being tolerate to things you may not like is required.
I love when people listen to different music than I do. I love getting people to listen to new music. But, I want someone that appreciates music enough to be able to sit in silence at night and stare at the sky listening to the newest Boards of Canada release, or be silly and dance to Duran Duran for 80s night at the club, or tolerate a running loop of every single Radiohead song released because I'm having a bad day. I don't believe this is too hard to ask for...
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I put a Frank Zappa song on a mix tape I gave my current crush. Even if she didn't necessarily like it, she was amused by it :P
Here's your problem; The mix tape wasn't full of Zappa songs. If it was she'd be making out with you right now.*
*Or she'd hate your guts.
BUt anyways, I really don't think I could go out with someone who didn't A. have any specific taste in music. B. Listens to rap/hip hop/etc., simply because those who do I've found tend to loathe every other genre of music. C. Those who completely despise the music I listen to. If they just haven't heard of it, that's fine, cause it's always fun to introduce people to things.
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Ohhhhhh. Vague statements make me wonder. What's an example?
Motley Crue...
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Is it possible to even like someone who enjoys Motley Crue? Jesus.
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Eh, I do love her, so I can look beyond that whole crap music thing. I'll bring her around eventually.
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I love when people listen to different music than I do. I love getting people to listen to new music. But, I want someone that appreciates music enough to be able to sit in silence at night and stare at the sky listening to the newest Boards of Canada release, or be silly and dance to Duran Duran for 80s night at the club, or tolerate a running loop of every single Radiohead song released because I'm having a bad day. I don't believe this is too hard to ask for...
Well, you wouldn't pull me.
And what's wrong with the Crue?
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On my second or so date with my now boyfriend he confessed that he broke up with a girl due to a mixed CD that she gave him. I was paranoid because he listens to really obscure stuff (as in, I still haven't a clue what he's listening to half the time) and at the time I was still listening to what was popular on the radio in the late 90's early 00's.
A couple weeks ago he asked me to make him a mix CD and I was planning on avoiding it completely but he gave me blank CDs and asked about it continually, so finally I had to put something together. Today he said, "I forgot to tell you how much I love the CD you made me!" Aww. Huge sigh of relief, too.
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That's pretty extreme to break up over a mix tape.
Music compatibility is kind of an issue. Music is a big part of my life, and I'm kind of opinionated about it.
Neutral and open usually seems the best fit, at least where I live. Indie peeps are rare, so I meet lots of Top40 Rock fans who I promptly alienate when the subject comes up by mentioning that their favorite bands are awful and mainstream hip-hoppers who aren't interested.
"I could never date someone who has a bad record collection." - High Fidelity (I think)
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Hmm I bet it was. (sixleaf)
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I think it's important that we have at least a bit in common.
Her favorites are Elliott Smith, Sleater-Kinney, REM, Quasi, Moby.
Mine are Elliott Smith, The Decemberists, Belle & Sebastian, Wilco, Corrina Repp, Quasi, Modest Mouse, among others.
She seems to dig most of the stuff I've introduced her to, though.
I couldn't have a long term relationship with someone who was listening to crap like Good Charlotte or Stain'd or any of that modern rock radio bullshit.
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Dude! My mate's band supported Quasi last night in London!
And they're supporting Sleater Kinney soon...
(That mate would be the guy I like but have done nothing about...)
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I had a girlfriend who was quasi-pretentious and very much into bad indie rock and, uh, "deep" I guess mainstream rock. This did not mesh well with my punk and metal sensibilities, however, there was a give and take and we managed quite contentedly. As a direct result of that relationship I cannot tolerate Dave Matthew's Band even to a degree.
Also, for some reason, I never get involved with subculture girls. Don't know why. The current girl I carry a torch for is a recovering hippie, but she likes 60's skinhead reggae and Black Sabbath, so we can hang out peacefully.
Note: to the ladies, never, NEVER scream "don't get hurt!" as your boyfriend leaps into a circle pit, because he will be the de facto punching bag for several songs.
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LightThievesAll, oh geez I can imagine it *holds back laugh* eh, sorry
If it was on a show it'd be funny but probably not fun in real life...
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Note: to the ladies, never, NEVER scream "don't get hurt!" as your boyfriend leaps into a circle pit, because he will be the de facto punching bag for several songs.
Truer words were never spoken my friend.
As for the gf... she listens to *country* though she's starting to like indie music a lot more. She just recently asked me to burn a copy of my Shins and Arcade Fire albums for her to keep at her desk at work, and she *loves* the Decemberists (I took her to her first show ever where they played phenominally), so it's at least getting better. And whenever I try to say that country sucks she reminds me of Iron and Wine and The Fruit Bats... both of whom I love immensely.
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aaaaah her musical taste is AWESOME.
Les Savy Fav, Xiu Xiu, Pavement, Cursive, The Good Life, Sigur Ros, Azure Ray, Now It's Overhead, Tilly and The Wall, SAY HI TO YOUR MOM, holy god. i love this girl.
i introduced her to say hi to your mom on the mix cd i gave her (which also contained a .txt asking her out. because i am super.)
the only thing she likes that threw me off entirely is Propaghandi.. she spazzed out about it and sent me a track and i couldn't dig it at all.. but that's nothing. this girl is great.
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Hell, I'd date you rgirlfriend on those grounds. Except she's taken, obviously...
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Ohhhhhh. Vague statements make me wonder. What's an example?
Motley Crue...
Heh. I like Shout at the Devil but that is about it.
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That's pretty extreme to break up over a mix tape.
I should point out that he claims that it was a "last straw" thing that ended a not-so-good relationship.
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ah ok, well that seems better.
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Yeah. Anyway, mostly I like what my boyfriend plays, but he and his best friend really like this subsubgenre called ghettotech. IE: DJ Assault. I have heard "Ass 'n Titties" so many times it's not even funny.
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My girlfriend is gaw-gaw for the 80's which suits me fine since I also like 80's and she puts up with my music when I play it.
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So this girl, I think she likes me, but she's even more shy and introverted than me, we exhchanged mixtapes. She liked mine and hers was full of old school punk on vinyl! I'm not sure I like this girl back in a romantic way though. I would like to be her friend, but then she listens to such cool music! This other girl I think likes me (at the very least mutual friends are pushing a hookup) seems to like only Jay Z and Ludicrous, which turns me off more than I'd like to admit.
that's what my brain does sometimes. Most other times I think of cool mixtapes to give to all the pretty girls I have crushes on. There's like three per class. But I'm so shy and introverted and I can't even look at them. Boo hoo.
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I should point out that he claims that it was a "last straw" thing that ended a not-so-good relationship.
Ok, that's much more reasonable.
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As for the gf... she listens to *country* though she's starting to like indie music a lot more.
I've always thought that Indie has a little bit of a country streak in it. I blame the Americana movement. ;)
I can understand her liking the Decemberists. I thought that they were pretty country when I heard some of their stuff.
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Well, not to continue to move off topic, though I guess it is, but indie is kind of varied in musical style but of course part of that is country influenced, with the loverly twang
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indie is kind of varied in musical style but of course part of that is country influenced, with the loverly twang
True, in a sense, which is why she always brings that point up. I'll be the first to admit that a lot of the bands I like are "country" in the sense that they lean more heavily towards folk rock and use banjos or slide guitars, but let's not make such a broad statement or we'll end up saying The Faint are country too. ;) And my only gripe about the country side of her is that she likes songs like Sven writes...
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Dude! My mate's band supported Quasi last night in London!
And they're supporting Sleater Kinney soon...
(That mate would be the guy I like but have done nothing about...)
Make your move, girl! That's teh hotness!
Music's definately a big deal for me. It makes a big factor in whether I like guy or not. My last fling thing was with this guy who I talked to about the dismemberment plan, wilco and built to spill for 35 minutes about. HAWT. Too bad he lives in Chicago. Also, this guy I just met last weekend and I talked about underground hip-hop and Weezer for a long time. It's always nice to find people who like what you do since I don't know too many people with my musical tastes.
But its not totally imperative, I suppose. My exboyfriend was into a lot of metal and industrial (ministry, jack off jill, etc.) and my exgirlfriend loved techno and rave music, so it's all good.
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Make your move, girl! That's teh hotness!
Haha...I sort of did. It sort of backfired.
Damn.
And now I'm being sort of emo about it now.
ALL I WANT IS A SWEET GUY I CAN GO TO GIGS WITH, DAMNIT!
Ok, done being emo.
As you were.
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Music can help you meet or get to know someone and break the ice and whatnot but as long as they are tolerant and open minded it doesn't really matter to me what music someone likes. Of course it's nice to share interests but it's not essential. However if you try and tell me I can't ever listen to any of my "crappy CDs" in my own house while you are there you can get to fuck.
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Wanting a sweet significant other to go to shows with is not emo, it's a natural "need" of many single music lovers. (though should not stop you from going to and enjoying shows) Just don't write a song about it ;)
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Music is a good thing to share... means you can actually go out together and not hate what's going on while the other one is loving it, because like it or not, if you go out somewhere, there's going to be music somewhere.
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Good taste in music is hott. Maybe even hottt. Frankly, a girl wit a bigger collection of indie than mine would make me cream le pants.
And in a SO, music taste is necessary. Anyone in a lasting relationship with me would need to at least enjoy indie. Music is too big a part of my life to leave it out for some uncultured hussy.
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Good taste in music is hott. Maybe even hottt. Frankly, a girl wit a bigger collection of indie than mine would make me cream le pants.
Just to add to that, a girl that has some musical talent (especially piano or vocals) adds a multiplier to the hottt.
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Hmmmm...
My music collection seems to be a replacement for a SO...and doesn't make me hott, or indeed hottt.
Which is a shame, as all the indie guys I know seem to be mysteriously attracted to petite blonde girls with little more than a passing interest in music (read as: they're all libertines fans), and have no use for a six foot ginger/blonde girl who can enthuse about miserable music until the cows come home, get bored and go out again...
I think it's because a lot of guys use their music collection as a penis extension, so when a girl has a load more stuff than them, it gets confusing.
That, and I lack the cuteness factor that tends to help a relationship get started.
Damn, I'm bitter tonight.
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I had sensed some bitterness before with the 'dumped' thread.
I think muffy needs a hug. :)
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Thank you!
I think I can finally stop whoring my misery on these boards and get back to being an indie fuck, oh yes! :)
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Scene Chicks.
I'd so do a scene chick at the snap of anyones fingers.
Yes, I am stereotyping, and yes I am enjoying it.
I'd love it if a girl was into a lot of music like me. Instead of most girls who have to listen to just indie, or just hardcore. I'd fall in love with any pretty girl, that loves Johnny Cash as much as me. Like instantly.
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Which is a shame, as all the indie guys I know seem to be mysteriously attracted to petite blonde girls with little more than a passing interest in music (read as: they're all libertines fans)
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Holy crap, that's the greatest thing I've ever read. This double sided equation is going to need all my university calculus knowledge. Here goes:
Muffy = clever+rockin'
with a bit of factoring.....
Muffy = teh sex!
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Skibas, you are my new favourite person. You own.
:)
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Pff!!! Shut up girl! YOU OWN THIS TOWN!!
Seriously half the fkn scenesters round here wouldnt know a good band if it bit them on the ass... Its all "babyshambles,blocparty,babyshambles,blocparty" BLAH. They need to be taught a lesson and you teach it when you hit the decks...
Sarah & I are going to form the official 'Muffy Fanclub' you rock THAT much!!
xx
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Wanting a sweet significant other to go to shows with is not emo, it's a natural "need" of many single music lovers.
Yahr. I want one of them too :(
My last gf didn't go to gigs...*shudders*
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hmm... i got dumped by my girlfriend because i listened to government alpha and v/vm while we were making out. what a bugger.
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All the girls I've ended up with liked Pop - Punk and other stuff along that line sadly.
Seems hard to find girls really into Extreme Metal, but then music can be a movable goal.
I can deal with most guitar based music, as long as I'm not dragged to horrible gigs that cost me loads, but going because she wants to is fine, all part of compromise and stuff.
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Ah man, the girl I want...she's taken unfortunately, but damn, I've heard her make out tape. It has Acid Bath - Cassie Eats Cockroaches, Cradle of Filth - Of Dark Blood and Fucking, Nattefrost - Sluts of Hell, Killing Miranda - I Know What You Want, Carpathian Forest - House of the Whipcord, Skyclad - Polkageist, Danzig - Killer Wolf, Venom - Teachers Pet etc. etc.
That's not the only reason I want her, but damn. DAMN.
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Kill her other half and make with the voodoo mind control, it's clearly the best option with a girl like this.
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I'm not very experienced in the whole relationship thing
But I don't think music really matters unless you love their taste in music, in which case it's a big plus, or if you really detest their listening choices, which always causes huge problems. Of course, i live so far in the backwaters that music culture is like a stagnant swamp. so anyone i've met hasn't had any weird tastes in music, and the sort of people who listen to too much emininem or Backstreet Boys or similar music were never the people i wanted to be with. But yeah...the music scene over here is like a stagnant swamp of festering suckage. Not only are bands like Good Charlotte, The Blackeyed Peas, and Britney Spears considered some of the greatest bands ever by most of the people here, but bands like Evanesence and even Avril Lavigne are considered EXTREMELY indie around here.......*boggles*
I mean, yeah, my taste isn't the best, especially since i only really got into music since 1999, but c'mon! Please let the pain go away....
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Hmmmm this is an interesting one, I can't say I've ever dated anyone who didn't like fairly similar music to me cause it's such a big part of my life and I usually meet guys through going to gigs or the like ...... Even the random hot guy i made out with in a club the other night had the same music taste as me and we only met cause we started bitching about the teeny boppy trashed being played in the club (oh the irony) I was even found guilty once of walking across the room naked to change the song on my boyfriends computer cos there was no way anything kinky was going to happen to Modest Mouse ........ so yeah i need my men to like similar music to me; i guess its part of the whole common interests thing
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Me and my bf have similar..ish tastes but I love the fact we don't agree 100% I'm into bands he's never really heard and vice-versa. It's nice like that because it's like we both have something to contribute. I'm currently trying to get him to see the wonder that is My Dying Bride and then I think I may have to work on Nightwish. He's bringing over a Tristania cd next time I see him which I've wanted to listen to fo a while (but am sadly lacking in money after going to Berlin last month). He is scarily obsessed with Cradle of Filth and while I don't dislike them (they were really good when we went to see them last Tuesday) I don't think I'll ever like them nearly as much as he does. It's just nice not to have exactly the same tastes because you can expand your own tastes through listening to each others stuff.
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You've got to have a disparity some what. A good base that you can both agree on as good music is good but you wont expand and find bands you end up liking but never heard of before if you both agree 100%
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Hmmm, findind new bands is certainly not something I look for in a girl. All 3 times, I've known every band they like and they've known none of the bands I liked. Makes me feel so necro.
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I think my problem is just that I like everything, and when I say everything, I mean everything. So its hard to meet guys that can put up with my random musical tastes. It seems that all the songs I cant get out of my head at any given moment never seem to mesh together, which means the playlist/mix CD Im listening to in the car or whatever could make impossible leaps by connecting songs that will never again be connected, even in an alternate universe. Which is fine for me, but seems to be completely foreign to the guys I meet, they think its weird to like more than one band, let alone different genres. It doesn't help that I always find myself attracted to "nerdy" types.. so who knows what they'll be listening to, if anything. The guy I'm seeing at the moment seems to at least be able to tolerate most of what I listen to and maybe even like some of it, plus the little music he's into I enjoy as well, which is good enough for me. So YAY! I win! .... one to nothin!
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I like everything too... It's hard to get people to understand why you have the Moonlight Sonata between Dream Theathre's Pull me Under and Insane in the Membrane.
Luckly my gf has a similar musical taste (i.e. everything) so, although she might disagree on some parts of my taste, she is at least not bothered by this.
And we both play music. All the time. So its important for us to have a better half that can put up with our music.
This has cause problems in past relationships... as far as Im concerend anyway.
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i always fall for Tool fans
and i am NOT a Tool fan
life is strange like that
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My ex-girlfriend, or really I've started to call her The ex-girlfriend. I'll avoid going all-emo as to why I use the definite article with her, but I'm sure you understand. Anyway she was/is a Dave Matthews fan. She dragged me to one of his shows. I tried to like it, but...yeah it just didn't work. Of course I dragged her to an R.E.M. show -- we were in the 4th row for that versus the back row of the field of a stadium for DMB, so I feel victorious in the whole battle.
We did go see U2, Weezer, and Radiohead (twice) together so for the most part it worked out.
~~Willis
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my boyfriend listens to alot of stupid bands but he does have some good taste. he likes the killers, franz ferdinand, and interpol which are really good so i can be forgiving when he listens to other bands that arent good.
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I can live with different music tastes, it can often be healthy...well maybe not in my case.
My [best friend/ex-girlfriend/girlfriend?] has a very different view of musical bliss.
Her record collection entails guttermouth, nofx, less than jake, reggie and the full effect, new found glory ...etc.
Mine is more like:
The Arcade Fire, Cursive, Broken Social Scene, Lights Out Berlin, Jets to Brazil, Iron and Wine...etc.
We argue, but at least it's constructive, and the rest of the time is perfect.