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Title: I'm scared...
Post by: Tom on 30 May 2008, 16:18
...for the future. I probably won't get the marks I need to get into the courses at Uni that I want to do. I honestly don't have any reliable regular friends, I don't get along with anyone at my school. I've been told I have potential. Therefore, I have standards I will most likely fail to meet. I don't have any redeeming qualities. I've become increasingly short sighted over the space of the month. I only cheats and dirt bags seem to be excelling and I've been worrying about the "post-apocalyptic sci-fi" future for the Earth. I know that nothing I do will ever be good enough, and any attempts of mine (or society's) to try and benefit the environment will be totally futile.

Someone please tell me it'll be okay.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: jhocking on 30 May 2008, 16:24
Well I found out today that I got a freelance job that I've been angling for. Does that help?
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Slick on 30 May 2008, 16:28
Nothing you can do will ever be worthwhile.
Words to live by.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Liz on 30 May 2008, 16:29
Good lord, don't be such a downer. Yeesh.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Slick on 30 May 2008, 16:39
I am twenty-one-and-a-half. I have failed my potential for the past few years. What is it that made me play video games instead of taking pictures/writing music/studying math? I'm not sure, but whatever the fuck it was, it'll make you feel a lot worse six years hence if you don't sit down and convince yourself it's worth it to try something. You've got potential, that's great, it takes work to turn that potential into something useful. It'll all be OK, but only if you can be bothered to care enough about something to actualize your potential.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Tom on 30 May 2008, 16:41
(Sixteen? Really? I honestly thought you were much older.)

Really?
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: a pack of wolves on 30 May 2008, 16:52
Someone please tell me it'll be okay.

Yes and no. Lots of people don't like anyone at their high school, don't concern yourself. It is after all a random group of people placed together based on geographical location and age, neither of which you get to choose. There's no reason you should find anyone whose company you really like. As for the potential thing, you're really young. You might feel like you should know exactly what to do with your life by the time you leave high school but that's not true, you've got decades and decades ahead of you to work that out.

It's also worth considering the possible awesomeness of the post-apocalyptic sci-fi future. Seriously, it could be brilliant. Just imagine, a clean slate to start again but with mutant biker gangs and clothes made out of car tires. However, you're utterly wrong about not being able to do anything about environmental damage. All it takes is for people to be bothered to do something and you clearly are bothered, so that's great. You'll probably feel less powerless as you get older and find more opportunities to actually take action. Admittedly maybe not a lot less powerless but it really is possible.

So basically, you're right to worry about the future and that the world is pretty fucked but it doesn't have to be. And this thread really should be made into the blog thread.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: ledhendrix on 30 May 2008, 17:00
I wouldn't worry about it, millions of people have gone through the same feelings that you are going through right now. At worst your going to end up someone in a job that they don't like, depressed and suicidal with not much reason to live.


Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Slick on 30 May 2008, 18:40
Nothing you can do will ever be worthwhile.
Words to live by.

I would like to submit this as Evidence Item A as scientific proof of what is commonly called 'Bullshit'.

See, when I say that, I guess I ought to clarify. I remember those words as something to fight against. Like how my high school english teacher would always encourage us to imagine her, reading over our shoulders as we write, saying 'so what?'. The point there was to make sure we were damned certain we knew what we were saying, had explained our point, and had it backed up. My intent is that you ought to be able to say, no, I am doing shit that matters. Look at this, it matters.

I realize that this is ridiculous to read into the words I said, but they are a mantra of mine that I forget that the rest of the world interprets differently.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Tom on 30 May 2008, 18:53
If I used that mantra, I'd be too scared to write half the stuff I do because my English teacher is a middle-aged eastern-suburbs mother (she's also the HOD).
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Blue Kitty on 30 May 2008, 19:01
I find that worrying about things leads no where, just do your best and things will work out in the end.

oh god, I have become my father
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: ampersandwitch on 30 May 2008, 19:13
WOE IS ME, TOO
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: IronOxide on 30 May 2008, 19:19
yeah seriously
i felt crummy for the past 1/2 year roughly, then realized "hey i have nothing to complain about"

in summary: don't be such a whinging little prick because i was one and i realized it was dumb and i am the authority on everything ever right?



I did this in the past year, worrying about college and shit, and let me tell you, as soon as you hit the "hey I have nothing to complain about" part, things start to get better.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: RedLion on 30 May 2008, 19:34
The Dalai Lama is a cool dude:

"If there is a solution to your problem, then why worry?
If there is not a solution to your problem, then what good will worrying do?"
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Lines on 30 May 2008, 20:20
Someone please tell me it'll be okay.

Try graduating college with a mostly useless degree with no job prospects! High school was easy compared to this neurosis! (And don't say "Don't worry about it" because seriously, I have no job and no health insurance in two weeks. This causes worry whether I want it or not. Besides, the more I worry, the more motivated I am to find a job!)

But really though. I hated the vast majority of my high school and only talk to about 10 people I knew from there. Some people I know don't even talk to any. But the cool thing is, once you get out of high school, you find more people in your niche and you make better friends.

Besides, high school always sucks ass and the people who loved it are probably full of shit!
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: 0bsessions on 30 May 2008, 20:28
Or they have a really shitty life going on out in the adult world.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Nodaisho on 30 May 2008, 21:01
I left highschool, but I am still too young to tell you whether it worked or not. I'm going to college, though, hopefully that piece of paper will be worth something. All my friend that are still in high school hate it too, and I am pretty sure some of them agree with me when I say that whoever decided that a bunch of hormonal teenagers should be locked up with each other for seven hours a day five days a week should be shot.

I always took you for early twenties as well.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: MrSteevo on 30 May 2008, 21:15
The future's big my friend, too large to comprehend.
So look at today, look at the nice green trees we have.
Look at all the money and possession you own.
You may not need them all or want them, but they're there.
Be greatful for that.
If something goes crappy in your Day, then take the rest of the day and cancel out the crap.
You only have to care about 12 hours of each day.
So make those some great hours.

Also I like high school and I'm fine in my life, life doesnt have to be crappy. Just cause your additude towards highschool was bad and you turned out ok doesnt me the opposite happens to the people who liked it.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Spluff on 30 May 2008, 21:43
High school is pretty fun, sometimes. Most of the work is boring and tedious, but it's fun to hang around with a bunch of teenagers and just do whatever.

Not that I wouldn't rather be doing something else, but it's not torture or anything.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Tom on 30 May 2008, 22:12
Hate should require a reason for being, hate for hate's sake only be gets further hate.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Lines on 31 May 2008, 07:55
Also I like high school and I'm fine in my life, life doesnt have to be crappy. Just cause your additude towards highschool was bad and you turned out ok doesnt me the opposite happens to the people who liked it.

I was being sarcastic. Hooray for you liking it, your school is probably a lot better than mine was. I liked it, too, at one point, but then something happened and we lots book bags and got one of the worst dress codes ever because there were too many threats and fights at my school. And seriously, when you don't like 95% of your school, do not like drama (teenage or school politics), and think your education suffers because you have assholes in your class who would rather torment your rather nice teachers than learn, yes, you begin to hate it and cherish the day you have to leave. So yeah, I had friends and I had fun, but there was too much bad to weight out the good that high school is a situation I never want to experience again.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Slick on 31 May 2008, 11:05
Nothing you can do will ever be worthwhile.
Words to live by.

I would like to submit this as Evidence Item A as scientific proof of what is commonly called 'Bullshit'.

*personal philosophical junk*

After re-reading I realize that, when I said those words at first in this thread, I did actually mean them discouragingly.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Scrambled Egg Machine on 02 Jun 2008, 15:53
Fear not, getting laid will make you feel better.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: öde on 02 Jun 2008, 16:36
Listen (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hkL8qgG_VPo) to Stephen Fry.
Title: Re: I'm scared...
Post by: Dissy on 02 Jun 2008, 16:43
Its not going to be okay.  Seriously, we are headed for complete annihilation unless we get our acts together.

We have people yelling about global warming, then turning around and flying personal jets.

We are running out of oil, and are too dependant on it.

We have asshats running around saying make fuel out of corn, and killing off people in third world countries beacuse they have no food.