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Title: Things People Assume About You
Post by: CrowFairy on 04 Feb 2013, 17:47

Uh, this is pretty straight-forward. Just list and/or discuss things that people assume about you before they've even really gotten to know you. It can be from just the way you look or the first conversation you had with them or whatever.

I'll start. :)

For some reason, quite a few people have assumed I'm a lesbian when they met me. I'm honestly not sure why. One of my friends eventually confessed that's what he thought because I had been talking about how much I like being outside (I guess I didn't mention how conditional that love is :P). And then when I hugged my friends (who happened to be girls), it was almost solidified.... until I also gave him a hug. I'm not sure how that magically makes me not a lesbian (nor am I certain as to how liking the outdoors meant that I was a lesbian), but he hasn't thought it since then. I've never thought that I give off any air of any sort of sexuality toward anyone, so this one confuses me. I don't know how one would determine someone's sexuality without them outright saying it, so maybe that's just me.

People also assume I'm a lot younger than I actually am. At age 17:

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Please read the following sentence in literally the most condescending voice you can possibly imagine: "You're a smart little girl, aren't you?" I almost said, "Yes, that's why I'm in the National Honor Society and the Beta Club. :angel:" I simply took a deep breath and thanked her. Le sigh. I believe it was also that year that a lady in a bookstore said I looked like I was the same age as her daughter and wondered if I had any recommendations for her. I asked what she was studying in school. Mythology, of course. Which is primarily middle-school territory where I'm from. I pointed out a few books that she might appreciate and kept my mouth shut about my age.

And also that I'm flirting with them just because I'm being nice (because I'm friendly with everyone).

Another thing that people assume is that I'm well-adjusted, and I think everyone here knows I'm not. :psyduck:

And people also assume I won't get mad at them or call them out when they're being stupid and/or spiteful.

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If you say that you "are so OCD," then yeah, I'm going to say something about it. I was pretty subtle recently when a girl said that one of the three words she'd use to describe herself is "OCD," and I said, "Yeah, I have OCD, so I get that." The look on her face was priceless. :evil: She recovered rather well. :P

A few months ago, I ended up standing up to a guy I'd met like twice who was bullying one of my friends. He was pretty surprised when I spoke out against him when no one else was.

Something else people tend to assume about me is what I like. For example, I'm still trying to figure out why this one guy in high school (chemistry class) was so certain I liked the Backstreet Boys. All I said was that I knew the words to a Backstreet Boys song that was on "Don't Forget the Lyrics." And he said, "Well, duh, of course you did." I didn't even really listen to any boy bands until I was in high school (and even then, it was--and is--mostly the Beatles), and it certainly wasn't anything I'd felt like divulging to anyone. :? That one's always made me wonder, you know?


So what kinds of things do people assume about you when you meet them?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: de_la_Nae on 04 Feb 2013, 18:48

Well outside of the obvious sir/ma'am issues that I've rambled about elsewhere...

More than a few people sort of assume I like men, sexually, and not women.  Er, hold on, let me look this up...ah here, we go, an androsexual. (a lovely little term a local Kinkster taught me). I think there must be some sort of stereotype playing into this but I'm not really well-equipped to unpackage it and figure it out. I *do* like some men, they can be quite cute and handsome and hunksterrific! But not many.

Also I guess I'm a big, tall lady, in addition to being chunky, and I guess I don't really smile a whole lot? Some people tell me I can be intimidating, especially if you don't know me. Which to me is crazy, partially because I've met me; I'm pretty harmless and (I like to think pleasantly) frivolous most of the time. Though also probably for the reason David Wong mentions in one of his latest essays (http://"http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-ways-youre-accidentally-making-everyone-hate-you/"), "The trouble with us less-than-social types is that we assume we're never the person in power, in any situation." Anyway it's useful for walking through troublesome places and neighborhoods in Bloomington (though it's just freakin' Bloomington, I should probably put quotation marks around that) without getting overtly hassled, not so much for some social interactions.

I'm sure I'll think of more later, but I've gotta run real quick.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: dr. nervioso on 04 Feb 2013, 19:00

Wait a minute de_la_nae, you live in Bloomington? Oh my god, we must talk about it! I love that place! Or rather specific areas of that place.


Ummmm assumptions...
People assume I am really intelligent since I am a microbiology major, which I am not really all that smart. I'm pretty clueless in some areas like physics, math, and writing.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: de_la_Nae on 05 Feb 2013, 01:49

Fufufufufu...I told you in the meetup thread we lived near each other, you doink! Just because I saw you mention living in this lovely, awful state another time.

Also I laugh, because as part of my Respiratory Therapy degree I'm in a basic Microbiology class right now. Well, this semester I mean.

Edit: Oh God, tell me you're not Dr. Mosley. I would laugh lovingly for at least half an hour if you were.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: dr. nervioso on 05 Feb 2013, 04:25

I knew you lived in indiana, but I didn't think you'd live in one of my favorite towns there

Also, who is this Mosley person, one of your professors or an evil genius or something else?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: de_la_Nae on 05 Feb 2013, 04:36

Just my instructor. I figured you *probably* weren't, but it was such a sitcom-style thing I had to be sure!

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 05 Feb 2013, 05:43

People assume I'm lazy because I'm overweight. I usually tell them I do in fact exercise but I'm still lazy for other reasons.
People also tend to be surprised if it comes up that I'm interested in photography, drawing, writing, film-making, generally anything creative production related. I'm not sure why but once I was told, "You never talk about doing it!"

Not so much any more but on the internet it was almost always assumed I was a male in their mid-20s.

Quote from: LoliBot on 04 Feb 2013, 17:47

And also that I'm flirting with them just because I'm being nice (because I'm friendly with everyone).

I get this once in a while, almost always immediately followed with people thinking I'm a prude or promiscuous (or sometimes both somehow) because I say I was just being polite.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: lepetitfromage on 05 Feb 2013, 07:18

The only thing I ever really get consistently is "creative". I can't quite argue with that lol




I've always had a lot of fun playing around with my wardrobe and it's amusing to me the assumptions that come with that. Most of them are right, but I think mainly because I was dressing to suit my current mindset.

I used to dress like a Spice Girl gone goth in high school= people just thought I was weird.

Then did the girl in little boy's clothing in college (i was bordering on hipsterland and dating Peter Pan....so it kinda worked). I always got "fun". Which isn't a stretch because in college I went a little.....overboard.

Then I went granny chic. I used to get the whole "prim and proper" thing which was kind of amusing because it was the farthest from the truth. I was a HUGE stoner and partied pretty regularly.

That was followed by 60s influenced flowing hippie clothes. You can guess what was assumed. It was pretty much true.

Then "I am depressed and angry and I hate everything and therefore will only wear jeans and tank tops because I can't be bothered to care about how i look or even do laundry for that matter". I really never paid attention to what people assumed because I couldn't really be bothered to care about that either. That was not a fun time.  :-(


Now, I'm kind of doing a vintage with a twist thing. Cutesy florals and lace with ripped jeans, motorcycle jackets and bizzaro jewelry. I'm consistently getting "unique" and "interesting". I'm ok with that.



Only other thing I notice people assuming about me is that I want to talk to them even if I don't know them. I smile regularly at passerby just because I think it's a nice thing to do if we make eye contact. Most of the time, this is fine. But on a regular basis I'll get people who start up conversations telling me about their whole lives in a span of 15 minutes. In the last 6 months, I had a guy come up to me in the grocery store start complaining about his phone company, another dude who decided that I invited him under my umbrella when it was raining (and told me so), a lady that came up to me in the grocery store to chat about coupons (she was actually fun to talk to) and countless others before them. When I lived in the city, I was on the subway heading out for the night, dressed up fancy and listening to my iPod. An older gentleman using a cane was standing next to my seat, getting ready to leave the train and started slamming his cane on the floor and yelling to me "I know you can hear me!! Why won't you listen?!?!"

Then there was the guy who I noticed jacking off across from me on the subway (I dozed off and woke up to that. tons o fun), the drunk lady that made small talk with me on St. Patrick's day when I was taking the train home to my parents' house, the bus driver that constantly made conversation with me over the course of 3 months and then asked me on a date.......the list goes on. My best friend calls me a weirdo magnet. One good thing did come from being approached constantly by random strangers though.....I met my friend Katie. I believe that I've spoken about her in other threads but it's a long and sad story so if I haven't I'll save it for another day.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Zingoleb on 05 Feb 2013, 08:12

People always assume I'm okay.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: cesium133 on 05 Feb 2013, 08:39

I went to a Catholic college, and there was a certain group of students there we referred to as the "God Squad" -- the ones who went to church for every single service, and tended to only hang out with similar people. When they met me freshman year, they for some reason wanted to hang out with me, even though I never went to church. Only later did I find out it was because they assumed I was Jewish (I'm guessing because I never went to church, and I tend to use a few Yiddish-like phrases in my speech, a habit I picked up from my also-not-Jewish mom) and they were trying to convert me.  :psyduck: When they found out I was an ordinary heathen they gave up, and most of them never so much as spoke to me again.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: LeeC on 05 Feb 2013, 08:58

people always assume I am happy and have friends... :psyduck:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: LTK on 05 Feb 2013, 09:09

People sometimes assume I'm a foreign student like my friends, since I mostly hang out with non-Dutch fellow students. I put some effort in speaking English without a Dutch accent, so I don't mind. :-D

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 05 Feb 2013, 09:14

People assume I'm some tough person, because of my piercings. The truth is that bugs make me squeal with terror and I hate needles.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Carl-E on 05 Feb 2013, 10:39

People assume I'm hard working.  Actually, I'm pretty fucking lazy.  And a procrastinator. 


I'd better get some grading done...

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: The Seldom Killer on 05 Feb 2013, 11:10

People assume I'm clever/smart/intelligent etc. As in above average.

This has actually gone on a long time, since I was in school and in a way it fucked me up for quite a while. A lot of expectation was place on me to do things and achieve things mentally and academically etc. Thereafter when I didn't, I was construed as failing, not applying myself, letting myself down. I was also letting others down by not living up to what I was expected to be capable of. Of course when I heard all of this from parents, teachers, friends and other mentors I naturally believed it. No surprise really, it's what children do. So I tried harder. And failed harder. And the cycle perpetuated.

Of course I kept on believing that I was clever and had a hard time understanding why I was always failing, fucking up and getting nowhere. I got into this nasty pattern of being told I was smart, trying to operate at that level, failing, getting frustrated and depressed that I couldn't seem to be good at anything, self sabotaging.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, it took me a long time to work out that I simply wasn't smart and the reason people think I am is because I'm quick, mentally speaking (physically I'm a lumbering oaf). Trouble is, quick just gets you to the same point a bit faster than most people. Doesn't mean that point is any more right or insightful or enlightened. And then comes that moment when you're wrong, or ignorant or foolish and people trot out that cliche "C'mon, you're smart, you should know this already".

 I'm not bad at spin either, telling people what they want to hear. It doesn't help though, so I try to do that a lot less.

It took me a while longer to get to a point where I was happy with who I am as well.  Probably happier than I've ever been before, certainly more at peace.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 05 Feb 2013, 13:50

I think I know myself too well to guess what they assume about me.

One thing is that I have an annoying habit of deliberately becoming an overbearing, loudmouthed caricature of myself when I meet new people, I guess to test their mettle. This is regardless of whether I've taken drugs at the time, but those certainly didn't help.

I wear a mask all the time, so I think a lot of people think they know me when in reality I could probably count on one hand the people that have actually met me, and increasingly I wonder if my ex was one of them. So I guess many people assume they know me, but don't.

Speaking of my ex, here's an amusing story about people assuming things about me. The first time we slept together, I very visibly pulled her at a party and took her home. The morning after, the girls who hosted the party were asking her about me.

First they assumed I was a virgin (I wasn't). Then they assumed I was shit in bed (I'm not). Then they assumed I was really soft and tender in bed (I wasn't, at least not on that occasion). All three of these things amused the shit out of me.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: MisterHeal on 07 Mar 2013, 21:39

People seem to believe I am a lot younger then I actually am. This only tends to happen in places that aren't a University, because they set a certain expectation for age. But when I'm at the mall or at my local comic book store I always get these 14 year olds hitting on me it's like oohhh nnnoooooooo. This will come in handy when I'm like 50 and people think I'm 40... Hopefully.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Patrick on 07 Mar 2013, 23:32

People's assumptions about me are pretty polarized one way or another. Either they think I want to hear what they have to say (rarely ever true), or that I despise all people, and especially them (only half true, in most cases).

People also generally assume that because I have spent a lot of time living in places they'd consider exotic (read: anywhere but the west coast of the continental US), that they have the attention span to hear about it in the kind of detail that I think is worth sharing. The usual response to me saying "You won't really understand even if I do tell you" is denial and assertions to the contrary. And if I do eventually relent and decide to share, literally every single time I tell anybody except my closest friends any kind of detailed information about my life abroad, people's eyes just glaze over after maybe 15 seconds (generous estimate).

Now, following Gaz's lead re: bedroom related stuff, most girls assume I am a lamb. That or not particularly well-endowed. Little do they know until the time comes.  :evil:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: henri bemis on 07 Mar 2013, 23:56

People always think I'm either a sweet, quiet, unassuming pushover, or an angry cunt.  And I guess I am a bit of both - I'm terrible at bluffing, so if I dislike someone, it's impossible for me to hide.  But I also try to see the best in everyone, and confrontation and anger tend to make me cry, so it can be hard to bring out my mean side.

But whether people think I'm sweet or angry, I'm always quiet.  I have literally had people be surprised that I am able to speak  :-\.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: catflea on 08 Mar 2013, 03:33

Old dudes seem to assume I want to sleep with them,  as do 18 year olds... 

No-one in their 30s though (which is my target demographic)

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Carl-E on 08 Mar 2013, 04:52

Quote from: catflea on 08 Mar 2013, 03:33

Old dudes wish that I want to sleep with them... 

After all, hope springs eternal. 

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 08 Mar 2013, 06:15

Someone just this week thought that I was still in high school. I'm 27. That was, literally, 10 years ago.

It's even worse if I wear a backpack or colored jeans or barrettes or something.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: pwhodges on 08 Mar 2013, 07:01

When I took my son to school in his teens I was sometimes mistaken for his brother.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Game and Watch Forever on 08 Mar 2013, 07:22

And when I used to walk my brother to school when he was still in elementary, people thought I was his father.  :laugh:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: idontunderstand on 08 Mar 2013, 12:03

There was this stripper (we were in Reeperbahn) who told me I "looked OLDER" when I told her I was 26. She had a pot belly and bad teeth. I may never recover.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: MisterHeal on 08 Mar 2013, 13:56

Well, it's good to know I'm not the only one...

Quote from: idontunderstand on 08 Mar 2013, 12:03

There was this stripper (we were in Reeperbahn) who told me I "looked OLDER" when I told her I was 26. She had a pot belly and bad teeth. I may never recover.

I'm still recovering from that, that's scary.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Blood-Tree on 08 Mar 2013, 14:35

People assume I'm not from Wales but I don't have a stereotypical Welsh accent, so it's fairly understandable.

It's often assumed that I'm intelligent too but I think that's mostly just due to the accent (and maybe the job).

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 08 Mar 2013, 15:55

People assume I am American. A lot.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Redball on 08 Mar 2013, 16:32

Appearance? Accent? Mannerisms?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: henri bemis on 08 Mar 2013, 19:17

Quote from: Game and Watch Forever on 08 Mar 2013, 07:22

And when I used to walk my brother to school when he was still in elementary, people thought I was his father.  :laugh:

Haha, same here, though they assumed I was his mom (I am 15 years older than him, so it's not unreasonable). 

It's worse if it's just me, him, and my dad out together, though, because people assume I'm my dad's wife (he had me when he was pretty young).  It's made for some uncomfortable moments in public  :laugh:.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Bluesummers on 08 Mar 2013, 21:40

Many people assume I'm gay.

My wife assumed I was gay when she first met me...the shirt that said "YAOI" in big bright letters probably helped out with that assumption...

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Zingoleb on 08 Mar 2013, 21:44

everyone at school thought i was gay.

i sure showed them.  :mrgreen:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Loki on 09 Mar 2013, 01:41

People assume that I am doing well academically and are surprised (and in some cases, disappointed) when I tell them I barely passed a test.

My mother is the worst in this regard.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: catflea on 09 Mar 2013, 12:32

Quote from: Unicorn on 08 Mar 2013, 21:44

everyone at school thought i was gay.

i sure showed them.  :mrgreen:

Moi Aussi  :-P

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Kugai on 09 Mar 2013, 12:49

People assume I'm a little eccentric because of my interests

In some ways they're right, but it surprises them just how ordinary I am most of the time.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 09 Mar 2013, 14:56

Quote from: Redball on 08 Mar 2013, 16:32

Appearance? Accent? Mannerisms?

I don't think I particularly look like I'm from anywhere. I guess pale white skin and light coloured eyes suggest European though? Accent seems to be the reason. I also tend to switch between pronunciations. "Choob" versus "toob" for "tube" example.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: MisterHeal on 13 Mar 2013, 17:30

People who don't know me seem to misunderstand my humour, which is larger sarcastic and either self-deprecating or about a friend. The self-deprecating part seems too lead people into believing I'm like depressed or have low self-esteem or something? Most people in University take themselves too seriously anyways! (More so, Engineers)

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Asterus on 13 Mar 2013, 17:59

For some reason, many people seem to assume that I'm "smart" and usually something of a stoic. Admittedly, I might have seemed smart up to high school because of my preference to read and look up information I came across, but I have no exceptional affinity for retaining information. And I prefer to listen to a conversation rather than participate, and consider information before reacting rather than react the way people think I should react.
Also, people assume I'm much younger than I really am. It's probably due to my slight build and inability to grow facial hair. When I was 17 and worked for Meijers, my (now ex-)girlfriend's coworkers thought it was odd that she was dating someone "3+" years younger than her, and someone asked me what the minimum age to work there was. More recently, a coworker finally got a clue when he met my "older" brother (Or as I call it, my little "big" brother)
And somehow, I always get the "Ninja" label applied to me. Something about the way I move and how I hate making excessive noise. And possibly a race card.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Papersatan on 13 Mar 2013, 20:34

That I am trying to lose weight or am sympathetic to their struggle to do so.

I just wrote a whole rant about it on Tumblr.

I don't know when weight loss became so ingrained that it was a polite topic of conversation like the weather or the local sports team.  It is disgusting that I am expected to hate myself, and to be prepared to bond over that hatred with other people, particularly women.  I don't want to hear you tell me you "have been so good" as though eating was a sin and restraint from french fries makes you a good person.  I don't want to hear about bathing suits, or dresses, or small successes ("I am down 5 pounds!").  I am no longer keeping my mouth shut when people whine that they are getting fat.  So what. I *am* fat.  What about it?


Related:
That I am unhappy with my body and desperate to hear it praised (see every "but, I love big girls!" pick up line).

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: pwhodges on 14 Mar 2013, 00:45

Quote from: MisterHeal on 13 Mar 2013, 17:30

Most people in University take themselves too seriously anyways! (More so, Engineers)

I know what you mean - but it wasn't like that when I studied engineering myself.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: GarandMarine on 14 Mar 2013, 02:22

That I'm older then I am, that I'm crazy, scary, ultra-conservative... christian for some odd reason.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: blanktom on 14 Mar 2013, 04:30

Because I don't really have a natural disposition towards smiling - and I guess my face, when expressionless, kind of looks bored, people tend to assume that I am miserable all the time. I am constantly getting told to cheer up by customers at work, which pisses me off no end. Just because I'm not walking around with a stupid grin on my face doesn't mean I'm not happy. I am actually a deeply contented person, despite suffering from cyclothymia and pretty bad SAD, which I have learned to deal with pretty well now.

Also, as another side effect of this, people kind of assume that I'm boring or have limited interests until they get to know me better. I often find that people assume because I am into one thing (sports for example), I might not be interested in something else (like perhaps literature). The fact is that my tastes are incredibly broad, I like indie rock as much as I like hip hop, and I like watching Glee as much as I like watching documentaries about American history.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: K1dmor on 14 Mar 2013, 12:19

Quote from: blanktom on 14 Mar 2013, 04:30

Because I don't really have a natural disposition towards smiling - and I guess my face, when expressionless, kind of looks bored, people tend to assume that I am miserable all the time.

 Well...Your avatar is House's face.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 14 Mar 2013, 13:16

At least it's not lupus.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 14 Mar 2013, 13:33

You ASSUME it's not lupus

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 14 Mar 2013, 13:44

It's also not bone cancer.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Patrick on 14 Mar 2013, 14:00

People assume that because I play acoustic guitar and enjoy folk music, I also enjoy Mumford & Sons

I fucking despise Mumford & Sons

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 14 Mar 2013, 14:14

Now to be fair, they have that one pretty good song that they play over and over and over and over and over

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Zingoleb on 14 Mar 2013, 14:57

At least they own up to it.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: sitnspin on 14 Mar 2013, 15:09

People assume I am anorexic. this is particularly annoying hwn they say things like "you should eat more" or, even worse, the ever popular "need a cheeseburger" comment.  First of all, I am a vegetarian so , no. I do not need a cheeseburger, no one needs a cheeseburger even if they would really like one for some reason.  Second, I eat all the time. I have a ridiculously fast metabolism and I basically have to eat constantly. Gaining any weight at all is difficult and has proven problematic at various points in my life due to being "underweight".


People also assume that since I look somewhat "butch" that I must be into sports, cars, home repair, etc.  Truth is, I hate sports and I can't even change my own oil (ok, I might be able to if I tried, but I never have). 

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: CrowFairy on 14 Mar 2013, 15:37

Oh, yeah, I've been asked if I'm anorexic before. It's been a few years since then. Because my butt .... blossomed, to say the least (even though I'm literally on the fringe of barely in the appropriate weight range). I am also tired of the "need a cheeseburger" thing, especially when it's directed at vegetarians/vegans. I was one for 7.5 years, so I've definitely gotten that remark. It still rubs me the wrong way when it's directed at other people.

Also, this one guy I know seems to think I've slept with almost every male I've ever met. Not quite sure where he got this idea, because it's about as unfounded as they come.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 14 Mar 2013, 16:32

Recently a coworker said to me, "You seem like you should be all... Woman-y." which I eventually decoded to "feminist" and responded, "Well, yeah." and she gave me a really awkward smile followed with, "Yeah. You seem like you'd be all into that sorta stuff. Girl power!"

I don't quite get what they were saying? Also it's been a while so I might be remembering wrong but it's one of those odd exchanges that keeps popping up into my brain.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: CrowFairy on 14 Mar 2013, 17:32

Do you consider yourself feminine? Masculine? If you're not very feminine (not necessarily masculine, even), then you may seem like the sort of person they associate with feminism.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 14 Mar 2013, 17:51

Oh, I'm not feminine at all, at least in terms of conventional "girly" interests. Plus I do regularly have discussions about feminism and various social justice type topics but never in work. I think it was more how she said it, which in fairness was probably just she couldn't get the right words. Right before we were chatting about her media studies idea, which is analysing documentaries and fairy tales. (Side note: Media studies is awesome.)
I think what bothered me is the way she skirted around the word "feminism". Reminds me of the mentality, "I'm all for equality too but not like in a feminist way."

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Loki on 14 Mar 2013, 17:57

If your life was a sitcom, it would turn out what she actually meant was not "feminist", but "lesbian".

This comment does not endorse the usage of sexual orientation for purposes of humor.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 05:16

I honestly thought that was what she meant at first.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Papersatan on 15 Mar 2013, 05:44

If so, the awkward smile could have meant it was an attempt to pull... just a thought :)

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 05:53

Highly doubt it. We're both in long term heterosexual relationships, were even talking about them before hand. That's why I continued trying to figure out what she meant after first thinking of the idea.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: BeoPuppy on 15 Mar 2013, 05:54

Maybe she's just ... curious.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 06:01

Aren't we all a little... curious?  :psyduck:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: sitnspin on 15 Mar 2013, 07:21

Quote from: LoliBot on 14 Mar 2013, 15:37

Also, this one guy I know seems to think I've slept with almost every male I've ever met. Not quite sure where he got this idea, because it's about as unfounded as they come.

In my experience, guys don't need any reason to jump to that conclusion, they will do it entirely on their own.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 15 Mar 2013, 07:22

Yeah I was treated like the class slut when I was in high school... because I wasn't as afraid to discuss sex as everyone else.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Pilchard123 on 15 Mar 2013, 08:13

While still at school, I was once asked if I didn't eat chocolate for any religious reason. The daft thing is, chocolate (and maybe apple pie) is probably the thing I eat most of, aside from actual meals. I just didn't eat much chocolate at school because I kept my lunch in my pockets so I could eat it on the playing field and not get caught (the rule was there to prevent littering) and it would go all melty.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Loki on 15 Mar 2013, 08:15

What cruel religion requires it's followers to not eat chocolate? Also, why did people assume that there must me a religious reason rather than, say, a health issue or a matter of taste? :psyduck:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: RedWolf4 on 15 Mar 2013, 08:19

People assume I'm American. Probably comes from the accent I got off of being raised by a pack of feral backpackers.

And Sesame Street.

Also that I'm stoned alot. I attribute it to the drinking, as the closest I've ever been to a blunt is at best a light contact high.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: sitnspin on 15 Mar 2013, 09:14

Seriously? Religion? For that matter, why would you assume that just because you've never seen someone do a particular thing in your presence that they never do it? If I had never heard a particular person sing, I would not automatically assume they never sing ever.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Papersatan on 15 Mar 2013, 10:17

Mormons can't have caffeine, though I don't think any of the Mormons I knew were strict enough to avoid chocolate. 

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Carl-E on 15 Mar 2013, 10:52

As a mormon I dated once said, "There's caffeine in chocolate?  Who knew! ;)"


Yes, the winking smiley was part of that quote...

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 15 Mar 2013, 15:09

Quote from: nekowafer on 15 Mar 2013, 07:22

Yeah I was treated like the class slut when I was in high school... because I wasn't as afraid to discuss sex as everyone else.

I remember the first time I admitted to my friends that I masturbated on a regular basis. The absolute horror on their faces was hilarious.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 15:24

Quote from: nekowafer on 15 Mar 2013, 07:22

Yeah I was treated like the class slut when I was in high school... because I wasn't as afraid to discuss sex as everyone else.

As was I because I knew the names of some STDs and that you used condoms to be safe.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Pilchard123 on 15 Mar 2013, 15:27

Quote from: Gareth on 15 Mar 2013, 15:09

I remember the first time I admitted to my friends that I masturbated on a regular basis. The absolute horror on their faces was hilarious.

I got pretty much the same reaction when I said that I didn't.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Papersatan on 15 Mar 2013, 15:44

I was a prude in Highschool.  Also I was 'straight'.

It is complicated.

Not, really I guess. 

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 15 Mar 2013, 15:45

This is a good thing, I guess, but people assume I'm not autistic.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Zingoleb on 15 Mar 2013, 16:02

I don't.  :mrgreen:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 15 Mar 2013, 16:36

WELL I GUESS YOU DIDN'T MAKE AN ASS OUT OF YOU AND ME THEN DIDJA

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Zingoleb on 15 Mar 2013, 16:41

no, that's usually your job.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 15 Mar 2013, 16:52

<3

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 17:00

I assume all of you people are amazing.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 15 Mar 2013, 17:16

Yeah but you already know all about my ass.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 15 Mar 2013, 17:19

Who doesn't?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 15 Mar 2013, 17:29

...

...

...

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(http://memeorama.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/ill-allow-it-gif.gif)

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: jwhouk on 15 Mar 2013, 20:26

I'm assuming that all these people who presume that people who aren't American actually are have probably never actually MET an American.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Bluesummers on 15 Mar 2013, 21:06

This here's real Muricah, dadgummit! ...Or so my in-laws would say.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: dr. nervioso on 15 Mar 2013, 21:12

Quote from: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 06:01

Aren't we all a little... curious?  :psyduck:

Now remember, curiosity killed the cat. Which now that I think about it, that phrase now has a much different meaning today...

People assume I'm much more plain and tame than I actually am. I have a very normal exterior, but underneath that there are drag queens and kinkiness galore

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: CrowFairy on 15 Mar 2013, 21:22

See, I rarely discuss sex in any form or fashion with anyone I don't highly trust. I play D&D, so occasionally I'll have a character that flirts a lot and isn't afraid to get naked in front of people, but I can't think of one that was actually promiscuous in any real sense. The person that assumes I sleep with anything that moves also was the DM of a game where I was a freakin' 63-year-old monk. If you tried to judge me solely on the characters I play, you would be very confused. XD And yet, after playing a second flirtatious character, apparently I'm in everybody's pants. -.-

And speaking of autism, I think there were some people who were surprised that I don't have it, because there was this awkward/hilarious stunned silence when my friend said I was the only person in the room (out of 6 people) that didn't have it. XD

And speaking of international confusion, I got asked by an idiot in sixth grade if I was Chinese. Still trying to figure that one out. My eyes are huge.

And Welu, I assume the same. :-D

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: BeoPuppy on 16 Mar 2013, 10:44

Quote from: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 17:00

I assume all of you people are amazing.

... I'm not.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: de_la_Nae on 16 Mar 2013, 10:59

Quote from: Loki on 15 Mar 2013, 08:15

What cruel religion requires it's followers to not eat chocolate?

Nugginism.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Carl-E on 16 Mar 2013, 19:15

Quote from: BeoPuppy on 16 Mar 2013, 10:44

Quote from: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 17:00

I assume all of you people are amazing.

... I'm not.

Yes you are.  And it's amazing how well you hide it! 

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Loki on 17 Mar 2013, 05:21

Quote from: de_la_Nae on 16 Mar 2013, 10:59

Quote from: Loki on 15 Mar 2013, 08:15

What cruel religion requires it's followers to not eat chocolate?

Nugginism.

 :-D I thought that was only if it's blue and/or contains babies.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Patrick on 17 Mar 2013, 16:08

I think the only time I discuss sex in anything but a juvenile manner is here, and you can probably guess that it doesn't happen much.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 17 Mar 2013, 16:51

Me and Pat's conversations are 50% guitars, 49% women and 1% feels

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Blue Kitty on 17 Mar 2013, 20:51

You know, I have absolutely no idea what people assume about me. Either I never ask or they never tell me.

I guess list some out for me?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Zingoleb on 17 Mar 2013, 21:19

People assume they know my gender a lot.

They're wrong.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Emoroffle on 18 Mar 2013, 00:58

First: Despite being almost thirty people still assume I'm a teenager, I have to admit I do look like I'm in my teens. I suppose the gothic lolita fashions I wear don't help much either.

Second: That I'm boring as I tend to speak calmly and in monotone most of the time. I write crazier than I act, but I have been known to break into song and dance numbers in the middle of the mall. I'm also an amateur (read: weekend) racer. Racetracks only people, I'm not one of those jerks with a noisy civic who zooms by on public streets. I drive a 1988 RX-7.

Third: Because of my hispanic heritage and the area I live in people tend to assume I don't speak English. Which is funny when one considers I usually speak better English than most of the ones doing the assuming.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: catflea on 18 Mar 2013, 07:24

Quote from: Unicorn on 17 Mar 2013, 21:19

People assume they know my gender a lot.

They're wrong.

People assume gender is a binary thing...

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: KingOfIreland on 18 Mar 2013, 07:34

WAIT. What? Stop the presses!

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Carl-E on 18 Mar 2013, 10:32

You've not been following for a little while, have you? 

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Patrick on 18 Mar 2013, 11:23

Quote from: Emoroffle on 18 Mar 2013, 00:58

I suppose the gothic lolita fashions I wear don't help much either.

I require more information.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 18 Mar 2013, 11:24

Same.

I kind of want to do a goth lolita look but people already think I look so young...

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: KingOfIreland on 18 Mar 2013, 11:51

Quote from: Carl-E on 18 Mar 2013, 10:32

You've not been following for a little while, have you?

I was actually alluding to it being entirely obvious from these forums :p

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: catflea on 18 Mar 2013, 12:40

Interestingly,  I just found this posted on the BBC news website

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-21788238

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: K1dmor on 18 Mar 2013, 13:35

Quote from: Patrick on 18 Mar 2013, 11:23

Quote from: Emoroffle on 18 Mar 2013, 00:58

I suppose the gothic lolita fashions I wear don't help much either.

I require more information.

 Seconded.
 Pics or It Didn't Happen.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: pwhodges on 18 Mar 2013, 14:54

Quote from: catflea on 18 Mar 2013, 12:40

Interestingly,  I just found this posted on the BBC news website

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-21788238

I heard just the end of this program, by chance, and have commented on it in the Discuss! forum.  In short, what I heard was excellent.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: jwhouk on 18 Mar 2013, 18:47

People assume I have way too much time on my hands.

And they also assume I like hockey a bit too much.

One may be true, the other may be an overstatement.

(Right now, I'm not sure which is which.)

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Emoroffle on 18 Mar 2013, 19:23

Quote from: K1dmor on 18 Mar 2013, 13:35

Quote from: Patrick on 18 Mar 2013, 11:23

Quote from: Emoroffle on 18 Mar 2013, 00:58

I suppose the gothic lolita fashions I wear don't help much either.

I require more information.

 Seconded.
 Pics or It Didn't Happen.

Ok pics it will be, though I have no clue where I can get hold of a camera. Maybe once I'm back in civilization in a few months.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Asterus on 18 Mar 2013, 20:27

Quote from: Blue Kitty on 17 Mar 2013, 20:51

You know, I have absolutely no idea what people assume about me. Either I never ask or they never tell me.

I guess list some out for me?

I'm sorry. We just assumed you knew what we assumed. About you.
...
I'm confused now  :psyduck:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Carl-E on 19 Mar 2013, 00:07

Quote from: KingOfIreland on 18 Mar 2013, 11:51

Quote from: Carl-E on 18 Mar 2013, 10:32

You've not been following for a little while, have you?

I was actually alluding to it being entirely obvious from these forums :p

Sorry, missed the irony thing. 

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 19 Mar 2013, 12:04

Quote from: Emoroffle on 18 Mar 2013, 19:23

Ok pics it will be, though I have no clue where I can get hold of a camera. Maybe once I'm back in civilization in a few months.

This post is happening in my imagination, right?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Emoroffle on 19 Mar 2013, 18:15

Quote from: Gareth on 19 Mar 2013, 12:04

Quote from: Emoroffle on 18 Mar 2013, 19:23

Ok pics it will be, though I have no clue where I can get hold of a camera. Maybe once I'm back in civilization in a few months.

This post is happening in my imagination, right?

This entire forum is nothing but a dream, when you wake up don't be surprised to see a person you thought was dead greet you warmly while in the shower.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Zingoleb on 19 Mar 2013, 20:35

g...grandpa?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 20 Mar 2013, 05:21

Waffle?!

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Loki on 20 Mar 2013, 05:27

Spathe Ham?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Welu on 20 Mar 2013, 06:49

"Yeah. Hi. It's great you're alive and all but why are we showering together and can we please not be showering together?"

(I know the reference but that's what the phrasing made me picture.)

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 20 Mar 2013, 12:49

I'm going to wake up and find my marriage in the shower?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: BeoPuppy on 20 Mar 2013, 12:57

... six very grumpy, drenched bunnies?

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Emoroffle on 20 Mar 2013, 14:42

Well some people seem to have quite a loose definition of "person". I do admit I probably could have worded it better. Oh well back to my MRE.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 20 Mar 2013, 14:53

You should be getting back to taking the photos you promised *shakes fist*

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Emoroffle on 20 Mar 2013, 15:15

Quote from: Gareth on 20 Mar 2013, 14:53

You should be getting back to taking the photos you promised *shakes fist*

I did say it would take a few months for me to get back to it didn't I? Also, put away that fist I've had assault rifles pointed at me among other nastier things a fist just makes me giggle.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Carl-E on 20 Mar 2013, 15:18

You haven't seen his fist. 


Or where it's been...






Ew.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 20 Mar 2013, 15:22

It's not even so much seeing it, as smelling it.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: nekowafer on 20 Mar 2013, 15:33

oh god why

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 20 Mar 2013, 15:37

I told you not to smell it.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Zingoleb on 20 Mar 2013, 18:42

and you wonder why people want to lynch you

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Patrick on 02 Jun 2013, 00:08

I considered necroposting just to make a horrible joke

You guys are lucky I'm awesome

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Jace on 02 Jun 2013, 05:05

People assume I listen to stufd like viking metal, which I do, but rhey assumed it was solely that sort of music so to prove them wronf I dropped some Dempafumi Inc on them.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 02 Jun 2013, 11:44

Quote from: Emoroffle on 20 Mar 2013, 15:15

Quote from: Gareth on 20 Mar 2013, 14:53

You should be getting back to taking the photos you promised *shakes fist*

I did say it would take a few months for me to get back to it didn't I? Also, put away that fist I've had assault rifles pointed at me among other nastier things a fist just makes me giggle.

It's been a few months  :mrgreen:

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Jace on 03 Jun 2013, 14:18

Trex don't make that post any less creepy

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Thrillho on 03 Jun 2013, 14:33

You do have a point there.

Assumptions people make: That I am actually as creepy as I am seem; that I have slept with many more people than I have.

Title: Re: Things People Assume About You
Post by: Patrick on 03 Jun 2013, 18:27

That I am an easy mark for swindling because I'm young, not college-educated and don't look like a yuppie.