I dated a guy once for half a year only to find out from his ex-girlfriend that he had herpes. I was SCARED SHITLESS. I've gotten tested twice since then, just to make sure, and luckily have managed to keep clean! But this is after half a YEAR of lots of unprotected (minus bc, buit what's that gonna do?) sex. Obviously, we broke up after that, and I've been told that if I wanted to I could have pressed charges for him not telling me, but I'm not sure if this is true. Bottom line? Well, I guess there are a couple:
1. People are NOT as honest as they should be about this stuff. Be careful.
2. It IS possible to have quite a bit of sex with an infected person and end up safe if they're not broken out, although I still would NOT recommend it unless you're really commited.
3. Don't date douchebags. Unfortunately, there's only so much we can do about that.