Masterbainter, if you want to discuss some of these points, please remove the logical fallacies and try again.
Shawn, we agree on most of this material, but I take some difference with one point: "[women] don't have all insecurities and hang-ups that men do." Actually, women have their own sets of insecurities and hang-ups. Also, there are more differences among individual people than between the sexes. As I mentioned, my own comfortable friendships in that age range tended to be about 2:1 in favor of women (vive la difference!), and we swapped a lot of good information about inner thoughts, dating, and responses to the desired sex. In all that, the main thing I learned is that women are worried about a lot of the same general things, but in different ways and with different priorities -- much as with the differences among my guy friends, although the culturally-driven worries were basically the stereotypes: waiting for the guy to ask you out, how to respond, how to get him to ask you out, and so on. Most of it was tied up with self-image, self-worth, pride, and that burden of image definition.
Don't think that women don't have their own hang-ups; they might tend to be more overt than covert, or hidden from what you and I would normally see, but the hang-ups are likely there. I spent three years on a telephone counseling line, which is where I got into a lot of this stuff -- with my colleagues, more so than the callers.
Of course, you may have a circle of friends who are particularly well-adjusted compared to their peers; a few of my colleagues fell into that category. If so, good for you; hold onto them. Perhaps my greatest asset during college was that no matter what problem I had, I always had someone to whom I could turn for an empathetic ear, support, and a good kick in the ego, as needed. Two of them died far too soon (one of them in the comics industry), but I remember them all.